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Yes. But I thought there had been other ones (before or after) but I can’t seem to find them.

Does anyone know where Candii’s past and latest weight and measurement updates have gone? Can’t to find them and it’d be interesting to compare..

I feel the same way. But acceptance of bigger/softer bodies when it comes to fitness or just life in general is tough when weight loss success stories being pushed forward look like this:

Cont’d

I may have gone overboard with the photos for “research”

In my original post, I’d say I was referring more to your average plus model, who in pictures looks somewhat average sized but in person would probably look larger. Now I know it’s tricky because some of them pose in athletic wear and don’t necessarily work out regularly. But some do actively post workout videos and I’m wondering how they achieve this body type where they look nice and thick, somewhat fit but still soft. I’m asking because it seems that all the women around me want to achieve the exact opposite and want to look like stick figures through exercise. Now my significant other has a friend who’s determined to lose weight, pressuring her to join her in her workouts a few times a week. I would never pressure her to gain or lose, but I’m just worried that her friend, who has a different body type to begin with, will rub off on her. Then again if that’s what she wants and she’s happy, who am I to say anything..

Hello, I was curious to find out different opinions about maintaining fitness levels while still having a soft curvy body/chubby bits. I understand not everyone aims for immobility but it seems like everything we like about bigger busts, booties, softer bellies and remaining active and flexible whether running, cycling, dancing, etc. don’t quite go hand in hand. Basically, is there a way to combine both?

Over 6 years Want to stick around.. would be terrible to split over something like this

Thanks for your replies @oatmeal and @ssbbwlove This is after our second kid and most likely her final pregnancy. She knew of this preference as she tried to hide it at first but now she feels unattractive to me. Although she feels good and everyone seems to compliment her for her weight loss. (Again if she had health issues or anything I would have an easier time with it but then again I can’t force her to like herself at a certain size) So I just don’t know what to make of it.. I won’t ask her to regain but ultimately the relationship will suffer since intimacy is becoming an issue... feels a bit selfish from my side of things because again I shouldn’t have a say in how she feels about herself and how she wants to look in the end. I also don’t control what attracts me. I know looks change over time. Illness, pregnancy, accidents, normal aging process.. but this was a voluntary change and feels like one of those ‘’just learn to accept it’’ type of situations.

Girlfriend wasn’t losing post baby belly after 7 months and and then one day decided to go on a secret diet. She told her best friend who had a baby 3 weeks before her and had recently lost the baby weight as well as her mother. The friend in question had always been flat chested and had small backside. Her mother has sometimes made comments about her hips and how she’d look better if they were a bit smaller. Not in a mean way, but always hinting that smaller is better when it comes to her body. After a few days, the topic came up because it was obvious something had changed since we weren’t eating together. For the record, she has never been huge (5’7, no more than 180 lbs post baby) and I look very fit(apparently, at almost 6’ and under 190 lbs). So our eating habits are decent (no extremes). We never spoke about my preference of her having a curvier body but she knew it since that’s why she said she hid the diet from me, thinking I might discourage her. She set a target of losing a minimum of 20 pounds which she did in about 6 weeks. After a week or two her belly was already mostly flat. Flash forward another 3 months and now she has lost even more it seems. Not on the scale but her breasts have shrunk (lost a few bra sizes). She no longer has thick thighs and her hips while still wide, don’t have the same look to them that gave her killer curves. Of course, this has resulted in my attraction going down and she’s noticed. I never said anything because I didn’t want to be a jerk. She suspected it and finally made me admit it now she’s disappointed about me not liking her changes. Again, since I don’t want to be a jerk I don’t want to tell her to change. So we’re kind of stuck. I know on here a lot of people are FAs and will see this as nothing since it’s light weight but like I had told her, it’s not the number of the scale, it’s the way her weight is distributed. Her body simply isn’t the same. I can see some bones in places I couldn’t before, doesn’t feel the same to touch. Seeing her clothes loose on her and old pics is almost depressing to me considering how things were before. Anyone ever been in a situation like this before? What advice would you have for me? Obviously, I don’t want to ruin her confidence or give her body issues and end up having her resent me over this (although it was her decision..) I am just confused about how to talk to her about this. Thanks (and sorry for the long read) edit: I should probably add that we get along great and don’t fight about anything really (generally speaking) so I feel like this matter makes me somewhat superficial

For me, her ballooning isn’t as much of a worry as it is that she ends up looking like one of those before and afters from all the workout transformations we see online. I just hope she maintains her curves and softness..

First time posting. I was wondering if any of you could discuss their experience or had any advice regarding this. I enjoy my girlfriend’s curves and softer body. She is not very big 5’7, usually around 165-70, lately perhaps around 185. She is joining a gym and wants to lose weight. I want her to be healthy and active but am also a worried about her body changing, selfishly I know. I would not say anything to stop her from doing what she wishes. I’ll encourage her if it makes her feel better. I was wondering how those who have dealt with similar situations felt or if you had even discussed it with your partner. Also, maybe the other way around can be discussed. About weight gain. Thank you