oatmeal Posted March 6, 2019 Author Share Posted March 6, 2019 Wife went to get her wedding rings resized today. She hasn't been able to wear them in a while as she has gained 50 pounds since our wedding day. Nothing says "I'll never be skinny again" like having jewelry resized to fit your chubby fingers. Hopefully this is just another step in establishing this weight as her floor weight. ronnie17de, NikeLove1986, Deoxyribo9 and 2 others 2 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allgrownup Posted March 6, 2019 Share Posted March 6, 2019 Quote If mentally she is focused on maintaining her size instead of losing then that makes my job easier and hopefully makes her happier. Once she is used to this size five or ten more pounds won,'t seem like that big of a deal. Goal is still 200 but eventually i would like to get her to 225 so that she is over 50% body fat. Not in a rush though as she is lovely at this size and i want her to adjust to this size and be happy. Good strategy. I'm very happy where mine is at too, and know that while she can go down a bit, she's not going to lose that big round belly any time soon. It makes for a more relax time. For her, just the perception that she is eating "healthier" makes her feel better, and I'm happy for her with that. ronnie17de and oatmeal 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oatmeal Posted March 6, 2019 Author Share Posted March 6, 2019 Fyi her ring size went up by a size and a half. allgrownup and NikeLove1986 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TaterTot Posted March 8, 2019 Share Posted March 8, 2019 I have been following this thread with interest, and I have enjoyed what you all have posted. My wife was once a Crossfitter, and I am slowly convincing her to indulge her eating habits. It's going to take time, but we have all the time in the world. allgrownup and ronnie17de 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oatmeal Posted March 8, 2019 Author Share Posted March 8, 2019 @TaterTot glad you have enjoyed my thread. I sure enjoy talking about it. Yeah as the Rolling Stones say "time is on my side, yes it is". My wife was on the dance team in high school but hasnt really done much working out since. Certainly not up for crossfit, thankfully. Since your wife is more involved in fitness she should have a strong base to add some flab to. ronnie17de 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigmoobedguy Posted March 10, 2019 Share Posted March 10, 2019 Nice to read those honest story's. I feel like I had to write one about my wife, too. I just wish she will embrace her body. Or shift to fat positiv. Now she is at about her heaviest ever or even higher. She does not tell me numbers but I know she's over 220 for a while and is gaining so I would gues 240-250. I don't think she need to gain anymore. I just would like to see her comfortable . I would immediately chose her to be confident with her body in exchange for 20 pound ronnie17de, NikeLove1986, allgrownup and 2 others 3 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oatmeal Posted March 11, 2019 Author Share Posted March 11, 2019 Yeah i wish my wife had more confidence too. Not asking for bikini selfies on IG just owning the body she is in more. Oddly i think my kids are helping with this. My boy likes to play with her belly and squeeze her fat. She used to protest but now seems more comfortable with her body. ronnie17de 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allgrownup Posted March 11, 2019 Share Posted March 11, 2019 Mine is almost/sometimes getting there. She'll say "I wish I could see myself through your eyes", or "as long as you find my beautiful". But it's also the first time she's gaining and seeming resigned to it. Not liking it, the way a bolding man might not like it, but accepting it. @bigmoobedguy comment of the century. I would trade 20 lbs too for her to just love it. Then again, then I'd want her love it and grow it NikeLove1986 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest MX8XV93 Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 On 3/11/2019 at 5:18 PM, allgrownup said: She'll say "I wish I could see myself through your eyes" Are you any good at drawing? A sexy drawing of her (with the parts of her body that you most like emphasized just a little bit) seems like the perfect surprise present to me... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allgrownup Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 I can draw the way cavemen do :D Very sweet idea though. NikeLove1986 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TaterTot Posted March 16, 2019 Share Posted March 16, 2019 We had our second child about two months ago. While she had been taking care of the baby and I was off on family leave, I had been cooking for her, and I spoil her with breakfast every morning. I have found several dinners that she loves that are high in calories. I finally got her to buy pants in a larger size, and have been giving her lots of positive reinforcement, but she complains about her weight. I can generally get her to eat most things that I cook, but she won't eat ice cream as of late. I had made two cakes and she had eaten nearly the entire cake herself. Recently, she told me not to bake her anymore cake. I'm trying to find an excuse to bake another cake. allgrownup, ronnie17de and empee 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
empee Posted March 16, 2019 Share Posted March 16, 2019 We had our second child about two months ago. While she had been taking care of the baby and I was off on family leave, I had been cooking for her, and I spoil her with breakfast every morning. I have found several dinners that she loves that are high in calories. I finally got her to buy pants in a larger size, and have been giving her lots of positive reinforcement, but she complains about her weight. I can generally get her to eat most things that I cook, but she won't eat ice cream as of late. I had made two cakes and she had eaten nearly the entire cake herself. Recently, she told me not to bake her anymore cake. I'm trying to find an excuse to bake another cake.I just keep baking, ignoring my wife’s comments. Because I know she just can’t resist. TaterTot and allgrownup 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oatmeal Posted March 18, 2019 Author Share Posted March 18, 2019 @TaterTot my go to excuse after baby is that you need extra calories to make milk. Breast feeding burns like 500 calories a day so i was always encouraging her to eat to help with milk supply. Pregnancy does a lot to your hormones and in my experiance the baby weight sticks around more after the second baby. TaterTot 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TaterTot Posted March 22, 2019 Share Posted March 22, 2019 Came home and made blueberry/raspberry muffins. Also convinced her to have a homemade milkshake.with her burger and tater tots. Burger had two hash brown patties, a whole avocado, 2 slices of muenster, and a fried egg on sourdough with butter and garlic. Slow small victories. allgrownup, NikeLove1986 and docroxxo 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TaterTot Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 Empee, apparently you are right! I baked a cake, and she protested, saying "I told you not to bake me anymore cakes!" However, about 20 minutes later, she was asking me why I hadn't frosted it yet, and had herself a piece. I will keep baking! NikeLove1986, empee and allgrownup 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
empee Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 Empee, apparently you are right! I baked a cake, and she protested, saying "I told you not to bake me anymore cakes!" However, about 20 minutes later, she was asking me why I hadn't frosted it yet, and had herself a piece. I will keep baking!Great! Right now I’m baking chocolate chip cookies. Always in large batches so it doesn’t show that the stack shrinks when she’s munching it down. TaterTot, NikeLove1986 and allgrownup 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oatmeal Posted March 25, 2019 Author Share Posted March 25, 2019 If you cook it.... she will eat. My wife has been sick for a week. Not eatting and just feeling aweful. Im sure by the time she is better she will have lost a few but ill be happy just for her to get well. TaterTot, NikeLove1986 and ronnie17de 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oatmeal Posted March 29, 2019 Author Share Posted March 29, 2019 Sad news. Wife has lost five pounds and is still sick. I'm not sure how much of it is real weight loss / fat burned, but it still disapoints me. The Fitbit scale says that she has only lost a pound of body fat but idk how accurate it is. I mean i know she hasnt burned enough calories to lose that much weight in a week, especially since she has been sitting or sleeping almost thr whole time, but her appetite has been terrible. I'm trying to stay positive and focus on getting her well but seeing the daily decline hurts. I feel like she is wasting away before my eyes. ronnie17de and NikeLove1986 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NikeLove1986 Posted March 29, 2019 Share Posted March 29, 2019 Hopefully she gets better soon for ya oatmeal 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allgrownup Posted March 29, 2019 Share Posted March 29, 2019 No worries, almost everything lost in the first 2 weeks is water weight. That's why diets can claim they work because anything you do when you limit intake gets you 5-10 lbs water loss in 1-2 weeks. It'll come back in no time. dania201 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oatmeal Posted March 29, 2019 Author Share Posted March 29, 2019 Fingers crossed🤞 Yeah best case senario would be that its water weight and not eating will mess her metabolism up for a little while afterwards. However ill just be happy when she feels better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TaterTot Posted March 30, 2019 Share Posted March 30, 2019 Just do whatever you can to take care of her. Look at is as building trust that you can use later. Feeling supported, and that you are taking care of her will get you closer to getting what you want. I find that what works for me the most is pampering her. "You're sick? I'll take care of you." "Don't get up, let me get that." "Can I get you something while I'm up?" oatmeal, allgrownup and dania201 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fletcher Posted April 8, 2019 Share Posted April 8, 2019 In my wife's case, she barely gained during pregnancy... was sick the entire time. She wore her old regular clothes home from the hospital with the baby... but then it started after that. She ended up back in a lot of maternity clothes *after* the baby. scissortooth and TaterTot 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oatmeal Posted April 8, 2019 Author Share Posted April 8, 2019 @Fletcher thats super funny. At least she is getting some use out of the maturnity clothes. My wife wears her maturnity stuff alot of the time. The other day she complained about her pants being too tight and leaving red marks on her tummy. They were maturnity slacks. ronnie17de, Bigger_student_body, empee and 2 others 3 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TaterTot Posted April 8, 2019 Share Posted April 8, 2019 Oatmeal, glad you are back! I was getting worried. Wife all better? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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