Navigating Life with Extreme Obesity

[bbwunniemia]

Greetings, fellow big girls,

 While I've learned to love and accept my body for what it is, there are undeniable challenges that come with my extreme obesity. My weight has been a constant companion throughout my life, and it has undoubtedly shaped my experiences and perspectives. I've faced societal stigmas, stares, and judgment, but I've also discovered a deep well of self-acceptance and resilience.

Living with extreme obesity is a daily struggle. My body kind of protests against every movement, and my breath becomes labored with the slightest exertion. Sometimes it's like my body is constantly reminding me of its limitations, a constant battle between my spirit and my physical constraints. My weight has also brought on health challenges, including high blood pressure, diabetes, ... These conditions require constant monitoring and medication, and they add another layer of complexity to my daily life.

A particularly embarrassing moment that involved a seemingly simple task was going to the grocery store a couple months ago. As I approached the checkout counter, I noticed the cashier eyeing me with a mix of pity and disdain. I tried to ignore her gaze, but it was like a spotlight on my insecurities. As I unloaded my groceries onto the counter, I could feel her judgmental stare intensifying. She mumbled something under her breath, and I caught the words "unhealthy" and "gross." My cheeks flushed with humiliation, and I wanted to disappear into thin air. Despite feeling mortified, I took a deep breath and faced the cashier. I actually apologized for the amount of groceries, but she didn't respond, simply scanning each item with a look of disapproval. As I paid and gathered my bags, I could hear her whispers to her colleague, commenting on my size and unhealthy habits. I left the store feeling defeated and ashamed. The cashier's words echoed in my mind, reinforcing the negative perceptions of big girls that society had instilled in me. But as I walked (some people would say waddled 🥴) home, I decided not to let her judgment define me. I reminded myself of my worth, my beauty, and my resilience. I remembered the love and support of my friends and family, who embraced me for who I was. I realized that the cashier's opinion was just that – an opinion. It didn't reflect my true value or diminish my joy in life. That day at the grocery store was a reminder of the challenges big girls face daily. We are subjected to judgment, stares, and unsolicited advice, often from people who know nothing about our struggles or our lives.

Despite these challenges, I refuse to let a number define me. I'm determined to live a fulfilling life where I eat what I want, even with the limitations my body imposes. I've found ways to adapt my lifestyle, incorporating gentle stretches and short walks (which are admittedly getting shorter lol) into my routine.

My journey as a big girl has been filled with challenges, but it has also been a journey of self-discovery, acceptance, and resilience. I've learned to appreciate my body for its unique beauty and strength, and I've embraced the challenges as opportunities for growth.

To my fellow big girls, remember that we are not alone. Obesity is a complex condition with a range of physical and emotional challenges. Together, let's show the world that big girls are not just about curves; we are about resilience, determination, and the unwavering belief in our own beauty and strength. And let's never stop indulging in the culinary adventures that make life so delicious!

[extra_m13]

i like the way you write, open and honest about the pros and cons and about the challenges that come with extreme obesity, it may help us understand better our ladies , i am sure it will. because many of our faults may come from just saying things that feel rude and just wrong. from not understanding hwat is really like and how to focs on the positives. there are some, the majority probably, of ladies that do not want to be as fat , that would like to be lighter and not to deal with the cons like the comments from people, getting out of breath and knees and back hurting when they shouldn't

[Guest Johnny18]

Each person has their own opinions no matter what we do. But what's important is that you appreciate who you are, regardless of whatever happens. 
Don't change because some others think differently - you opening up and embracing the challenges faced daily, I'm impressed you expressed it in detail and it makes a person stronger each moment there may be a situation that won't be comfortable facing. 

[extra_m13]

wanna talk - share some more ?

[mikey32905]

I was there.  Obviously, not as a "big girl", but a big guy.  I always dreaded going to dinners and such.   In my heavier days, I have had many a chair break on me with much embarrassment.    Even though I don't weigh nearly as much as I once did, I am still a bit cautious on the chairs that I sit in.