don't really post on here often but, jesus the way you phrase it makes it sound like a bad thing to be concerned if a person was manipulated into doing something like this or not. Sure, the way the other guy was vocalizing his concern was pretty shitty, but the place he's coming from isn't wrong. It's okay to feel concerned if you think she was manipulated into starting to take more action on gaining. All I have to say.
(inb4 entire thread turns into flame war and OP stops posting for a while because of it)