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  1. I’m a bit disappointed. My wife has lost a few pounds, mainly from her belly, and it’s my fault. She hasn’t been feeling well physically, and I have been encouraging her to take steps to do things that would help her feel better. She’s super lazy, so I have gotten her to go on walks with me. While it’s made an improvement in how she feels, her stomach has flattened out again. She doesn’t actually care that her stomach is flatter, but she’s ecstatic that the number on the scale has gone down. I’m really happy that she’s feeling better, but the flatter stomach is also really disappointing. I’m just surprised that even though she’s getting older, she can still get rid of stomach fat.
  2. I was sitting on the metro yesterday, and the metro became completely packed. A 20-something girl got on the train with her boyfriend, but they were separated. The girl ends up standing right in front of where I'm sitting, and my head is at the level of her belly. The girl was fairly slim except for her belly, which was much bigger than a ** belly. The weather was not warm, but all she was wearing was a crop top and high-waisted jeans. She must have gained weight since she bought the jeans because they were seriously straining against her belly. Her lower belly was contained inside the jeans, but they looked like they were going to tear at the seams. The waistband was fighting for its life. And her upper stomach has a muffin top on display over the jeans. She had the kind of big mushy belly that a 30 to 40-pound-overweight girl would have, but she couldn't have been that heavy since she was slim everywhere else. And she's standing with her belly less than a foot away from my face. By the time the train reached the next stop, she was able to reunite with her boyfriend, who I could tell thought she was really hot. When I got off the metro, there was a girl there dressed exactly the same way but was even chubbier. It's not as good as things were 15-20 years ago when chubby girls had their lower bellies hanging out, but I'm starting to like seeing jeans fighting to contain a belly. Now that mid-rise jeans are coming back (they call them low-rise but they only sit an inch below the belly button), I'm starting to see some wide belly buttons on display again, though it's mostly skinny girls who are showing off their belly buttons.
  3. My wife is in her mid 30s and she's been going on about how she wants to wear clothes that are more mature andmore covered up and no longer wants to wear bikinis for swimming. This past summer she became hesitant to wear her bikinis and I really had to convince her to take off her dress at the beach so she could come swimming with me. She's a bit sensitive over her 12-pound weight gain, so I think that's driving her desire to get a one-piece swimsuit or a high-waisted bikini. She won't admit her weight gain is the reason, but I think that's what it is. I think this started when her boobs got too big for her favorite bikini top, and she thinks that if her boobs got too big, so did the rest of her. She talks about trying to lose weight all the time, but she also admits that she thinks her body is still good at her current size. She gained 12 pounds, but she's still really slim. She's super skinny-fat, though, and has a mushy, jiggly starter belly. She has zero muscle tone. I asked her when the last time she wore a swimsuit that wasn't a bikini and she said 7 years old (she started on bikinis young). So she hasn't worn a swimsuit other than a bikini in about 30 years. I wasn't going to let that winning streak end. I asked her if she wore bikinis when she was a much heavier teenager (60 pounds heavier) and she said "Of course." I asked her if people thought she looked hot in a bikini when she was 60 pounds heavier and she says, "Yes, I got so much attention." And I asked if if she thought she looked really hot in a bikini when she was a heavier teenager, and she said, "Well yeah, I looked pretty good." So I reason with her that even if she's 60 pounds lighter than she was as a teenager and looked great in a bikini then, there's no way she's too fat now. I asked if I got her a new bikini that she liked, would she wear it. And she said maybe. I know her taste really well. I went online and looked for bikinis in colors and patterns she likes, and I know she wants coverage, support and quality. I found a bikini from a well-known brand that caters to mature women. I took advantage of end of summer sales so I could buy something high end at a good price. When I arrived, she tried it on and she was amazed. It fit her perfectly and she loved it. The bottoms are still fairly low on her stomach, so they show off her stomach very nicely. The weekend before Christmas we went away to a family wedding, and the hotel we stayed at had a pool. She could finally wear this bikini, and she looked amazing in it! Her starter belly looked perfect in it. Her stomach is still quite small, but it's so doughy, and the bikini really highlights her doughiness. For a starter belly, it actually has a good amount of jiggle. But she was comfortable in the bikini because it's so supportive of her big boobs, and the bottoms have a good amount of coverage in the back and sides, which she loves. I just keep telling her how skinny it makes her look, and she's happy. It also helps that her younger sister was there with us. Her sister wore her old string bikini, which somehow still fits her and looks great on her after gaining a lot of weight. All of her sister's clothes are so tight around her stomach because she's gained a lot of weight there. Yet she rarely gets new clothes. She frequently wears old clothes that are too tight and have holes in them. She recently found an old shirt tucked away at her parents' house that she hadn't worn in 15 years and she's proudly wearing it again. It's super tight but looks great on her. I wouldn't be surprised if she likes tight clothes because she thinks they hold in her belly like a corset. I suspect she's about 180-190 pounds, but she is tall and carries most of her weight in her stomach. She has some boobs too, but her arms, legs and butt are fairly thin. Compared with my wife, they're about the same size everywhere but the stomach. My wife is an hourglass while her sister is an apple. So at the pool the sister has her big gut sticking out in her bikini, making my wife look extra skinny by comparison. Oddly enough, they both have equally doughy, jiggly stomachs. Yet the sister doesn't actually look as fat in a string bikini compared to the rest of her clothes. When she wears a dress or a skirt, her stomach looks pregnant. But in the bikini it didn't look like her stomach stuck out nearly as much. She just looks thick, from the front. While her stomach has a nice round shape in front, her weight shows the most in her back fat rolls. Seeing the two sisters together in their bikinis is a beautiful sight. Neither have any muscle tone. My wife is skinny-fat but lacks the confidence she used to have because she thinks she got too fat. Her sister is fat-fat but still has plenty of confidence because while she knows she gained weight, she doesn't think she gained that much. They may differ a lot in size, but they're both equally doughy. My wife and her sister have always been very close, but my wife takes pride that she's always been hotter than her sister. Even in high school when my wife was 180-190 lbs and her sister was about 160 pounds at the same height, my wife was always hotter. My wife was always an hourglass, with huge boobs, wide hips, thick thighs and a relatively small waist with a bit of a spare tire. Her teenage sister weighed 20-30 lbs less and was skinny everywhere but her big belly. My wife was curvaceous, cute and bubbly while her sister was a less sociable blimp. My wife will never admit it, but I can tell she loves it when her sister wears a bikini so she can look better by comparison.
  4. When I was a boy, there was a girl that I had a crush on. I thought she was slim because of the loose t-shirts she wore but then one day I saw her in a bikini and it turned out she had quite a round belly with a deep belly button. I thought, uh oh, she's fat. But I still liked her because she was such a nice girl and her personality is why I ended up liking chubby girls.
  5. I think the inverted triangle looks great. Small shoulders and arms, small waist, big belly and big hips. But this shape looks best when the boobs are big too. It ends up being kind of like an hourglass but with more belly than an hourglass shape has.
  6. The thiccness is all about the butt. There's still not much acceptance for belly fat. Maybe there's even less acceptance than there was 15-20 years ago because women rarely show off their stomach now unless it's flat. When girls get the slightest bit of a belly they reach for their high-waisted bottoms to hold it in. Back in the early 2000s, most the girls I knew were showing off their bellies, no matter how fat they were. They were wearing super-low-rise jeans with belly shirts, and at the beach and pool every girl wore a string bikini. I still remember in the early days of Facebook around 2005, girls I knew were all posting bikini photos with their bellies hanging out, and there weren't apps that made it easy to thin themselves. You had to have photoshop and know how to use it. Stomach culture made girls show off their stomachs no matter their size. Now it's butt culture. If girls don't have a flat stomach it's expected to be swallowed up in high-waisted jeans or high-waisted diaper bikini bottoms. They look awful, especially on girls who have a belly. I've been seeing some girls on tik tok try to normalize a big stomach, but not many are working at that. Some of the popular girls who used to show off their chubby stomachs have stopped doing so since they've gotten fatter. Many of the body positive girls aren't positive about their stomachs. They try to downplay their stomachs, usually by hiding them. Maybe they wear something mid rise, but never low rise to show off their lower stomach bulge. If they're showing off their stomachs they're manipulating the photos to make their stomachs look thinner. You girl are starting to show off their stomachs again. Maybe stomachs will come back into fashion and this time the bigger girls will take control. But so far they're taking control by trying to stop stomachs from coming back in.
  7. Shortly after my last post here, she gave up on the diet because it was messing with her too much. I didn't even have to convince her, she knew it wasn't good for her. She also hasn't weighed herself in a week, and I think she's gained back the four pounds. She's looking the pudgiest I've ever seen her, though she still has the skinny fat look overall. She's really just curvier and softer but doesn't look fatter. I picked her up last night and she felt heavier than she ever has. She used to be as light as a feather, but now she doesn't float so easily. Honestly, I would be content even if she didn't gain any more. I don't think she's going to allow herself to gain more, at least not right now. If she gained too much right now, I think it would really upset her, and I don't want that to happen. Right now her BMI is just under 21. The 21 range suits her very well. While I know she'd be really hot with a BMI of 28-29 (she was that size in high school and she said a lot of guys thought she was hot), I'm planning on spending a long time with her and I want her to be healthy. A BMI in the range of 21-25 would probably be ideal for her. If she happened to gain more, I'd be happy, but I think something would be wrong if she gained a lot of weight. As long as she takes care of herself and is happy, I'm happy.
  8. Age also plays a big factor. Teenage to early 20s girls tend to gain in their bellies, but their bellies get round and aren't as soft and don't droop as much. They just get a nice bulge. When I was in high school, maybe 10-15% of girls had a flat stomach. The rest had anything from a small ** belly to a big beach ball. When swimming, 90% wore bikinis. With all the fat bellies on show I can only recall seeing one girl who was fat enough to have any belly hang. Though there was a lot of jiggle. But in their mid 20s, girls get softer. In their 30s they get much softer and droopier. In their 40s and older it tends to be more visceral fat, with a harder belly.
  9. Thanks! My main goal is to make sure she is happy and healthy. She's not happy when she tries to keep her weight down, and I'm not happy when she tries to do that either! I will only encourage her to do what makes her happy. However, I won't help her lose weight to an unhealthily low weight when she says it will make her happy. I know from experience that it makes her miserable when her BMI is below 20.
  10. Last week I took my fiancee away for an extended Fourth of July beach weekend. We both needed to get away for a bit. She was looking better than ever in her bikinis, particularly towards the end of our stay. I noticed her stomach was getting thicker. She weighed herself when we got back and found that she gained 3 pounds. That's what wearing bikinis and flowy dresses for almost a week will do. With nothing to constrict her belly, she could eat as much as she wanted and not feel it. We ate lots of good meals, and visited a few candy shops. She was enjoying herself so much, she stopped caring about how much she ate and while she admitted that she thought she was looking plump in her bikinis, she also thought she looked hot in them. Sadly, since we got back and found out that she gained weight, she has been dieting in a way she hasn't in a while. It's making her miserable too. She's already lost 4 pounds, and it's not making her any happier. I got her to ease up on it yesterday and eat a good meal, which put her in a much better mood. But then she worried she gained some of her weight back, which made her stressed out. I think a lot of it is a numbers thing for her. She hates seeing the number on the scale go up, yet she also thinks she looks good with some extra weight. Her sister weighs a lot more than she does (she probably weighs around 200 pounds), but will always tell me how pretty she is and how well she wears her string bikinis.
  11. It's easy to gain weight as a vegan. These days there are so many brands that make tasty vegan treats and pastries, and it can be really fun to explore what's on offer. They are no healthier than ones with dairy and eggs. You could also try baking vegan desserts together. Also, explore uses of cashew cream.
  12. Some definitely see it this way, and some girls with low self esteem eat it up. I dated a few slightly chubby girls who gave me the impression that few other guys found them attractive. They were dying for some attention that guys never gave them. One girl had much higher self esteem after we had been together for a year. I was the first for her, but 7 years later she finally has someone else (I'm sure she waited by choice). I never dated these girls because they were easy, I dated them because I really liked them. Another girl I know was chubby all her life, and since the pandemic has gotten quite fat. But she's always had her pick of guys, now more than ever. She has the right attitude to let guys know that she's not low hanging fruit. And that attitude gets her even more attention. She's a goddess and knows it. I think guys make fools of themselves thinking they're the only ones who tell her that. My fiancee was one of those girls when she was younger who was really chubby and jiggly, and she'd show off her jiggle in string bikinis and belly shirts because she was oblivious to how chubby she was. She never had any shortage of attention, but she ate it all up.
  13. How many people here are illiterate? I think a lot of people are just lazy with their writing on the internet. On the other hand, there are many great storytellers here. Some guys know how to write. There are some people in this community who I fear have not-so-great motives when encouraging women to gain. I think some guys here want to be controlling over women, whether it's so they gain to humiliate them or so they gain to immobilize them. They take pleasure in seeing others destroy themselves. I don't think it's the majority of people, but I think some of this type do exist. There's something about men encouraging women to gain into morbid obesity that I find disturbing. If a woman is already obese and wants to feel great about herself, that's amazing. If a woman happens to gain some weight, that's hot too. The part of this community that encourages someone to destroy their health is where I have a problem. There's something mentally unhealthy about that too, both for the person who is gaining and the people who are encouraging them to gain. On the other hand, this place should be a safe space for those who want to gain and enjoy seeing others gain.
  14. Congratulations on the gain! You looked frightfully skinny in the before pictures. What a beautiful beach ball belly you have! Is it all fat, or are you also bloated in these pictures? Have you been able to find clothes that fit comfortably with your belly? All I can say if that you have an amazing stomach to show off in your bikini this summer! A bikini might be the only thing that will fit you since you don't have to worry about your belly getting in the way.
  15. It looked like she forgot how to stand. But there was no trying to hide her gain (not that she could) and she's just standing there letting it all hang as if she's given up.
  16. I recently saw a photo of someone I previously dated who had plumped up quite a lot. When I dated her she was thick and curvy, with very large boobs (that had been reduced), wide hips, thick thighs and a potbelly. She had confidence in her body, and it showed. She was comfortable being in her underwear around me at all times, but she would try to pull her panties up over her lower belly. But in this recent photo she looked fat. She must have gained at least 50 pounds, with the gain most noticeably in her stomach and arms, but the biggest different was in how she was standing. I'm not sure what caused it. She wasn't posing but just looked plopped there. There was no confidence in her stance. I noticed her arms didn't fall to the sides but were being pushed out by her wider middle. And maybe she was standing differently because she couldn't comfortably support the extra weight in her belly. Does anyone know what makes fat people stand differently from other people? Is it mainly any of the reasons above, or is it something else?
  17. The main thing that I think stopping my fiancee from gaining is the need to buy more clothes. She's much thinner than the rest of her family, so she doesn't need to worry about hearing them complain, and I think anyone she knows would not shame her for gaining weight. She's already gained enough that half of her clothes (clothes that she loves dearly) do not fit her. She knows that she could gain a lot of weight and still have a hot body, as she was 60 pounds heavier when she was younger and got loads of attention for her curves. The cost of replacing a wardrobe is considerable, especially since she likes nice clothes. If I could afford to replace her clothes whenever she grew out of them, I think she would let herself go. But the other thing stopping her from gaining a lot is that she feels that a woman should not be heavier than their partner. She would feel ashamed if she weighed more than I weigh, even though it wouldn't both me at all. I'm about 20 pounds heavier than she is, so that's her ceiling. I don't want to gain weight, but her not weighing more than me is something I can deal with.
  18. You look beautiful! But it's not a proper fat girl summer without a bikini. You have the perfect body for a bikini, with bottoms that sit low under the stomach and low on the hips. When you have a stomach like that, it needs to be shown off.
  19. She hasn't gained any more weight since I last checked in, but I believe she's up a total of 13 pounds from her lowest. These last 3 pounds made a big difference in how she looks. At 3 pounds lighter a few months ago she looked good, but some days she had a starter belly and some days her stomach was practically flat. Now after gaining only 3 pounds, her body looks more consistently chubby. Now she always has a bit of a ** belly, and it's so soft. She has a curvy figure when standing up, but when she sits down her belly mushes into her lap. Many of her clothes are now too tight for her, but everything still fit her when 3 pounds lighter. So these last 3 pounds have made quite a difference. While she usually likes wearing pants and skirts high on her waist because she thinks they emphasize the small part of her waist, she ordered some pants that arrived this weekend that sit lower on her body a couple inches below her belly button. She tucked in her top to them and surprisingly to both of us made her look a lot slimmer. There was no trace of her ** belly. But when she took them off her belly looked so beautifully rounded. She's constantly telling me about how fat she's gotten, but I still tell her that she's thin and has a flat stomach. It's getting difficult for me to say it, but she loves to hear it. She only talks about how fat she got because she wants me to tell her she's not. She knows that if I don't tell her she's thin, she will think she's actually gotten fat. I'm thankful that she's still confident in her body.
  20. The second one looks magnificent. You have the perfect stomach for a bikini.
  21. When you get your new bikinis, don't hesitate to give us a fashion show.
  22. Belly hang can be different for different people. Some girls gain a ton and their belly just sticks out. Some gain just a little and they get a droopy belly. And some girls gain a lot and their weight doesn't go to their belly.
  23. Over the past month we spent a lot of time with my fiancee's family, who like a good meal and a good dessert. She's gained 3 pounds in that time, which doesn't sound like a lot, but it's noticeable. Her arms and thighs look thicker, and her belly is bulging a bit. The gain is mostly fat, but I think there's a good amount of water weight too because I've been getting her to stay better hydrated. She's upset about the gain, but I think only in the sense that her clothes are getting very tight, and she loves her clothes. She otherwise thinks she still has a hot body. She's constantly pointing out her bulging belly to me, either because she knows I like it or because she wants me to tell her that her stomach is still flat. I only tell her what she wants to hear, and she loves hearing that she's still thin and has a flat stomach. But she's looking thicker, flabbier and squishier, and it's amazing. Her BMI is only 21 now, and while her shape is classically curvy and doesn't look fat at all, she's got a lot of body fat. I'm afraid she's going to try to lose weight, which I really don't want. She turns me on more than she ever did, and it seems like she feels healthier too. When she weight a few pounds less she often felt ill because she was underweight or dehydrated. While I wouldn't mind if she gained 20 or 30 pounds more, I want her to be healthy and I don't want her to be fat. While I would have loved her 190-pound body from 20 years ago, she wouldn't carry that weight the same way any more and it probably would cause her some issues with her health. Her health is more important to me than anything, and I think her recent gain is a win-win because she's both curvier and healthier.
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