I've been thinking for some time that we generally only see the positive side of our preference, the confidence in our decisions if you like. I'm interested to hear whether anyone has ended up with a larger girl, embarked on a gaining programme (either themselves or a partner) and has either had a change of heart, or a realisation they've gone past the point they're comfortable and why that is.
For example, you helped your partner get to 200lbs and then realised you weren't entirely happy with the outcome. That could be for all sorts of reasons: weight distribution, health, cost, societal pressures etc. We have seen this from the gainer's side a few times but I'm not sure I've ever read it from the other side of the fence.
I was prompted to consider this after reading many posts here over the years where "bigger is better" in the literal sense of the term - can that really be true, and do we consider the risk we won't like the outcome when we set a goal? It can be hard, after all, to stop, lose or even realise we feel this way without the benefit of hindsight.