Hey Curvage,
Looking for advice of sorts. I've been on here for years, across multiple reboots, I can't even remember when I started. This is however my first text post, so thanks in advance for reading.
I've been in many bad relationships over the years, either because I met the woman in our niche community only to learn sex was our only thing in common, or I was dating a "civilian" and we would frustrate each other sexually.
Yesterday I finally told my current S.O of one year everything that I was into, from stomachs to feeding. I even made a detailed powerpoint to help demonstrate other folks did it too (ridiculous I know). On the one hand she was relieved and thankful that I told her, as she assumed I was disinterested in her sexually, when in reality I was just too scared to share what I liked. But overall, she's uneasy. She's uneasy because she's become hyper-aware of her own body. She's been dieting and exercising like crazy recently, which has been amazing for her mood and self image. And now all of the sudden I effectively tell her that's a turnoff...which is heart-breaking to say. She feels too big for society and yet too small for me. She would NEVER gain a pound intentionally, and feels very uncomfortable discussing her weight.
At the end of the day, I of course love her at any size and regardless of this fetish. But we've both been sexually frustrated, and this just feels so familiar to past relationships where we couldn't agree in the bedroom.
How have you other folks handled these stark differences with your S.O.? Were you ever able to overcome them, or compromise?
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