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Do you want to feed them? Or do you want them to feed you? There are different approaches you can take depending on that relationship. If you identify as a feedee, I doubt your partner would judge you at all. They are already open to kinks, and they clearly already find you attractive. And you’re not asking them to change anything about themselves. You can just say “I think it’s really hot when you touch my belly” or “I really like the idea of food play, eating is actually really erotic to me.” Things like that are really easy for folks outside this kink to understand. Start simple and see how they respond, and use it as an icebreaker to talk more about feedism. If you want to feed your partner, the same thing applies. You don’t want them to change, you’re not asking them to become obese for you, and they’re already receptive to kinks in general. I’ve had a lot of success just saying “You know, I actually find bellies really attractive” or “I love sharing food with you, it’s kind of a love language for me.” Keep it simple and relatable and I’m sure they’ll understand, and then use that as a jumping off point to share more.

Sexual compatibility is only one part of a relationship, but it's an important one. Can you be happy being with someone if you can't indulge your kink? I don't think there's a right answer here, it comes down to knowing yourself and what you need to have a fulfilling relationship. But this is the real red flag to me: Honestly, it sounds like your gf might not be the right match for you. For me, living life, sharing interests, and just being personally close to someone are huge parts of my relationship. It made me realize our connection was more important than just being kinky together. If you're not getting what you need, there's no shame in realizing you need a change. You'll both be happier for it in the long run.

I don’t understand why I have a feeding fetish either. And I’m sure most people would ask me “what’s attractive about making someone fat.” I don’t have an answer to that, other than to say it’s just something that’s a turn on for me. So even though I don’t have a foot or blueberry fetish, I’m in no place to judge why people like them. They probably feel the same way about their kinks as I do about mine. I won’t sugarcoat it, I hate this argument. I hate when people assume fetishes come from neurodivergency or mental disability. It makes it easy for people with “normal” attractions to paint having a fetish as being mentally sick or broken. And it makes it seem like being attracted to something abnormal is the result of having a problem. That it’s *wrong* to like something others don’t.

I think it comes down to connecting with the right person more than anything else. Believe me, I had (still have) all the same concerns you have about sharing this kink with someone. But I've learned that if you have someone that really connects with you, they'll at least be understanding. They might not want to gain, sure. But the right person will care enough to try to make you happy. My partner has all those issues (self-confidence, body image worries, fatphobia), but me telling her about this kink actually helped her with that, rather than hurt her. And I think that's due in large part to her knowing she's loved and supported. Yeah, I was really really anxious about it. I didn't know how to bring it up, but one night we got to talking about our turn-ons and such. I ended up asking if she had any kinks first. That really helped, and she opened up about a few non-vanilla things she liked. That made me more confident to talk about what I liked, since she already felt welcome and comfortable sharing some private stuff. To start, I just told her I had a thing for bellies. She was super open and encouraging about that, and I was able to open up a bit more about gaining and such. Like I said, she was way more supportive than I expected, especially given her history of body-image issues. From there, it was just natural to start incorporating parts of this kink into our sex life. Mind you, it's not all perfect. It's not like she all the sudden became my personal feedee. She's not gaining intentionally, and she still get's anxious about her weight. One night she'll comment on how much bigger she's grown, and the next she'll be sad that she doesn't fit in her jeans. But she wants to be confident in her body, and she loves knowing that I still want her and find her attractive. I guess all that to say, it might never be perfect, but it can be a whole lot better than we expect.

I agree with Danger’s take, they put it perfectly. Coming out with it right away can put someone off, and waiting too long can make you seem untrustworthy. Build a relationship where you can trust and understand each other first, and then open up about your interests. I’ve only told two partners, my ex and my current partner. My ex reacted like you said. She was put off by it all and had no interest in engaging, and we never spoke of it again. It made me never want to introduce people to it again. But later I realized that I was terrible about how I introduced it to her, and I was too young and awkward to realize how to talk about sex and kinks. And she wasn’t the greatest partner either… it was a perfect storm of me being immature, not having a good relationship, and not being good at communicating. It could not have been more opposite when I told my current partner. She was genuinely *excited* about my kink. She said “Wait, I could get fat and you would *like* it? Are you literally perfect?” She was understanding, empathetic and totally willing to try things. I never asked her to gain, but she’s put on some weight regardless out of comfort and happiness. Now she’ll tease me about it, show off her belly, let me feed her, and really everything I’ve ever dreamed of. It completely changed my perspective on introducing this to someone. I guess all that is to say that don’t discount introducing this to someone. I think my current partner reacted so well, in part, because we have a strong relationship with great communication, and we genuinely care for each other. If your relationship is strong, I believe you can have the same experience too.

Peanut Butter and Nutella. Each one has about 100 calories per tablespoon. Try putting them on things like bananas, apples, or cookies, and you can easily eat close to 1000 calories in one sitting.

She's still pretty big and has quite a bit of flab. She was probably pretty overweight/obese before losing the weight. Can't name an exact number without knowing how tall she is, but probably 50-75 lbs at least. Her thighs are still pretty thick, she's not skinny. Pregnant woman who get this belly shape tend to only have softness around their middle, and not around their thighs and hips. A little bit in the stomach, but it's usually not as significant. With pregnancy, you usually just have excess skin. When you lose weight, fat cells shrink but don't go away, so you're left with that more "doughy" figure.

For me, chubby bodies alone are 8/10 hot, and weight gain is 10/10 hot.

That’s a belly that’s gotten a lot smaller than it used to be. It’s a lot of “flab” that comes from excess skin left over from the weight loss and shrunken fat cells. All the separation you’re talking about is just the bunching up of the tissue that’s left, but there’s not a ton of fat beneath to fill it out and make it round or firm. You get this belly shape from either losing a significant amount of weight or sometimes after pregnancy. Based on her body shape though, I’d guess she was significantly bigger and lost most of the weight.

Completely agree in regards to overall fat distribution. I mainly was referring to how a belly looks when someone gains quickly, which seems to show a pretty common trend regardless of overall body type. Very round and stretched at first, little weight elsewhere on the body, dimples often seen at the upper belly and hips. Here are some examples of models who I've see it with (Smashmellow, Reiina, DreamGainer, for reference) Of course! Linked below, as well as the hyperlink in the OP https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3396439/

Mine, but in a different format! And further customized because I'm ✨extra✨ (and because I'm showing this to my partner and wanted to specify all the things I really enjoy, not the ones I don't) Blank copy included for anyone else who wants this version!

And finally, just to drive the point home, here's an animation:

To continue with the point above, I wanted to highlight how someone grows when they gain weight fast. This is mostly anecdotal, but is tied to observations I've seen with those who gain irl, in combination with the science shown above. And I wanted to do my best to illustrate it. Let's talk about slow gains. When weight comes via a slow, steady gain, it has time to settle and expand. The body slowly fills, widens, and softens, so you get this gentle transition from thin to chubby to fat. But gaining weight fast is a whole different experience. It's like the body doesn't have time to catch up. A stuffed belly stays rounder, fuller, tighter, even as the fat begins to pile on. Taut skin shows every inch of expansion, especially the overstretched bulge of an overfilled stomach. The weight gathers at the middle while the rest lags behind. For a while, it's wholly, unmistakably clear that they're fattening before your very eyes. In the end, the result is always the same. The ultimate growth cannot be avoided. The body fills and thickens, any firmness swallowed by layers of plush fat, until only pure, indulgent fatness remains.

Hi folks! I have been doing some research on various topics around weight gain. What's the best way to get bigger? Where will weight settle when you gain? Does how fast you gain matter? I'll be sharing some of my findings in this thread, starting with: If You Gain Faster, Does It Go to Your Belly? For those impatient readers, the answer is… Yes! Rapid weight gain does indeed go to the belly! Let's start with some definitions. What types of fat are there? There are generally two categories - subcutaneous and visceral. Subcutaneous is the fat we all know and love; the soft fat that forms just under your skin, and is most commonly associated with the appearance of being "fat". This fat can form anywhere on the body, and is generally considered to be the healthier kind of fat. Then there is visceral fat, which is fat that accumulates deep in the abdomen behind the muscle layer. This kind of fat leads to a "ball belly" or "apple" shape, where the midsection is rounded but also firm, since fat is under muscle. Visceral fat surrounds organs, and for that reason is generally considered to have higher health risks. Next, when you gain weight, what normally contributes to where the weight will go? There's a lot of research that shows this is mostly determined by genetics and sex. What foods you eat, what exercises you do, and other environmental factors contribute little to where the weight goes[1]. In general, people tend to gain more subcutaneous fat than visceral fat[2]. So now to the question at hand - anecdotally among gainers, it's said that if you gain weight quickly, it will go to the belly. Is this true? Turns out, a study has already been done on this very subject. Let's talk about the Science™. 23 subjects (15 men, 8 women) - all of whom were relatively thin (23.6 BMI) - were placed on an "overfeeding interval" of 8 weeks, where they were given 400–1200 extra calories over their normal intake. This was done in the form of ice cream shakes, snickers bars, or boost meal supplements[3]. In particular, this overfeeding period is similar to a lot of the rapid weight gain methods used in the feedism community. Participants were weighed daily, and body fat was measured at the beginning and end of the study. Body fat was broken down into 3 categories; visceral fat, upper-body subcutaneous fat (fat around the midsection), and lower-body subcutaneous fat (fat around the butt and thighs). Here are the results: on average, subjects on average weighed 158 lbs to start, and gained around 8 lbs over two months. On average, they gained 1 lb of visceral fat, 2 lbs of lower body fat, and 4.5 lbs of upper body fat. What does this mean? It means that during rapid weight gain, over half of the fat gained goes to the belly. But importantly, it goes to subcutaneous fat - the fat directly under the skin that we associate with soft, jiggly bellies. Very little went to the visceral fat associated with firm, round bellies. Anecdotally, this seems to correlate with what’s commonly seen with rapid weight gain in the feedism community. Most gainers, especially thinner gainers, tend to notice rounder bellies when they first put on weight. But this weight also tends to be soft - often times, gainers can still squeeze and squish their midsection, which seems to prove fat has built up just under the skin. Later, once they've gained more or the weight has settled, the fat may distribute more evenly over the body. Again, this is just anecdotal. But the data seems to support what we see! There are still some things this study does not answer. There's no data published on sex differences, for example. There are almost double the amount of men compared to women in the study, and men are known to gain more upper body weight compared to women. Men and women may have gained the same way, or differently - we cannot tell from the published data. Also, while subjects were on average at a healthy BMI when the study began, we know that BMI is a flawed metric. It does not mean they were all thin. Some may have been overweight, or may have gained weight or lost weight previously. These factors might also contribute where weight is likely to settle, and we cannot infer from the published data alone. And though this study shows that gaining weight quickly will lead to belly gains, it doesn’t answer why. For this I have a theory, but that will have to wait for the next installment of the Science of Weight Gain™ [1]There's research showing sugar-dense and high-fat foods leads to more visceral fat gains, but proportionally this is very small compared to genetic or sex factors. [2]Men in particular are more likely to gain visceral fat (see: beer belly). [3]This study sounds like a feeder's dream and it gets my blood up just reading it. How do I become an official Science Feeder™?

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