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[Guest DilutedCrazy]

I am a long time Curvage poster and a notorious lurker but I would finally like to break the silence. I am not sure if I can continue the way I am on these websites or communities. I will always love bigger women but the darker aspects of my fetish has invaded my life. My love life has hit rock bottom and these two subjects aren't intertwined where you think they may be. I have a vanilla relationship with my significant other and there is no inclusion of feederism anymore. However, I believe both my fetish and my significant other are causing me to have a psychotic break. I will describe both situations and maybe you'll be able to help me.

  At one point in time, my significant other had been involved into feederism to please me. if had the right sense of mind, I would have never brought up the very idea to her. It's hard to say but we had a lot of disagreements, which led to the removal of my fetish from within our relationship. She had promised to me that she would keep my fetish under wraps and not bring it up to anyone.

    It doesn't bother me that she wanted to get healthy. it took me time to grow up and realize that I'd rather see her healthy and happy than to get a couple of my rocks off. I had to grow up and I realised that ,in the past, I was wrong to be self absorbed. It would be different, if she had her own interest and her own taste for my fetish and in a four year relationship, I grew up. I was Nineteen in the beginning of our starting out.

    Recently, My fiancee realized she's bisexual. I am all good with her being attracted to the opposite sex as well. I am supportive of LGBT community and I have no problem with her looking at pornography. I always had a healthy ego and knew that as long as she was mine, that I wasn't going to be the jealous type. I think I am quite open-minded but I am sure I could be wrong on the definition.

After her revelation, she brings up she wants an open relationship. She brings up about how I could have any girls I want and we could have free passes at women that catch our attention. I disagree, I tell her no, That I'd prefer not too and that I am more traditional in marriage. I don't want to share. I am a "you're mine, forever" type of person. Things begun to get worse and worse between us. Our communications had a 75 percent chance of it evolving into an argument.

We argued about Doctor who and how he is a Polygomist. Well, not really argued. It was more like, "Hey, the Doctor has many girlfriends on the side, when can I have one?" I struck back, "when I can Regenerate." I use humour when I am angry and I regretted the comment. We argued the whole week and she wouldn't open up to me anymore. This went on all week.

Later on, she wanted me to sent a message to her step-mother, so she gave me her phone to contact her relative. Without, intentionally seeking this, I read a message she had written to another girl, her best friend "You're cute." My blood completely cooled and I began to shake from shock. This message was in the long list of messages she had sent to various people. I waited for the opportune moment to read into this. What I received were "If it doesn't work with him I want you.", "Good Morning, my lady.", "I would love to rock your world.", "he MADE me do thing I didn't want to do." She wrote back, " what did he make you do?" And my fiancee replied," oh, He likes bigger women. I gained weight for him, never again!." and her bff wrote, "I am glad you remember what I taught you about changing for other guys." One, I feel her friend had no right to comment on a one sided story like that. Two, her friend pissed me the f#ck off, with her assumption of my character. I won't lie. I am not morally right in this situation. I looked into information that she gave in confidence to another but I was never controlling or intentionally tried to make her miserable. In fact, she didn't mind that she could eat what she wanted. "and told me she felt comfortable eating around me because she knew I wouldn't judge her. She broke my promise about revealing my fetish.

I can't say I ever made her feel like crap for not gaining or losing. In fact, I always told her I supported her in any decision she made. I realized at that point ignorance truly was bliss. Without giving her suspicion of me knowing what I now knew, I told her that I supported her right to have an open relationship with other women and to experiment all she wanted. She seemed surprised but didn't catch on that I was privy to her tongue lashing.

I didn't stop at her one friend's text. I looked into her others. This all became a slippery slope. I can promise that I will never use the information for wrong. I was just trying to protect myself. I found out from a correspondence between her and our boss on Facebook. We work at the same place. She told my boss that she wished I was more open to her wanting an open relationship, and my boss replied that I was a little backwards. My boss, how wrong is that. it's so slimy. I wish I worked in a professional setting sometimes.

And finally, I had read a long message between her close friend, who loved that she was coming out, and told her that it was maybe time that she would move on from me , if I didn't support her.

" "and that I wasn't being fair to her." I wish I hadn't looked. Instead of it making me angry or jealous, it has broken my hearts. I think I would have eventually budged for her but she said hurtful things towards me and made me the enemy. She created a Date finder site for her open relationship and I have just lost total sexual interest in everything. I just want to be Sherlock and place my emotion within a barrier or cold, hard facts. My behavior has become more erratic and my spelling and grammar has suffered. I don't know what to sYmbol, but that I need other's opinions..

[Guest DilutedCrazy]

All of the grammar at this point is shot to hell. I apologize for it and the extra amount of whining that comes from staying up all night.Carry on.

[Brutenga]

Reading these types of things always makes me angry. So you guys tried a fetish of yours that she had some enjoyment with but ended up not liking it and she stopped without you giving her a hard time or grief but in fact supported her decision, no harm done. Now normally this is the part where one would say, "Well she tried one of your fetishes now you have to try hers." This is not so, she has the choice to say no just as much as you do. It obviously bothers you as you see a cuckold relationship as infidelity and are most comfortable in a traditional relationship as most people are. It's also fine to bring up such as request as well, no one is wrong for that.

What is wrong is disrespecting,degrading, and conspiring against someone you supposedly love. Especially when it's behind your back and to many people including co-workers, rallying everyone behind her cause against her tyrant fiance. Now even if you smooth this over, everyone's going to have this bitter taste for you since you have been portrayed as controlling and abusive. Dragging someones name and character through the mud over something like this is not what you do to someone you love and care for. I could go on there is plenty more to say but in the end, she's the one who sounds like she needs some growing up to do.

[Guest An Optimist]

I just want to be Sherlock and place my emotion within a barrier or cold, hard facts.

The fact is she wants to fuck around, and you don't, and she's talking behind your back and bitching about you wanting a monogamous relationship. Does not seem like something a person who is in love with you would do, but then what do I know?

Welcome to the 21st century, where insisting on monogamy is now seen as ..backward. Can you blame Russians for not wanting to have anything to do with modern, progressive culture?

Is she worth all the aggravation? That's the question.

I'd say, postpone marriage, agree to an open relationship and see what happens. Worst comes to worst, you can find someone else, and it's always easier to do so if you're in a relationship...(the fact you're 'taken' is seen as a seal of approval).

[Guest Phd281]

Sell your belongings and move to Iowa. 

[Guest DilutedCrazy]

Sell your belongings and move to Iowa.

Maybe I should

[Ryan Lochete]

Honestly don't waste your time with her, this relationship is over; supporting the lgbt community or not if you're not into it then that's that you don't need to conform to this and that. The relationship is over end it or just walk away. Fiance or not don't waste your time or money leave block her take your stuff if it's your house kick her out just don't look back.

Don't waste your time, like the Dr. said just leave.

[KFD]

If you like heartache and punishment, continue onward. Shes not into monogamy, she physically isn't what you want, why waste your life being miserable?

[WhoDat]

My friend-

It is sounding like a mess, and one that isn't fixable.

It may be time to extricate yourself and be with you.  If you get married you will be the sorriest dude on the face of the planet, so to speak.

You need two month's deposit, a car, a new place to live, preferably somewhere more than 50 miles away, and time.

You don't sound like a bad fellow at all. But what you want is not even close to what you say the other ladies say they want.

In my experience in relationships, you go deep or you don't go. When you go deep you are going to find stuff you may not like, to say the least. At that point you either continue or you don't. But you cannot tread water, at least not for very long, and expect to have a life partner as I understand the term.  Once you are into her texts, it's bye-bye trust, bye-bye relationship.

That said -

There are many women - I have met them - I am with one - who will come right out and say "I think 350 pounds is a nice goal! Maybe 400." 

Your mind will be blown, you both will be off-the-charts connected and "together" and this will one day be something you look back on and say "Wow, remember when things were this way?"

G' Luck.

[Batman]

Get out of this mess while you still can.

[anti spock]

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You need two month's deposit, a car, a new place to live, preferably somewhere more than 50 miles away, and time.

You don't sound like a bad fellow at all. But what you want is not even close to what you say the other ladies say they want.

In my experience in relationships, you go deep or you don't go. When you go deep you are going to find stuff you may not like, to say the least. At that point you either continue or you don't. But you cannot tread water, at least not for very long, and expect to have a life partner as I understand the term.  Once you are into her texts, it's bye-bye trust, bye-bye relationship.

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great advice

[Guest high]

Leave her and change your job, since your boss is a douche as well.