Starstacker

Ever since I was a kid I've always thought fat women were very pretty, and as an adult that obviously led to sexual attraction. I love chubby cheeks, full arms, plump fingers, round bellies, wide hips, soft thighs, and breasts and behinds that make what the mainstream considers "big" look tiny. I've never considered any Hollywood starlet attractive. They're too bony and lacking in curves, I guess. In contrast, my past girlfriends have weighed about 300 pounds on average.

I have never once felt ashamed to be seen with someone I think is attractive. One of my exes was over 300 pounds, heavy enough that she was paranoid about what she sat on for fear of breaking furniture, and at no point did I feel embarrassed to be seen with her.

To save anyone the disappointment, it's my understanding that the woman has a fatal heart attack on the next page after the last one shown here.

For almost a year now I've been trying to educate myself on objectification and other feminist issues. I've got to say, though, that even after reading many forum posts and Tumblr blogs and Wikipedia pages and whatever else I'm still not certain I understand the idea behind objectification. I think it basically means "treat a person the way they want to be treated and not just as something to facilitate your desires", but every now and then I run into comments that make it seem like objectification refers to deriving pleasure even from depictions not based on real people. Like several other posters, I too find it strange that women who are so upset by the idea of men using their likenesses for sexual pleasure are willing to post nude images of themselves publicly for all to see. I get that they're posting these images to rebel against mainstream beauty standards and not to attract "male validation", but you'd think they'd send each other these images in private e-mails. Personally, I'm at the point where I'm more interested in seeing sites aimed at providing sexual fantasies for women so I can understand how different or similar the female conception of sexuality is to my own than I am in reading another screed implying that finding someone's body sexually attractive is immoral, as the article linked in the OP seems to be stating. If it is wrong for me to have sexual thoughts when I see a fat woman's body, is it also wrong for her to have sexual thoughts whenever she sees whatever kind of person she finds attractive? If she's into fit and muscular guys, for example, does she sink into self-hatred whenever she sees a set of chiseled abs?

Are you kidding me? I'm not against posting animated clips (Passion Patties is like the animated WG holy grail), but the woman in that video becomes a lumpy, amorphous blob.

I see what you're saying. Heck, I've even had non-FAs tell me things like this. I guess I'm just very risk averse.

Yeah, but the difference is that those health risks aren't related to something I find physically attractive. I'll understand if this is too personal and you'd rather not talk about it (and I hope you won't be offended; please let me know if you'd like me to delete this post), but I've always thought "surely all these BBW models can't be ignorant or in denial of the health risks of being as fat as they are". Do you never have moments where you worry that you'll one day regret putting on as much weight as you have? I look at other BBW models who have purposefully gained weight (especially Kellie Kay, but also Stuffing Kit, Foxy Roxxie and others) and think "aren't they worried about possibly cutting their lives short?" I honestly think you look really beautiful, Caitidee, but I almost feel guilty saying that because I don't want to encourage someone to ignore a potential health risk just because some guy on the Internet thinks it looks good (that's also why, despite really wanting to, I haven't bought any of your or any other BBW models' clips4sale videos). I think a person's quality of life is more important than their ability to make me horny, but I also realize that people can have different ideas of what kind of life they would like to live. I also feel like I need to be honest and say that part of my concern is based on my own personal anxiety issues. I have generalized anxiety disorder and have had periods of obsessive fear throughout my life regarding various subjects (for example, my grandmother died of heart disease when I was young, and I was so fearful that I would have heart disease too that the only way my mother calmed my fears was by getting me a portable ECG machine that I could turn on whenever I thought my chest felt strange; I think I was 9 when this happened, BTW). I guess my own fears are blown out of proportion and I find it strange when other people don't worry about things that would be intolerably stressing to me. Heck, here I am talking about how I would worry about the health of a fat SO when they would probably have more to worry about my health, given the negative effects of stress on my heart brought-on by my obsessive anxiety disorder.

I myself am in kind of a weird predicament. I've never had a girlfriend (not because I'm so creepy no one would ever date me, but because I never really cared to until now), and I don't know if I want to date a fat girl or more slender girl. I find fatter girls more attractive, but I hesitate in dating one because I'm a borderline health nut that knows the extra chub I love to look at online is actually a potential health risk. I'd feel guilty as hell if the health of a girl I was with was compromised by a condition related to excessive body fat, even if I had nothing to do with her weight. The fact that the extra body fat that gives her the shape I find most appealing might have contributed to her illness would be hard to bear. To better illustrate what I mean, just imagine if you are really, really into girls who tan and your partner, who you haven't pressured into tanning but you partially got with because she tanned regularly before you even met, develops skin cancer that was likely caused by excessive tanning. Sure, you didn't make her tan, but the trait you associate with beauty is the product of life decisions that could possibly lead to disease. I'm leaning towards dating thin girls; I don't find them as attractive as bigger ladies (although I do find them at least somewhat attractive), but they won't have any physical traits I admire that are possible health risks. If fatness only affected a woman's appearance and not their health, however, you better believe that I'd be hunting for a fat girl to shack up with and not giving a second thought to thin girls. Here's an example of how my internal "fat girl vs thin girl" debate goes: There's a delightfully plump lady who works at a movie theater near where I live. She wears glasses, is probably around 230 pounds, has a cute double chin, a pudgy-yet not huge belly, and a full rear end with thick thighs. I can barely keep my eyes off her (I hope she hasn't caught me staring), and I'd love to date her; however, my health-focused mind is thinking "she's definitely overweight, if not obese, and excessive weight is linked to diabetes, heart disease, and even various forms of cancer". Meanwhile, there's another glasses-wearing girl working at a bookstore I go to who seems unusually excited whenever I show up (once my cousin was with me when this girl was working checkout; later, when I asked "Is it just me, or does that girl seem like she likes me?", my cousin replied with "YES. She practically started babbling like an idiot when she saw you."). That girl has a pretty face and has actually attempted to make conversation with me several times, but she's really skinny; I have a hard time recalling what the rest of her other than her face looks like, whereas the figure of the girl from the theater is burned into my memory. I'd really be interested in what actual BBW posters in this thread think of my position.

I was that way for a while and ended up gaining quite a bit of weight as I started getting pizzas more often. The problem is that people (once including myself) often don't know how to make tasty vegetarian meals and end up with bland taste experiences that drive them to eating veggie burgers and chips all the time. Instead of just eating some salad mix I'm experimenting with mixing all sorts of different foods; the other day I ate broccoli, roasted almonds, carrots, mushrooms, canteloupe, brown rice, and crowder peas all in one meal.