FatIsLife

Just being in this community, I’ve seen the trope a lot; the feedee eats too much and their stomach gets upset so the feeder rubs the feedee’s belly and it gets better. I hadn’t really tried it myself, though I had asked my partner before but she would never allow me to until more recently and it really did seem to help. So I’m wondering if there’s some sort of scientific explanation for this or if it’s simply placebo or something.

I genuinely don’t know what there is to feel guilty about. She’s finally at a point where she’s accepted she’d rather be fat and happy than skinny and miserable. Given the little context, she may even be enjoying it since you like it. I legitimately don’t see any downsides; most of us dream to be in the position you’re in right now. Like, the only advice I can really offer at this point is maybe ask if she’s truly okay with her weight while reassuring her that you really enjoy it. If she’s truly okay with it, enjoy it, encourage it, be happy about it. If not, then be supportive of her needs, but given what you’ve said, I doubt you’ll need to feel guilty.

I was really into big boobs and big butts, and while I was seeking that, I occasionally found girls that were a bit bigger in other areas and I found I liked that too, maybe more than the slimmer girls with those bigger features. That somehow led me to weight gain videos and my preference kinda grew from there to the point that I pretty much lean exclusively towards preferring SSBBWs.

By just having a lifestyle that tends to encourage weight gain even if she’s not explicitly trying to gain weight. She never exercises, and honestly hardly does much more than move around the house. She eats pretty sporadically, but it’s honestly not uncommon for her to eat two or three meals worth of food in one sitting. She also knows about my preferences, and I think that’s made her hesitant about losing weight and only made her care less if she’s gained. I haven’t quite gotten her to gain on purpose yet (she still has some misgivings about her size), but if she ever does, I know she’ll make it look effortless; she’s already gotten this big without even trying that hard.

If I had to set an end goal for my partner, it’d be a soft 550 lb. It would definitely depend on how she carries it; I’ve seen girls pushing 700 who look phenomenal and girls just over 400 who aren’t the most flatteringly proportioned. My partner is currently around 400 lb but is tall so the way she carries it would make you think she’s smaller so I think at the bare minimum, she could benefit from that extra 150 lb. Maybe her height would mean we could push closer to 600 or even 700 lb but it’s hard to say. Don’t think I’d dare go past 700 though; I think that’s getting dangerously close to immobility territory which I have mixed feelings about.

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Looking for someone to give my attention to, flirt with, encourage, etc. I’m open to the idea of feeding, but I want to make some sort of connection before I entertain the idea. Message me if interested.

Idk, some men just have really unrealistic body preferences. Thick thighs, a big butt, and a slim stomach is really hard to achieve which seems like what he really wants. Maybe you can talk about how if you gain weight, your legs and butt will get bigger which might get him to look past everything else getting bigger.

Pornhub does an annual search trends report and BBW crops up in their top reporting in certain categories (I can’t remember which ones). I’d wager it’s probably more common than you think but definitely far from the norm.

I’m going to go with 5. I think with 20 extra pounds, 1 and/or possibly even 2 end up happening anyway. If it were less or the weight got distributed so she doesn’t go up 2 pant/bra sizes I’d probably go with 1 instead.

While I’ve never had sex with someone 450 lb big, I do know from experience it can be a little bit tricky with larger women. I know certain positions are just entirely impossible if certain parts of the body are too large but there generally is a way. If she’s been intimate with partners in the past, she may even know what works best and it couldn’t hurt to ask.

Definitely past chubby. I’d say BBW. You probably still need to put on 100-150 more lbs to hit the bottom end of the SSBBW scale

The #1 thing I can recommend is communicating these shortcomings to your partner. If she’s comfortable enough with her weight, I’d even bring up that it has to do with her size (while assuring her that you do like her size and it’s more of a logistics thing).

If she’s eating them, I see no problem with just keeping them coming. If at any point she tells you to stop, you should respect it. You should probably at some point (sooner rather than later) let her know about your preferences; you might be surprised how open she is to them and you never know, she might lean into it

All that weight will look so good on you. Just keep it up, and you’ll be all the better for it!

Definitely sucks, but being on the same page about that kind of stuff can be really important. I think him leaving will be a good thing in the long run even if it sucks now.

Step 1, and this may be the hardest one, find a feeder with deep enough pockets to feed you as much as possible. With a fast metabolism, you’re probably going to be having to eat lots of food per day to gain. If it wouldn’t cause conflict, I might even say get multiple feeders just to be safe. Step 2, minimize calories burned while maximizing calories eaten. That’s your gaining basics, right there. If you successfully completed step 1, that feeder should be doing practically everything for you, getting food, taking care of you, etc. If your situation is ideal enough and you can stand to do it, your day could probably be as simple as wake up, go where you’ll be eating all day, eat and do other activities that don’t require getting up, go to bed (and you can probably make it simpler by making your bed the place you eat and do everything). If your lifestyle requires you to do more, just keep in mind, you have to eat more to cancel out the calories burned. As for how much you should eat, I’d look into a weight gain calculator; there’s plenty online that’ll tell you how much you should eat to gain a certain amount of weight in a certain amount of time. Step 3, learn the tricks of the trade. There are a few other niche tricks I’m sure others can tell you about, but the one I know of is do as much eating as you can before bed because your metabolism is slowest when sleeping.

There’s a thread with a bunch of recipes: Happy gaining!

I'm going to burst your bubble and say probably not. My girlfriend is not a feedee and her size is more due to lack of exercise and maybe slightly overeating. She doesn't have that voracious, insatiable appetite some feedees seem to have and even gets full pretty easily despite being around 400 lb.

I guess it depends on what you’re willing to do. You might have to make some sacrifices if you’re being super selective, but if you think the con of a long drive doesn’t outweigh the pros of going for that girl, I say go for it.

I met my plus sized girlfriend on a conventional dating app, but I get the feeling that might be pretty rare, though. Idk how many girls on conventional dating apps would hear “I like BBWs and SSBBWs” and not cut you off, but mine didn’t and (over time, after gaining confidence) has embraced some of the aspects of this fetish that I enjoy.

Sorry if this doesn’t really belong here, but I’m just looking to have friendly conversation with really anyone in the community; don’t care if you’re a feeder, feedee, or just a FA. I just feel like it’s good to chat with people about this fetish online since it’s something most of us don’t really do irl. Or we can just chat about whatever you want, it’s really up to you. About me, I’m in a relationship with what I consider to be an SSBBW on the lower end of the scale. Feel free to ask me about her, but do not expect any pics of her from me (feel free to send pics of your SO if you feel inclined, but do not expect to get any back). I’m also open to answer any other questions regarding me and my fetish. Happy chatting.

I say honesty about all things in a relationship is key to making it strong, and that includes topics you might be less comfortable talking about. I told my girlfriend pretty early on about my fetish, and it has been a great thing in the long run. It was a slow process; she wasn’t all that receptive about it at first, in fact, and she didn’t really let me do anything fetish related for a year and a half before she decided to give it a shot, but we got there in the end (the only other thing I really want her to do is put on more weight, but I don’t think she’s comfortable enough to try doing it intentionally, yet so I stick to letting it happen naturally). It definitely doesn’t hurt to tell her if she’s open enough.

You’re getting some mixed signals. First step, I’d say, is figuring out why she wants to lose weight. If she’s doing it for you, you need to explain how you’d want the exact opposite; she almost seems like she might secretly or unknowingly be into feedism based on the first few paragraphs so it might not take much of a push to get her to drop the weight loss talk. If she’s doing it for herself, you just need to be supportive, but I’d still consider confessing your fetish as it might make her rethink if she really does need to. And if you choose to do nothing, it might not matter like you said; she may just keep eating despite that comment (my girlfriend has made a few comments about losing weight while we’ve been dating, and has never committed to doing so and has gained about 100 lb unintentionally since we met, although she knows my preference for larger women).

Maybe I’m a bit biased, but it seems like it’s more appealing to be “thick” nowadays. Like not skinny, but also not quite to the point where you could call them chubby. Still, I am willing to bet that having a belly is something most men would probably find unattractive; I feel like the idea of thick becoming more popular has more to do with how the areas that are considered conventionally attractive (boobs, butt, hips, thighs) are larger or prominent on thick women and therefore more attractive.