Can you have a "normal" sex, if you have this fetish ?

[Joliat]

1 hour ago, AcesDJD said:

What fetish do you mean exactly? Being into big women? You will have trouble getting it up for a thin woman if you are able to at all. But other than that if you find a big woman or even a curvy one who you can picture being on the road to bigness it shouldn't be a problem. Too much focus on the internet probably isn't good. I'm lucky I had my puberty before the internet or at least before it was widespread. First when I was a young teen I noticed girls my age that were probably 120-130 pounds, but they had developed some thighs. I was very scrawny and I think I was both jealous of them and attracted to them at the same time. As I grew up I liked bigger and bigger women, but it didn't continue forever. I probably prefer around a 230 pound woman of average height and bone structure now, although amazingly I have seen several women online that were a good 100 pounds bigger than that that I still found very attractive, but I think they are unicorns to some extent- larger framed, a lot of muscle mass with the fat, very feminine fat distribution so while weighing 330 works for them it probably wouldn't for 90% if not more of women. I'm sure you'll settle into what you like. 

My response to the OP: cut back on the internet porn. And do not position your GF to "compete" with online fantasy.

People have sex with partners who fall short of a fantasy ideal. It happens all the time. In fact it is probably the human default condition. So my answer is yes, you can have "normal sex" if you are FA, a feeder, or have a weight gain fetish. Just relax.

This is a bit of a digression, but it's weird that we now live in a world where the most outlandish sexual fantasies are now accessible with the click of a mouse. There seem to be good and bad consequences. Bad consequences include unrealistic expectations about sex and sexual partners in real life.

Good consequences include that fact that sexual self-discovery is much, much easier now than it used to be, if you have "unusual" preferences. Growing up, I had access to ZERO information about being FA. This led to a lot of confusion and repression once I realized that my preferences were different from those around me. If I'd been a brasher type, I'd have just declared that I dug fat girl X or Y when my friends were sizing up chicks they considered hot, and let them razz me for it. But instead I just kept it to myself - with all kinds of unhappy consequences. First, early on, I tended to develop a somewhat furtive approach to girls, admiring BBWs from afar rather than just asking them out. But even once I was over that, it took me years to fully realize that (a) I like women who are more than just "chubby" or "plump," (b) I profoundly love weight gain and (c) nothing but nothing is hotter to me than a BBW overeating or self-stuffing. 

Even after I got together with my wife - who was hefty and stuffed herself fairly regularly - the internet was still valuable in helping me to understand the parameters of this preference. Early on I'd feel a bit deviant, confused, or even in denial of how unbelievably turned on I was when she'd really overdo it.