Bubblegump

Hi! I'm looking to reach out and chat with other feeders. Sharing progress of our feedees, useful weight gain tips, and general discussion on feedism and the lifestyle. If anyone's interested, shoot me a message.

This is a topic I've been interested in for a while, but there's little "real" science on. Genetics is definitely a large factor, but it does seem that it can be influenced by food/exercise/re-gaining. As bangs15 mentioned, the potbelly look is usually caused by visceral fat extending the stomach. I've read a few posts that the types of food you eat also impacts this. I'm not completely sold, but it does seem that dairy fat promotes subcutaneous fat. Heavy cream for example. Fat distribution through the food you eat seems unrelated from what I've read. I'm certain that significant weight loss and regain creates a less defined and softer appearance. The loose skin refilling seems to still be softer and give you more soft fun fat. Additionally, the fat in thighs/arms seems harder to burn away as the fat cells don't burn, they just shrink. This study suggests that https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3396439/ . Abdomen fat burned faster than extremity/lower body fat. There aren't many studies on this as fat distribution from re-gaining weight isn't a common topic of interest. Also, exercise burns visceral fat easier, so the regain would cause a higher ratio of soft fat with less muscle mass. My own experience with this, I had an ex girlfriend who was incredibly flabby and rolly. When we met she hovered around 260 and I was lucky enough to have her grow to around 320 before we split. She never liked being fat and had yo-yo dieted many times before we met. This stretching of the skin, losing, then refilling made it softer and flabbier each time I believe. Complete lack of muscle definition. In contrast, my current girlfriend is an avid gainer/feedee and is around 350 and has never truly lost. She carries her weight evenly but a bit more in her stomach. Relatively firm too. She would stuff junk food to gain and I have a hunch this influenced her shape due to gaining more visceral fat. She's starting to lose down to 250 to safely have kids down the road, so I'm fascinated to see if her body shape changes. I plan to take measurements for current, low weight, and future regain weight just for my own pervy curiosity.

Seems like you're on track then. If shes not even wanting to drive thats a level of laziness mine didn't even hit. There were some moments where I'd be frustrated having to wait on her so much. Cleaning up the house or running errands while she was planted on the couch. Then I'd see her drinking 2k calorie desserts I got her in the habit of making her. I'd have to remind myself it was all worth it for how fat she was growing.

Your wife may have a similar condition to what mine had. She had an absurdly low metabolism which led to sleeping long times and being lazy overall. She would just migrate from bed to the couch and the fridge some days. It made it very easy to fatten her as anything she ate would never be burned off. Likewise, she would be pretty worn out and complain about having to walk more than room to room. I distinctly remember her taking an Uber a couple blocks away after gaining. She'd also request j drive the car to pick her up to avoid walking a few minutes on multiple occasions. Like I said before, it's a snowball effect. Once they get in that mindset it's really tough for them to break out.

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Hopefully time is helping to heal and grieve. Focusing on a hobby like this can be very distracting and also rewarding. The tracking, meal planning, gambling with the extra bit of heavy cream is very fun. Although my current partner enjoys eating and gaining herself, I do miss those days sometimes. Watching my former partner eat herself into an obese woman unintentionally was one of the hottest moments of being a feeder. Seeing the scale continue to creep up each week to her dismay was guiltily satisfying. I see you have set 220 as a goal weight, but once you hit that I wouldn't be shocked if you go past. Mine snowballed once she hit 250 and I had a 330 lb girl with me by the next year. The subtle feeding definitely helped, but she was barely walking a block or so by then much to my delight.

It doesn't have to be just summer, by using hot chocolate you can make it a year round activity. It's definitely addicting to push your luck with it, so I'm sure it will be more than a couple times lol.

If you can slowly work heavy cream in it will do wonders. 2000 calories a night will make even a girl your size already balloon fast. My ex went from plus size to massive with that approach

It honestly sounds like you have an amazing situation going as is. Depending on your age, a girl in the 350s during her 20s will easily be well over 400 in her 30s and 40s. You dont need to rush things, she's growing herself at this point. You've already got a massive girl :) I commented in AllGrownUp's thread about an experience I had with an ex training her with milkshakes. Very effective when done right. My current partner is 340 and she wants to hit 425 in a few years. As much as I'm excited about the extra weight, I've got plenty of fat to play with as is

She more put up with being fat than enjoyed it, but knew well that I preferred fatter women. I'd voiced that I'd love to see her at the 400 lb mark one day. Once I pushed her past 300 lbs she basically accepted that she was going to be obese at that point. As she got lazier I mentioned making her dessert one night. I made a shake with a small amount of heavy cream with ice cream. Throw some fruit in and it even seems healthy. She drank it without hesitation while watching tv. Over time I increased the ratio until a cup of heavy cream was being added. It was definitely manipulative, but too easy to stop doing. Definitely give her some time before trying anything remotely like that. and be cautious because it is a slippery slope. Once she was on that path she was basically eating herself up 2 lbs a week.

Loved reading the updates so far and sounds like you've made great progress. It's amazing to watch the transition and the psychological side of things is super hot. Seeing them slowly get used to gaining weight, it's as if obesity and loss of control becomes normalized. I've had similar success with a former girlfriend. I was able to encourage/guide her to grow from 240 to 330 lbs over just a couple years. At first I used simple tactics like keeping snacks around and encouraging desserts. I then subtly bought a blender and stepped up to suggesting homemade milkshakes. I knew she was nervous as she neared the big 300, but was able to get her used to milkshakes most nights a week. With some heavy cream added in she was happily drinking 2000 calories a night before bed. It honestly did wonders and was a lifechanging amount of weight and beautiful to watch.

Congrats!!!