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  1. To put this weight gain into perspective, if she were 5'8" instead of ~5'1", she's already undergone the equivalent of going from 116 to 150 pounds. I STRONGLY recommend being more honest and forthcoming about your interests as she gains, because due to her height, she really doesn't have to gain much more weight to go from being mid-normal bmi and skinnyfat to being Actually Fat. She's already done a lot for you by fulfilling your fantasies. If you want the relationship (and her weight) to grow, you have to match that. You got a good thing going, don't let your own wants and needs mess it up.
  2. Libertarians are rarely skeptical of 'Pharma' or any corporate entity unless they see themselves as directly affected, so this is not a surprise. At the end of the day, what will affect drug efficacy is availability and accessibility and I highly doubt either will be sufficient to make a dent outside people that would already be in need of medical intervention. Once again ,this is a thread where the connection between increasing poverty and obesity has to be pointed to; if folk had the money for weight loss drugs, they'd have the money for the diets and exercise to prevent it without any complications.
  3. Marketing is an influence, but it isn't the most important one; imho it is more emblematic of the competition between fast food brands. Limiting advertisements targeted at kids is a policy that's seen significant interest and it is a good idea, but it's not going to work in isolation if you don't address the biggest underlying problems. The telltale signs of trying to victim blame on this topic are obvious and already lurking in this thread; 'fat people are addicted', 'fat people are dumb', 'fat people are easily tricked.' Those are all impediments from giving people agency over their weight and work to the advantage of lobby groups that benefit from locking in car dependency, stagnant wages and lassiez faire junk food laws.
  4. Fast food is by nature less filling and easier to digest, so yeah, you do in fact spend more time eating an apple than what have you. Compare the distribution of grocers and wholefoods stores to the distribution of drive-thrus. You don't even have to get out of the car and odds are you don't even have to detour on the way home so it is in fact a massive time-saver in the short-term, even if doing so constantly might be a bad idea. But hey, who has the time to number-crunch the exact difference between the two when one is more convenient than the other? Education doesn't magically make poverty stop having an impact, after all, poverty is the greatest impediment to access to education in the first place. You can say whatever pithy line you want, but single sentence replies aren't gonna cut it versus actual research. Blaming 'education' is one step removed from once again blaming people for living in a society that's structured explicitly to minimize exercise and maximize the extraction of money from working-class people. The weight game was rigged from the start.
  5. Doesn't matter how much the apples cost if you don't have the time to eat them, or you have to drive half an hour to buy them. Try again.
  6. 300 pounds.... maybe more like 280 FWIW, 250 would be massive over here in not-america, especially depending on height. Biiiiiig difference between dub fiddy on five feet versus six. I honestly see problems on both ends of the meeting, vpprof's takes here being pretty on point, even if they don't justify lying about something that's obviously central to your attraction. If pure numbers is what you look for in women, expect to be disappointed a lot, since you can't quantify people like that. Perhaps she wanted to play things up out of wanting to please people in the fetish. Perhaps by offering to pay you encouraged that deception? There's a lot of unknowns since obviously none of us were there but hopefully you can see how complex it can be. I really feel like this is part of the commercialization of the fetish as it's grown in size alongside the general population, for better or worse.
  7. There's an entire field of science that looks how where we live impacts our lives; health geography. If you want to take a look at why people fattened up and will continue to do so, I suggest reading up on topics like the Stroke Belt, Roseto Effect and Food Deserts. We've known why people have been collectively getting fatter for several decades. Nobody did enough to stop it. Like a lot of things, to understand what's going on you have to 'follow the money' and look at the built environment. You'll find the same common features across the fattest societies in America; high poverty, low density housing and car-focused infrastructure. The growth (heh) of obesity has been studied to death so we know that poor people are the first to blimp up, since they're probably working longer hours for less pay and loaded with stress. The further you have to travel since it's unaffordable to live where you work, the more you have to eat out and spend time sitting on your ass in traffic. Less time socializing as well, something that people probably wouldn't think of that also dramatically impact health. The lower standards of healthcare and lack of policy in red states are also partly to blame, as is diets in the south being high in fat and sugar, including traditional african-american diets. But said diets aren't a problem if you're active, socially-active and happy enough to compensate. Hence, why I name-dropped the Roseto Effect. Stress, poverty and cardiovascular disease are all linked to each other. It's no surprise that as the poor stay poorer and the rich get richer that obesity and obesity-related diseases continue to spike, while communities wealthy enough to eat fresh fruit and veg and hit the gym stay relatively thin. Being able to afford to see a doctor or living in a state with a better healthcare system also helps. Sugar taxes don't work if you can't afford healthier food and drink. Riding bikes or walking more doesn't work without the infrastructure to make it safe and practical. Actually changing things for the better requires dramatic shifts from car dependency and inequality, but that'd also herald the end of american capitalism so... fat chance. According to the stats, there's a big difference in obesity and related disease rates between north/inland and south/coastal florida, so it might be partly due to where you live. Plus, the constant influx of rich retirees into the state; the demographic most likely to be assholes and victim-blame younger people for the problems their generation caused. The vibe I get is that rich floridians hate poor floridians. In case Ricky's governorship didn't make that obvious by now.
  8. There's a selection of forumgoers obsessed with trying to gatekeep and I think this is partly why you get this kind of treatment. Anyone they think isn't giving them satisfaction gets treated like a 'grifter'. It's not about what you do, but what you are to them. You could be a GOMAD chugger downing pints of heavy cream but unless their obsession with 'progress' isn't met, then you're a target. There's a huge list of models that are subjected to this kind of parasocial bullying. I think the healthiest response is to ignore because I've yet to see people satisfied. Trying to please what someone else wants never goes well in reality, no matter what personal fantasies it gets tethered to. You do you, be upfront about it and if that's not enough, that's their problem.
  9. You know what actually causes homelessness? Commodifying housing. Sure, there's liberals* out there gentrifying everything they can get their hands on, but this is fundamentally a function of income inequality, where some people can afford to buy up properties and charge rent for the privilege of being housed and others cannot. Homelessness isn't caused by a person waving a sign at a walgreens or wanting wages high enough to afford the aforementioned rents. You can work multiple jobs and still be homeless if you're still only making minimum wage, especially if working so hard harms your mental and physical health and forces you to take time-saving shortcuts like eating out or driving everywhere, which also have a cost. By the same logic, being in a society that promotes productivity and affluence impacts you for the worse. The US invented consumerism and planned obsolescence, with media and marketing working together to invent new reasons to be jealous and envious of those with whatever new bauble just appeared in the shelves that month. And then there's the legacy of colonialism, where a huge portion of the american population are descended from slaves - either literal chattel slaves, or migrants acting as domestic servants. Whenever the US bombed a country or enabled its civil wars (philippines, south america, etc etc), it advertised itself as a destination for those with the means or the ambition to want their own slice of the 'american mythdream'. And then there's the standard of education, which is limited by its cost. By gatekeeping access to college behind wallets, the benefits of it are split by class and used as bait to lock young people into debt. There's no money for big business in seeing more female scientists but there's a lot to be made from advertising ways to make money from looks or continually redefine 'beauty' so they can sell more stuff. Student loans don't pay themselves after all. Looks are yet another commodity that people want and like any other thing of value, they're exploited. No other nation on earth has leaned into 'sex sells' quite like the US of A. So naturally, any human used to being treated by a commodity, will see those around them as potential exploiters. They've probably had to deal with leering eyes and denigration on some level. This can affect both genders, particularly black men and the racial stereotypes they're subjected to. Does this all automatically turn 'beautiful people' into less kind people? No. But given all the factors listed above that Americans have to deal with on a daily basis, it is understandable that it'd seem that way. The political responses you mention are just different coping mechanisms for the reality of the 22nd century. *Many liberals like calling themselves 'progressive' but few really are and fewer still are leftists. There's definitely not enough people on the 'far left' to have any kind of influence over social policy. and if they did, it'd make things better, lol.
  10. fair; I'm not a user, but don't begrudge anyone seeing what condition their condition is in
  11. 'Getting high' isn't the same as getting ** and is by almost all medical metrics safer than alcohol intoxication. You would objectively do less (if any) harm with edibles than drinking beer. Any attempt to use drugs to enhance weight gain directly or indirectly has drawbacks; the downsides for THC are less than most appetite enhancers, which often have a toxicity problem in larger doses or weren't developed specifically for it.
  12. No, it's the THC and certain analogues. https://examine.com/nutrition/cannabis-munchies/ is a fairly intelligible overview. The same effect can be gotten from other CB1 agonists, or any other pathway that increases ghrelin, though suppressing leptin has a clearly greater effect.
  13. Dating is interesting, because when this site started, there wasn't exactly anywhere else to go to for that other than ff and let's just say that site had its fair share of problems. That's changed somewhat since but newer alternatives also have problems such that even if it isn't actively used, it does mean that if a certain site burnt to the ground then there's somewhere for those interested in it to go. I don't personally use the dating section for dating, but I do like the features of the site geared towards it in the member list. I would personally find a groups system more functional because unlike the USA and its relatively high density of site members, the rest of the world tends to be more spread out. Rather than have various harder-to-find threads for x country or city, having geographical 'groups' acting as a sort of subforum would hopefully drive more activity. As great as it is to be communicating with people on the other side of the world, there's always an urge to tell the sheilas and blokes to hop on ozbargain for discount tinnies and snags, or grab an esky of stubbies for a piss up at the servo no I will not elaborate.
  14. Labels like 'right' or 'left' only exist to paint all politics along a single axis. It's dumb, reductive and exists only as a result of undemocratic two-party systems in certain wealthy and influential states. There are people framed as 'left' that actively undermine their supposed peers on social issues, just as the tea party and what became the 'alt-right' successfully shoved neoliberals into a corner by allying with christian theocrats. Those more or less in control of this narrative are those most likely to pander to the 'middle' that this model invents. Personally, the ideal social structure is whatever maximizes our humanity - what some german nerd might call 'gattungswesen'. This requires freedom from meaningless labour, respecting of bodily autonomy and preserving the most collective free will. Neither conservative nor liberal politics share an interest in this concept, since they both protect corporate excess and the exploitation that requires. Though of course, the former is a lot more explicit and openly hostile than the latter. There are plenty of toxic people out there in the community, they're just not posting in here yet (and are more likely to be on other sites). As long as their politics don't motivate them to directly harm others, I prefer to live and let live. At the end of the day, a Trump-voting redneck in the rustbelt is as twisted and enslaved by the influences around them as a chinese factory worker. Don't hate the player, hate the game.
  15. The best mindset to take imo is thinking about what kinds of policies would allow people to live their happiest lives for as long as possible. There's many benefits to universal healthcare in that regard, irrespective of size. As for other intersections of fetish and politics; since participation in a fetish should be by choice, policies that encourage obesity among those that don't actively want it is something I'd disapprove of. Health and happiness are foremost. Secondary to that is inclusivity; whether political power is used to exclude a group for the purpose of vilification. While Conservatives and many centrists have put in place policies that either encourage or dismiss obesity (encouraging car use, long work hours for low wages, pandering to processed food lobbyists, etc), it is tethered to proscribed self-loathing. 'Fatties on welfare' is an all-too-common victim-blaming attack line used to blame poor people for being poor. Even if a FA ignored other people's well-being, I would argue that it's a lot better to be in a relationship with one plump, happy person than to fail in dating ten people that are fat and miserable. Consent is central to engaging in feeder-feedee stuff without it potentially veering into abuse and a big reason why I would happily advocate against policies that give people less choice and autonomy over their bodies. Even in the case of a 'sugar tax', you can always add more sugar on top of a drink, but you can never take it out. I haven't seen any proposals for a Heavy Cream tax so far. 😛
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