My partners joined in I think

[Dr. Feeder]

My guess: She's always loved to eat and struggled to keep her weight down in order to please others. But now the one she wants to please is you. She may still have hated other things about being fat, but when she stacks those up against the joy of overeating and pleasing you it's no contest.

[Dr. Feeder]

5 hours ago, coolidge1000 said:

we talked about all this last night and the fact my 7 yr old daughter is following alot of her mums traits, its not so much there both intentionally gaining  they just seam to eat alot of junk food lol.

I have to say it's messed up to let your kid eat too much junk food. It's fine if adults get fat intentionally, but children can't make such choices and should not be allowed to overeat regularly.

 

[Dr. Feeder]

> we talked about all this last night and the fact my 7 yr old daughter is following alot of her mums traits, its not so much there both intentionally gaining  they just seam to eat alot of junk food lol.

> Hi Dr feeder let me azure you I do make my children eat healthy and in the right quantities. But she's more happy sitting down with her mum and trying to force her outside only ends in her bawling her eyes out.. She has a few friend s and they are bigger children as well so I'm a bit like if she's happy and healthy let them do what they enjoy but I do not feed stuff ect nor do I do that to my partner , I don't even encourage her to over eat she does what makes her happy and I just enjoy the offerings

 

I don't quite get it. It seems like you're saying:

1. Your daughter eats a lot of junk food;

2. Your daughter eats healthy and in the right quantities;

3. She's happier if I let her do what she wants;

4. It's hard to get her to exercise anyway;

5. She's not intentionally gaining;

6. You don't encourage her to overeat.

 

I don't see how #1 and #2 can both be true. Please explain.

#3 and #4 may be true, but we often have to make kids do things they don't like for their own benefit. 

#5 and #6 may be true but are irrelevant. Though of course it's good you aren't encouraging her!

 

It's hard to exercise and eat healthy and even harder to make kids do it, especially if Mum's not on board. You have my sympathy, and of course you can raise your child as you want. But it does not sound like the best course.

 

 

[Dr. Feeder]

5 hours ago, liamtheberserker said:

Morality is subjective leave him alone

Just because there are moral grey areas doesn't mean we should chuck the idea of morality altogether. Most terms have grey areas; e.g. trees and bushes. You and I may not always agree on whether something is a tree or a bush, but that doesn't mean those terms are useless.

We also may agree on moral principles, just rank them differently. Your main moral principle seems to be to leave people alone if you have a moral disagreement; I agree with that principle but would put not harming children ahead of that. 

When I started commenting on feedist issues there were truly crazy feedist and anti-feedist ideas out there. I've always argued against the crazier ideas, pro and con, and gotten flack for it. But if feedism is ever to have acceptable form of expression, we need to discuss these issues. And that's why I'm doing this. It's not to single out one person and give them a hard time.

[Dr. Feeder]

On 8/23/2017 at 10:53 AM, extra_m13 said:

shut up and enjoy the ride man

This forum is called: 

Lifestyle Discussion Relationship advice, Weight issues, Social issues regarding size and lifestyle choices. 

So I think I'm on topic.

 

 

[Dr. Feeder]

On 8/28/2017 at 9:29 PM, shady-j said:

Why did this thread about some guys wife turn into us judging how he's raising his daughter? Fuck off guys, if he wanted parenting advice he would've asked, and since he didn't I suggest you let the raising of his children to him and his wife.

I agree he should raise his children as he chooses; if you read what I've written you'd know that.

But I do believe feedist parents often are too permissive with the junk food. I think that's messed up and it's important to address that general point.

[Dr. Feeder]

2 hours ago, liamtheberserker said:

...it's killed this topic that he was contributing.

What did I kill exactly? Where do you think the thread would have gone if not for me?  Would there have been rhapsodies on the pleasures of fattening up one's children? I doubt it but if so I don't feel too bad.