FatIsLife

Just being in this community, I’ve seen the trope a lot; the feedee eats too much and their stomach gets upset so the feeder rubs the feedee’s belly and it gets better. I hadn’t really tried it myself, though I had asked my partner before but she would never allow me to until more recently and it really did seem to help. So I’m wondering if there’s some sort of scientific explanation for this or if it’s simply placebo or something.

I genuinely don’t know what there is to feel guilty about. She’s finally at a point where she’s accepted she’d rather be fat and happy than skinny and miserable. Given the little context, she may even be enjoying it since you like it. I legitimately don’t see any downsides; most of us dream to be in the position you’re in right now. Like, the only advice I can really offer at this point is maybe ask if she’s truly okay with her weight while reassuring her that you really enjoy it. If she’s truly okay with it, enjoy it, encourage it, be happy about it. If not, then be supportive of her needs, but given what you’ve said, I doubt you’ll need to feel guilty.

I was really into big boobs and big butts, and while I was seeking that, I occasionally found girls that were a bit bigger in other areas and I found I liked that too, maybe more than the slimmer girls with those bigger features. That somehow led me to weight gain videos and my preference kinda grew from there to the point that I pretty much lean exclusively towards preferring SSBBWs.

By just having a lifestyle that tends to encourage weight gain even if she’s not explicitly trying to gain weight. She never exercises, and honestly hardly does much more than move around the house. She eats pretty sporadically, but it’s honestly not uncommon for her to eat two or three meals worth of food in one sitting. She also knows about my preferences, and I think that’s made her hesitant about losing weight and only made her care less if she’s gained. I haven’t quite gotten her to gain on purpose yet (she still has some misgivings about her size), but if she ever does, I know she’ll make it look effortless; she’s already gotten this big without even trying that hard.

If I had to set an end goal for my partner, it’d be a soft 550 lb. It would definitely depend on how she carries it; I’ve seen girls pushing 700 who look phenomenal and girls just over 400 who aren’t the most flatteringly proportioned. My partner is currently around 400 lb but is tall so the way she carries it would make you think she’s smaller so I think at the bare minimum, she could benefit from that extra 150 lb. Maybe her height would mean we could push closer to 600 or even 700 lb but it’s hard to say. Don’t think I’d dare go past 700 though; I think that’s getting dangerously close to immobility territory which I have mixed feelings about.

This right here

Looking for someone to give my attention to, flirt with, encourage, etc. I’m open to the idea of feeding, but I want to make some sort of connection before I entertain the idea. Message me if interested.

Idk, some men just have really unrealistic body preferences. Thick thighs, a big butt, and a slim stomach is really hard to achieve which seems like what he really wants. Maybe you can talk about how if you gain weight, your legs and butt will get bigger which might get him to look past everything else getting bigger.

Pornhub does an annual search trends report and BBW crops up in their top reporting in certain categories (I can’t remember which ones). I’d wager it’s probably more common than you think but definitely far from the norm.

I’m going to go with 5. I think with 20 extra pounds, 1 and/or possibly even 2 end up happening anyway. If it were less or the weight got distributed so she doesn’t go up 2 pant/bra sizes I’d probably go with 1 instead.

While I’ve never had sex with someone 450 lb big, I do know from experience it can be a little bit tricky with larger women. I know certain positions are just entirely impossible if certain parts of the body are too large but there generally is a way. If she’s been intimate with partners in the past, she may even know what works best and it couldn’t hurt to ask.

Definitely past chubby. I’d say BBW. You probably still need to put on 100-150 more lbs to hit the bottom end of the SSBBW scale

The #1 thing I can recommend is communicating these shortcomings to your partner. If she’s comfortable enough with her weight, I’d even bring up that it has to do with her size (while assuring her that you do like her size and it’s more of a logistics thing).

If she’s eating them, I see no problem with just keeping them coming. If at any point she tells you to stop, you should respect it. You should probably at some point (sooner rather than later) let her know about your preferences; you might be surprised how open she is to them and you never know, she might lean into it

All that weight will look so good on you. Just keep it up, and you’ll be all the better for it!