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Not sure how I feel about this, but in a very busy bar, and a stranger came over to me and my wife and said “your round”. It went over my wife’s head, and I made a joke of saying “I just got the drinks in”, but it was clear the reference was my wife’s figure.

Not sure how I feel about this, but in a very busy bar, and a stranger came over to me and my wife and said “your round”. It went over my wife’s head, and I made a joke of saying “I just got the drinks in”, but it was clear the reference was my wife’s figure.

Just been to the supermarket. A cute couple around 30 years checking out in front of me. He was slim, athletic even. She was 5ft2, very pretty face around 300lb. Curves everywhere , big belly and lots of side rolls visable through her clingy dress. The shop was all junk food. Pizzas , ice cream, cakes. It just screamed “this food is all for fattening this girl up”. She was very sexy, and I’m sure he caught me looking. I just thought …. “I know your game pal”. 

My wife isn’t gaining, would prefer to slim a little.  It’s 20 deg c today, first warm day of the year . My wife “I’m so hot, yes there anything cool in the fridge?” Me: “loads”
 my wife goes to the fridge “can I have this sausage roll?”
 🤷🏻‍♂️

My wife isn’t gaining, would prefer to slim a little.  It’s 20 deg c today, first warm day of the year . My wife “I’m so hot, yes there anything cool in the fridge?” Me: “loads”
 my wife goes to the fridge “can I have this sausage roll?”
 🤷🏻‍♂️

My wife isn’t gaining, would prefer to slim a little.  It’s 20 deg c today, first warm day of the year . My wife “I’m so hot, yes there anything cool in the fridge?” Me: “loads”
 my wife goes to the fridge “can I have this sausage roll?”
 🤷🏻‍♂️

My wife isn’t gaining, would prefer to slim a little.  It’s 20 deg c today, first warm day of the year . My wife “I’m so hot, yes there anything cool in the fridge?” Me: “loads”
 my wife goes to the fridge “can I have this sausage roll?”
 🤷🏻‍♂️

Looking for advice as I’ve reached a crossroads and I’m not sure where to turn.
I [25M] have a wonderful girlfriend. We butt heads sometimes but she loves me and I love her. She’s a bit on the thicker side (36 BMI.. okay, maybe she’s fat)
I’ve never told her about this fetish. She knows I like her belly and like that she’s thick. But she doesn’t want to be fat and honestly, I don’t want her to be either.
 
I’ve tried quitting this fetish many times. Tried to stop watching porn altogether. I’m still working at that. But I feel I’ve poisoned my brain with it. It’s the only secret I’ve kept from my girlfriend.
I know she would do just about anything for me and that’s great. But not this. I’m feel like I’m constantly at war with this fetish because while it turns me on like nothing else sexually, I struggle to convince myself that feedism is healthy. I feel like I’m grasping for straws or denying reality for the sake of pleasure. 
 
she’s gained about 15 pounds since meeting me unintentionally, maybe more. Lately, I’ve noticed her getting out of breath just from doing little things. 
 
She’s been working to lose weight and I’m supportive. I’d be supportive no matter what. But I don’t know what to do about this feedism thing in me. I don’t know how to have a healthy relationship with it. I’m so conflicted all the time about it that it’s become a source of depression truthfully. 
 
Much of this was venting, but I’m just hoping someone here might have some thoughts that may help

last sunday i was having dinner with the lady, it was a nice dinner. plenty of food, a couple of drinks. after paying we walked to the car, it was a short walk with a small steep but when we got to the car she was completely out of breath. immediately after she sat down she unbuttoned her jeans and let her belly expand freely. so hot, and a bit worrying to be honest. it was far from a reason to be out of breath. out of shape definitely. or probably just carrying around the limit of what is recommended for her 5'1 frame

Just been to the supermarket. A cute couple around 30 years checking out in front of me. He was slim, athletic even. She was 5ft2, very pretty face around 300lb. Curves everywhere , big belly and lots of side rolls visable through her clingy dress. The shop was all junk food. Pizzas , ice cream, cakes. It just screamed “this food is all for fattening this girl up”. She was very sexy, and I’m sure he caught me looking. I just thought …. “I know your game pal”. 

Just been to the supermarket. A cute couple around 30 years checking out in front of me. He was slim, athletic even. She was 5ft2, very pretty face around 300lb. Curves everywhere , big belly and lots of side rolls visable through her clingy dress. The shop was all junk food. Pizzas , ice cream, cakes. It just screamed “this food is all for fattening this girl up”. She was very sexy, and I’m sure he caught me looking. I just thought …. “I know your game pal”. 

Im sry but dude reactions exist for a reason

Just been to the supermarket. A cute couple around 30 years checking out in front of me. He was slim, athletic even. She was 5ft2, very pretty face around 300lb. Curves everywhere , big belly and lots of side rolls visable through her clingy dress. The shop was all junk food. Pizzas , ice cream, cakes. It just screamed “this food is all for fattening this girl up”. She was very sexy, and I’m sure he caught me looking. I just thought …. “I know your game pal”. 

Just been to the supermarket. A cute couple around 30 years checking out in front of me. He was slim, athletic even. She was 5ft2, very pretty face around 300lb. Curves everywhere , big belly and lots of side rolls visable through her clingy dress. The shop was all junk food. Pizzas , ice cream, cakes. It just screamed “this food is all for fattening this girl up”. She was very sexy, and I’m sure he caught me looking. I just thought …. “I know your game pal”. 

Just been to the supermarket. A cute couple around 30 years checking out in front of me. He was slim, athletic even. She was 5ft2, very pretty face around 300lb. Curves everywhere , big belly and lots of side rolls visable through her clingy dress. The shop was all junk food. Pizzas , ice cream, cakes. It just screamed “this food is all for fattening this girl up”. She was very sexy, and I’m sure he caught me looking. I just thought …. “I know your game pal”. 

Just been to the supermarket. A cute couple around 30 years checking out in front of me. He was slim, athletic even. She was 5ft2, very pretty face around 300lb. Curves everywhere , big belly and lots of side rolls visable through her clingy dress. The shop was all junk food. Pizzas , ice cream, cakes. It just screamed “this food is all for fattening this girl up”. She was very sexy, and I’m sure he caught me looking. I just thought …. “I know your game pal”. 

Just been to the supermarket. A cute couple around 30 years checking out in front of me. He was slim, athletic even. She was 5ft2, very pretty face around 300lb. Curves everywhere , big belly and lots of side rolls visable through her clingy dress. The shop was all junk food. Pizzas , ice cream, cakes. It just screamed “this food is all for fattening this girl up”. She was very sexy, and I’m sure he caught me looking. I just thought …. “I know your game pal”. 

Sometimes we talk in terms of years, specially when we are old. I am not even forty but now I have the right to speak in decades when talking about memories and about years as if they were so many to count… and at the same time, a year is not something that goes by quickly. You can move down and up a bit to the sides and end up about in the same but with plenty of learning and experiences and yes, one year older as well. The first year with our newborn was probably something like that. My wife’s weight did not change much but it was a very busy year.
The good news is that the pregnancy weight became a permanent fix thus creating a new baseline which is the best scenario for a pregnancy, no weight loss happened, even do there were a couple of efforts but sometimes those kind of changes bring a new perspective about how we and them look at life and the best conclusion is to say well yes I am a mom now and I am supposed to be a bit bigger so we can continue with our life. Except it wasn’t nearly as smooth.
First came a period of depression, I of course, do not understand it, you just have a new baby, you are supposed to be happy but post partum depression is a thing and it happens and it happened and it is very difficult to deal with because the meme is no joke, you are not a genius by saying to the emotionally drained new mom to be ok, so that created a couple of very trying months that pretty much put everything else in second place. Looking back I think she will agree that it was just dumb but when emotions run high they tend to run in unintended directions.
On the positive, it is one thing to enjoy eating, it is another to look and feel a bit heavier and it is another, a different level, to not fit into clothes and going out to buy bigger clothes. Shelving the former thinner self in a time vault from where it is not likely to be ever seen again. That is the holy grail for an fa, when a new baseline is established and everything that it implies. No longer under 60, now it was no longer under 70kg and with that, at 72kg she was with a bmi of over 30, officially obese. On that front I was delighted, hoping for more yes, but also, not really pushing.
Pushing for weight gain in a long term relationship can only end bad. If the is against it, conflict will arise and you will likely push her into a dark corner for us… attacking you of endless things. Not wanting her to be healthy, focusing only on her looks, using her, not looking at what is really important and while she is at it you can surely be accused of being a weirdo and totally crazy, she will possibly say that you want her ugly so no one else looks at her. So, nothing good.
On the other side, if she agrees, at least at the beginning, or cooperates in a submissive way but without really being into it personally then… you will create a dangerous cycle in which you will inevitably demand more with time. Generating a delayed and furious response or simply creating a very unbalanced relationship  that probably wont fulfil you over the long term. Nature says that, the submissive relationship will extend to other areas and it is usually not sustainable especially when stuff gets real. So a positive response to I want you to gain because I say so, eat this and have this, have another slice, have some more ice cream can be super exciting in the short term and basically the dream to every FA in the mid and long term it will create plenty of problems.
This time around I was patient enough not to push, not to demand nothing, just to be supportive, stay close and yes, tell her that you like her, that you wouldn’t change a thing, that the weight is not important and living and enjoying life at full speed. Which was the correct approach because things were about to get a bit fast and furious.

Today it was my first time being too fat out in public! We went to a concert and the seats were soo tiny😳 We sat ever so gently down due to fear we may make the whole row of seats come down! Once we were sat we realised these seats definitely weren't designed for people our size... we sat trying not to put all our weight down but of course it was inevitable and when we finally relaxed and let all our weight down the seats beneath us let out a massive groan (maybe as a call for help🤣) for everyone to hear and everyone turned seeing the two fatties squished in their seats, their fat spilling out onto each other and their obvious discomfort trying not to let their fat flow onto those next them too! Although the seats were not comfortable they were so worth the thrill of knowing you have grown far too big for this world!😍

I bloody love problems like this hehe 🥵😍🤣
We went looking at new cars recently and there were loads with 'sporty' seats that she literally wouldn't fit into...I had an amazing day 🥵🍑😉

@goddessblairk I love daft little stories like this- thanks for sharing 🥰
I've got one for you...My partner is my little pudding - about 5'1 and is around 240lb. She's put on quite a bit of weight in the last few months and her bum has got really big...
So much so I've had to lower her seat in the car because she's sitting higher and kept bumping her head getting in and out hehe 😁

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Second that plusa nice smokers cough!

The family Christmas table yesterday. Set for 16 people, with a miss match of chairs brought in from everywhere.
At my wifes place, was a plastic garden furniture chair. It was obvious she'd neither fit in her seat, and she'd be concerned it wouldnt hold her.
She asked if she could swap it with her 7 year old nephew in the next seat .
Nephew: "Why?"
My Wife "I'm a bit big for this plastic seat"
Nephew: "ok."
My Wife "Thanks"
Nephew "You're really fat"
Wife: [embarassed] "it keeps me warm"
Nephew actually patted her belly rolls.
I had belly play envy

Girls addicted to cigarette smoking