DreamingBoy

Yes - absolutely! ❤️

Wonderful to have you back, and so glad to hear you’re feeling better! Long COVID sounds horrible, and has affected many a pretty fatty (plus many skinny medical staff), but thankfully now you’ve come through it to the other side! Completely understand you wanting to be more cautious with your gaining this time round. I’m just happy that you’re not completely denying your feedee side (which from what I know, can make people very unhappy). Regulation always better than prohibition lol! Welcome back 🙂

Thanks for going into all that. I’m guessing it may not have been the easiest thing to do. It’s good for everyone on here - perhaps some more than others lol - to see an example of a real relationship, including weight gain, that has run its course. Showing how the gain fits into (& is an extension of) individual personalities and relationship dynamics, rather than being this separate, slightly-fantastical thing. It’s easy to lose sight of the fact that all the worries and desires people have around gaining, which are constantly being discussed on here for obvious reasons, are only ever a part of all the other worries and desires that come with a relationship! Hats off to you 👍

i dont think shes happy with her chub, just happy in general I kind of meant happy even with her chub, but thanks for clarifying. Good that her friends are reassuring her about her attractiveness, rather than tearing her down. 🙂

Love how happy she seems here with her new chubbiness - she's still confident and positive and still seems to be one of the popular girls!

Going to make a pass at her while you’re in town? She sounds incredibly hot! 😍 And the before-after aspect must just make it even better lol.

Are two of her backing dancers tucking her back in, in the 3rd & 4th photos from the bottom?!

Well a lot could happen in a month... 🤞

How long is she there for? 😉

Ah, sorry I forgot about you saying your ideal weight in a partner was 85-90kg-ish. Though you do adore the new double belly rolls that have come with Heather’s current weight don’t you? Thanks for clearing that up about gaining’s place in your relationship, I think I have a much better understanding now. So you like doing lots of fatty play together, including having her trying on her old clothes that don’t fit anymore to show off her new fatter self, there is no focus on her gaining more weight now? She isn’t gaining because you’re excited by it, or because she is - she just loves eating too much to stop! Have I got that right now? Maybe it’s more your unconditional acceptance of her body, whatever it does, that’s the real fuel for her fire! Your relationship sounds like it’s become very close now, and I think that kind of non-negotiable love is very sweet and, well, good. Something we would all be lucky to find. I have to say though, I also have my doubts she will be able to stop gaining now. Unless you really pressured her over her weight - which I don’t think for a moment you would ever do - I think she’ll sail right past 22 stone with only half-hearted attempts to really stop herself. You’ve banished all the emotional downsides with your love & acceptance of her, and it sounds like without her old insecurities (and perhaps some harsh pressuring from her parents) she’s got virtually no willpower of her own to control her eating. You’ve maybe succeeded too well lol - she’s too happy to change anything in her behaviour! Unless she has a health scare, I think it’s very likely she will be considerably over the weight she’s said she never wants to exceed by the end of this year. Hopefully you can both make that unwanted milestone work, and not lose the happiness and contentment you have built together. Your romance is one of the sweetest and gentlest (and yes, hottest 😍) that I’ve ever read on this site, and I’m very grateful for those parts that you have chosen to share with us. We should all be so lucky! I hope your love lasts for ever! ❤️

Hehe, yes you’re a plump little group now aren’t you? 😆 But I mean, you didn’t let slip you liked getting fatter in front of them before you opened up in your relationship with Heather right? I’m guessing the other three have worked it out by now! 😉 Well, maybe just ‘overeating’ compared to a normal person! 12 slices of pizza would definitely count in most people’s eyes lol. Perhaps being around Heather’s appetite has made eating what others would see as excessive amounts seem normal to you as well as Charlotte? I mean, are we just talking one burger each when the five of you get lunch together? That would be a typical portion lol. Obviously she’s your friend so you probably know better than me, but I genuinely think that even just eating more around you guys demonstrates some sort of positive change? Even if, as you suspect, she doesn’t like her size, just feeling like she’s now less likely to be judged will help her feel better about herself and her choice to indulge her appetite - acceptance by your peers really is very powerful stuff psychologically. It may take a while, but if you can subtly reassure her and reinforce the idea of her behaviour being ok, she will internalise your acceptance over time. And, hopefully, come to see the result of her appetite - her now much-fatter body - as acceptable too. And then, even later, become more open about acknowledging her size in front of her friends, rather than continue to be so cagey about it. Peer acceptance is not as powerful as that by a lover, so you won’t be able to actively turn her around like you did with Heather. But you can still be a positive influence on your friend. Well done with your gf btw - she seems like a budding feedee now! Have you ever wondered if there’s some maximum weight you’d prefer her to stay below, whether for health, or physical desire or mobility etc? Has she ever pondered out loud if she would ever want to try to stop at some point, now that you’ve helped her break out of her obsession with being skinny and embrace gaining? I can’t imagine that’s much fun to think about when everything is so lovely between you, but she’s expanding so fast now she could hit 300, even 400lbs sooner than you expect!

I think that counts! It definitely suggests a lessening of shame around overeating if she’s happy to do it in public now - and that sounds like it was a noticeable difference from how she used to behave? I doubt it’s a coincidence, though it may be more to do with seeing your girlfriend’s actual behaviour (and maybe yours too) than Heather’s new size. But maybe? If Heather is openly & constantly stuffing her face and staying happy as her weight explodes, and if you are doing the same thing as Heather to a lesser degree, than that’s two of Charlotte’s close friends showing her that it’s ok to overeat in front of them, and even to be happy getting fatter (though obviously she doesn’t know just HOW happy 😉). And friends’ opinions count for a lot. She is much more likely to feel that it’s acceptable to eat all she wants in the open now, and no longer hide it away. I mean think of your old conversations about weight together: Heather thought that being the skinniest one in the group was something to boast about, Meghan (I think?) constantly attempted diets (if not for very long!) and you pretended to want to lose weight to get closer to Heather. (Were you quiet on the subject of your weight before you began your little plan, like Charlotte was?) But now the balance has shifted: two of her friends are now happy fatties, and only one still (presumably?) wants to lose weight and get skinny. I’m assuming you meant Charlotte is happy to stuff her face in front of all five of you, not just you and Heather - is that right? So if Charlotte didn’t want to diet and lose weight in the first place - and from what you’ve said it sounds like she never said that she did & just kept silent when weight loss was discussed among her friends - she is now in an emotional environment where she no longer feels the need to obscure this fact from you guys. If so, it’s nice that she now feels able to be her true self more around her friends. 🙂 Likely she always ate that much - just not in front of you guys. That doesn’t mean she is ‘excited’ by gaining like you are. And Heather too now by the sounds of things - is that correct? 🥵 But maybe Charlotte is now comfortable with you seeing that she just doesn’t give a crap if she’s fat, or getting fatter. (You said you think she’s gaining very slowly right?) Perhaps you can tease out her true feelings about her size if you manage to tease out her weight? Personally I think it’s very likely you can be proud of helping her be more open around you! 🙂❤️

Whoops, missed out a line before - totally makes sense now. Weekly weigh-ins, did you ever think you’d see the day?!