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Lastly, I’m going to have to buy some new measuring tape if I want to get her current measurements, because the 60 inch one she has no longer goes all the way around her hips! I’m proud of my growing girl 😁

In other news, I’ve noticed her double chin has grown a bit. It’s not immediately noticeable if you aren’t paying attention, but her neck and face have definitely grown a tad since we met. She looks good! She also still likes to gorge herself every so often (with a little help from me) For example, recently she ordered a bucket of bite size pretzel nuggets which contain about 90-100 nuggets per bucket and is meant to feed 5-7 people. I’m telling you, when she ordered that I felt like I was on cloud nine, whew!

Figured it was time to post another update. First, my girl has now accepted that she’s now a size 24 when it comes to buying pants and shorts and the like. Recently, she’s bought 2 pairs of shorts, one pink and one green. They were both in 4X(which is about a size 22) but she busted out of them in as little as 2 days after breaking them in. The pink one developed a hole along the seam running down her ass, which I expected. They were pretty tight. She chalked it up to the material not being stretchy enough. The green ones were a lot more forgiving but still developed a tear on her right cheek after only about two days. She looked really good in them but it was clear that she was no longer a size 22. She was sad when they ripped because that was the biggest size the retailer had for those pairs of shorts. Still, it’s pretty hot to think about how she’s now out growing even plus size clothing! She’s ordered some new shorts from another place that are a size 24. We’ll see how long these ones hold up

Uh huh. Whatever helps you sleep at night.

You glossed over an important point that Joliat made, which was that Canada’s RCMP is adding Incels to their terrorism awareness guide, seen here: https://globalnews.ca/news/7021882/rcmp-incel-terrorism-guide/ And they’re not the only ones. The Texas department of public safety recently published a report that described Incels as “...a growing domestic terrorism concern due to the ideological nature of recent Incel attacks internationally, nationwide, and in Texas.” The TDPS even goes as far to say that “this particular threat could soon match, or potentially eclipse, the level of lethalness demonstrated by other domestic terrorism types.” Seen here: https://www.dps.texas.gov/director_staff/media_and_communications/2020/txTerrorThreatAssessment.pdf It’s clear that not one but two different government entities have concluded that Incels are a threat. What’s your evidence against this? A couple of screenshots of users of Incels.me playing nice? Reminder that r/incels was banned from Reddit for a violation of their policy. Specifically regarding violence, as seen here: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/11/09/technology/incels-reddit-banned.html You’re here using some of their rhetoric. You’re here defending them against the use of their well earned definition. Do you sympathize with them? I certainly do not.

You’re aware of the burden of proof yes? You made the claim that “[The definition of incels] is a bigoted, politically slanted definition that is not supported by the data.” Surely, if you’re so confident in your claim, you can provide the receipts?

Would you care to provide such data?

I reserve the right to be smug over a person who comes into a community and insinuates with no real evidence that the reason we have this kink is because we can’t get laid with “real” women and have to “settle” for fat women. Not to mention this whole premise relies on the belief that fat women are less than your typical “conventionally attractive” woman. I’m sorry if you’ve had some difficulty in the past or present getting laid, but that very much does not describe my experience within this fetish.

Okay, despite the fact that most of your “evidence” is just personal anecdotes and what seems to be projection, I’m going to treat this like a genuine question. And to that I say, I don’t really know. I haven’t yet met any FAs in real life that I could talk this out with and compare experiences, so I can only offer my own. While I’m no “Chad” I’m definitely very far from an incel. Although, that depends on what you consider a “Chad” to be. Is he someone that is a perfect aryan specimen that can pick any woman he wants? Or is he just someone who’s good with women? Because, despite the fact that I technically fit your physical incel description of having a “meek face and having an underdeveloped body” I have no problem with women, fat and slim alike. For example, my first girlfriend was a very “conventionally attractive” woman. Small, petite, with beautiful features. You get the picture. She confessed her love to me one day and we dated for 3 years. Despite the fact that straight out of high school a beautiful, conventionally attractive woman practically fell into my lap, I still thought about fat women. It never left me. I still had bbw and ssbbw content stored in my phone. Then when I broke things off with her I decided to dive headfirst into the dating world and found it easy. I usually had a date with someone new once a week. Then after about 3 months of dating both skinny and fat girls alike I found my current girlfriend, who I’ve been dating for more than a year now. She weighs more than 300 pounds. And she’s exactly who I want to be with. She’s beautiful, smart, funny, and fat as hell, and I love her a lot. So no, I don’t really subscribe to the idea that FA’s feel “unworthy” of slim women and would jump at the chance to be with one if they could. I have been with many slim women and found them wanting. They just don’t do anything for me. And to your second hypothesis, I don’t really know what to think about that. That’s lot of of “incel” logic you got going there. Do you have any studies to support such a hypothesis or are you just spitballing? Finally, if I HAD to point to a cause of my fetish, I would probably blame my parents for trying and failing to make me gain weight. By always telling me that if I didn’t gain weight that no one would love me, or trying to force feed me protein shakes, or constantly pointing out my “flaw” of being skinny. They were wrong of course. There are a lot of girls who like skinny dudes. This is of course just me, and very well does not represent the rest of the community, but that’s where I would point to how it started. I’m guessing the shame and abuse from my parents eventually resulted in my subconscious dictating that Fat = Good.

I’m definitely no expert when it comes to beds and bed frames for heavier people, but I’ve been browsing anyway and I’ve come across these sites that are pretty helpful: https://www.sleepfoundation.org/best-mattress/best-mattress-for-heavy-sleepers https://www.thesleepjudge.com/roundup/best-bed-frame-for-a-heavy-person/

Update: My girlfriend went to to the doctor this morning (for an issue unrelated to Covid-19) and found out her weight has gone up to 314 pounds! Her weight back in January was 308 pounds, so it’s a rather modest 6 pound gain, but still, a gain is a gain, and it’s still nice to see! Besides, a 25 pound gain since last year (289 pounds) is nothing to sneeze at. I fear that she’s getting close to plateauing in terms of weight, so I’ll try and find more ways to help support her gain. Any tips would be appreciated!

My girlfriend recently found this on Facebook and shared this with me. It definitely gave me pause so I wanted to ask the community what they thought. I can relate to this because I’m the slim “conventionally attractive” male while my girlfriend is plus size weighing over 300 pounds. I have received comments about us, although so far they’ve only come from my family. My sister has said I can clearly do better, and think that we should break up. Since she’s my sister I can’t exactly tell her to fuck off without pissing off the rest of my family, but I do make it clear to her that my girlfriend is exactly who I want to be with. She is the best. My mom saw a new picture of my girlfriend recently and couldn’t stop herself from commenting “Oh, she’s big!” to my face. Have you or anyone you know experienced something similar? How does it compare if the genders are reversed?

I’m sure it’s been quite an experience watching your best friend that you’ve known for more than 5 years start out at just the cusp of being a healthy weight shoot up by more than 100 pounds to the blimp she is today. And now that I’m in the picture, I think she knows that this is likely permanent. It’s real fun seeing the contrast in old photos to today too. Like seeing how back then her main group were all roughly the same BMI for their heights. All of them slightly overweight except for her roommate/best friend. Then flash forward to today to see some of her friends have gained weight or stayed the same weight, and then there’s my girlfriend who out grew them all. It’s definitely noticeable at parties. Most of the time, my girlfriend tends to be the biggest person there. I will say, it does make me proud.

I agree, luckily she’s moving out to another apartment in August, and this time she’ll just be by herself. I’m excited for that because without the judging eyes of her roommate/best friend, I can get her much more food without her feeling ashamed over it. All of the times I’ve gotten her really fattening meals/snacks (Like tacos and donuts, or 25 chicken tenders) her roommate has been outside the apartment. And when we move in together will be even better. I can cook and bake her whatever, whenever. Still, it has been fun watching her roommate drop little digs and hints to her that she’s been getting fat, and somehow (at least to my knowledge) my girlfriend never picking up on them. Like when we were all playing a card game and it required her roommate to answer if my girlfriend was athletic. She was quick to almost shout “NOPE” and put the card face down.

The last thing I noticed, and perhaps the most important, is planning for the future. For example, one time after we just finished making love she turns to me and tells me that when we move in together she’s going to need a bigger and stronger bed. This isn’t for another year at the least. So she definitely doesn’t have weight loss as a future goal of hers. But for fun I still asked her why. And she tells me that even though she has a queen(!) size bed, she can tell that she takes up a lot more room than I do on it, and that she wants to have a little more room. She also mentioned that she’s noticed just how much her wooden bed frame has been creaking. And I’ve seen it first hand. It creaks a lot. She told me that she’s afraid that it’s going to break sooner rather than later, and I believe her. So I told her that when we move in together I’ll chip in to help her get a reinforced bed frame. Speaking of apartments, I noticed that she has more qualifications for any future apartment she wants. Before, all she wanted was a nice apartment that was on the second floor so the bugs don’t get in as easily. Now, she wants an apartment that’s still on the second floor, but has access to an elevator. She says she needs it in case she ever breaks her leg or something, but I know the real reason is because a single flight of stairs gets her way out of breath. Again, this is all planning a year or so in advance, so it’s clear to me that losing weight is not something she’s actively pursuing. It makes me happy knowing that she’s currently something north of 310 pounds and not looking to lose weight.