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  1. Helloo and welcome! So what first got you into writing, and what are some common themes you tend to incorporate?
  2. I don't see why you would expect her to make that "mutual response." when you aren't communicating that effort is for her. You're making the choice to work out in hopes that she'll put two and two together. It's perfectly fine to want reciprocation, but feeling disappointment when you're not communicating why you're doing what you're doing kind of seems a bit unfair. I don't see why you want to push it when it's clear it's just something she's not interested in. As for why one is a bigger ask than the other, comes down to a few points. As you mentioned previously some people can be rather harsh judgemental of people of size and you wanted to make your partner feel more comfortable by being their ideal. One get's physical fitness whilst the other gives up their fitness potentially which probably isn't ideal given that you have children now. Not to mention health risks that can come from gaining give or take how far they go and if they can maintain a certain weight and not snowball out of control. And while you say you want 10 are you entirely sure it would stop there?
  3. You knew what you were getting yourself into. She made her stance clear aswell so I really don't know what you're expecting. Also are you hitting the gym because she asked/ expects it of you? Or are you just putting this effort in because you think that's what she wants from you and hope that it'll get her to change her mind. Either way it just kinda sounds like you're just spinning your wheels expecting something that was never guaranteed to happen to begin with. If it's truly that big of a deal perhaps ask her about bringing food into the bedroom and roleplaying a little on occasion? It atleast sounds like she accepts your desires and decided not to diet to accommodate you somewhat. But at the end of the day it is kiiiiiind of a big ask. And getting ancy this far into your relationship when she made it clear several times given the position your both in now with two kids is probably not the right frame of mind to be in.
  4. So who do you contact if it lasts more than four hours. Your hair stylist or your Doctor?
  5. I mean curvage has this modeling thing that you can probably look into. It's down to whether or not you wanna commit to something like that though.
  6. Aye there's definitely a happy middle possible. You can build muscle under chub. You can enjoy food whilst maintaining your weight. It's just a matter of how much work you wanna put into that. It's not going to be easy but the things worth fighting for generally are never easy. If you wanna have you're cake and eat it too so to speak. And I suppose I can see where you're coming from on asking others for advice. But honestly it's better to reach out if you aren't sure. It's just knowing when to put your own ideals infront of others. Where you are most comfortable at and not what your mother, or your boyfriend or what us internet strangers think. It's your body and you're going to be living with it for the rest of your life so you might as well get comfortable. If you do wanna maintain/ and or find a happy medium maybe ask a doctor/ nutritionist about how you can maintain a certain weight. "I want to remain this weight. I'm not interested in losing it or gaining it. I want a nice healthy middle ground to maintain." Think of calories as a currency so to speak.
  7. Awww you're adorable! Ah So quick question. When you asked about messaging you, is it due to not being comfortable talking about them publicly or just looking to get to know folks one on one? I mean it probably seems dumb to ask about the first case but I am curious.
  8. Aww you're adorable. Love your hair it's so cute! And I don't know. I feel like your response was fair. It was a response to commentary on you/ the mentality of people into gaining. It was something new for you, you wanted to try it and you gave it a shot and found you weren't comfortable. It's your body and you gotta be comfortable living with it. Saying it's a lie really ins't fair given that there's a lot more that comes into play besides living out the fantasy. Glad to hear that you're doing better though.
  9. Basically he seems unsure/ nervous as most things relating to this stuff kinda goes against the grain. And he probably doesn't know where to go from here and is unsure of how to continue or tackle the road ahead. He may have even had a bad experience or two sharing his preference. While you may be understanding and accepting of his desires a fair amount wont be as well and I'm sure he appreciates your acceptance. He might try and talk to you more about it if you back up a little and reassure him if he does want to try something new. But if he doesn't want to talk about it there's nothing much to be done to understand and learn what it's about. Which you're doing which is another fantastic step. However all of it is quite a large spectrum to be honest and even he may not be aware of all it's facets. Hell he may be into things such as teasing, feeding, encouraging you to gain more, or even crushing? Honestly it's all up in the air about what "all of it" entails. That's something only he can clarify unfortunately. Maybe try and see what it is he likes about your body? Not entirely sure to be honest.
  10. Aye detail is key. Every word, every detail, and tidbit is another lure for deeper conversation and my lord when one pops off. I guess I prefer someone that's bottom heavier honestly. Where do you're arms come to wrest when your arms are wrapped around them? The waist/ hips area generally. It kinda gives the general curvature aswell. It's just such an appealing shape to me and it drives me crazy. Also the thought of resting your head on their lap is so nice. ❤️ But in general I just like how it feels. Someone soft and warm and so snuggly. I remember one of my friends sitting on my lap and it was so comfy. Felt like my heart was going to burst out of my chest but I didn't want it to end. Just having someone so soft and cuddly so close was enough for me honestly. Eh I guess I joined this place when I was younger and still hang around to peek but it normally isn't worth dipping into any thread as it generally becomes heated and just.. Not interesting in getting into most of the conversations that happen after a certain point. I don't really have a favorite to be honest. I've been around awhile on a few different sites such as this, and FF. But they people you meet generally kinda dissapear after awhile, usually without a rhyme or reason. Though I guess there's one person that really had me over the moon with their responses. It was so much fun talking to them and seeing them express their passion for feederism. They hit me up on FF and were a bit flirty from the start, and the few sentences become novels worth of content between us it was so fantastic and I loved every moment of it. The way things kinda bounced off one another and the subtle aspect of feederism that kinda played. You see they were kinda on the opposite end. A smaller lady that liked softer men. But they did have their curiosity peeked at the thought of trying it. And apparently I'm fairly convincing based on past conversations with others and them. "One day I'm undecided and the next it's all I can think about. You really are a terrible influence." Which is honestly something I love to hear. I guess I sorta derive pleasure from the tabooo nature of it and hearing how I can push someone so easily into trying the feedee experience when they were so unsure at first. Perhaps it's some weird power play thing... No entirely sure but it was always one of my favorite encounters. And then one day they were gone. No incident to incite it, or qualms. Just a straight up disappearing act. But I understand I suppose sometimes things get a bit to real, or sometimes other things catch up or perhaps it wasn't what you wanted. It was fun while it lasted and I enjoy reading over it now and again. I do miss em though. I guess that's why I wanted to pop in here. Just seeing a similar sense of zeal and excitement made me happy.
  11. God I love this thread. I love the answers you give it's such a joy to read through the responses and see the general enthusiasm and life in this thread. See pictures and shit are great but it's the general excitement and enthusiasm that really drives me wild. Seeing someone passionate and ready to explore or dive into new territory. Listening to their thoughts and feelings on the subject matter and hearing their desires is just "YES PLEASE!" Someone that you can bounce off of back and fourth for hours on end. I know it probably seems like an out of the blue post but I just had to express this. So many times I've met people that have basic responses. "Oh they might be uninterested fair enough." But when they still reach out and it's just a lack of passion... It drives me up a freakin wall. People that can get into the details and nitty gritty and can explore and share their feelings and interest and draw out the next topic are a fucking treasure. And you are most certainly a treasure and I thank you for your answers, understanding, and downright general enthusiasm. Definitely my favorite thread.
  12. Hell yeah! Things got left on a fairly bittersweet spot. So hearing that you want to share it and left it up with a strawpoll kinda has my curiosity stirring. Did something good happen? Are things still in neutral? There's the possibility for something bad, but If something bad did happen I doubt you'd be taking this approach and speaking with that tone.
  13. Continue to respect her. You got way more of a positive result keeping calm and trying to support her decision. And perhaps things may get back on a positive track now that it's on her and not you. She can't blame you for her current size now. And she seems to recognize that with her recent response. She's definitely someone with initiative and if she wants you around I'm sure she'll tell you. Hell that one seems like somewhat of a possible hint of things being on the mend. Just don't go trying to push it is all. In The meantime it's probably best to kinda focus on yourself and take your mind off her. If it's meant to be she will return. If not you might aswell keep an open mind to new possibilities.
  14. Yes because that usually works out so well... I mean fuck man haven't you seen those threads where people post screenshots of people they bloody know behind their backs on here? Clearly that shit doesn't work. Or people who post things from private instagrams on here or elsewhere like DB. At that point why bother being around? You don't get to meet anyone or get the confidence boost/ enjoyment from the good eggs. Not only that you become the jack ass who just wants people to fawn over you, who doesn't care about their community. People will see you as selfish, and self serving... No matter what you do in this position you can never win. You're always being punished and thought poorly of for posting material for others enjoyment. Unfortunately even when they are the minority the fanbase is usually large enough to still leave it's marks. Especially when they attack you with throw away accounts It's easy to feel like they are in larger mass. Especially when they go out of their way to do it. Most fans will say cut and copy phrases that don't sound like theres any genuine thought or care into it. Some do go above and beyond and it's great. But then theres those that hammer you with shit like dick picks, or paragraph upon paragraph of what your doing is disgraceful and shameful and blah blah blah. Yeah right, sadly not every mod is so willing to lend a hand. You have to jump through hoops proving you're the real deal, you have to explain the situation time and time again whenever you're harassed... It's like being the tattle tale at school. You rat on people, the teachers give them a stern talking to... And then you get the snot kicked out of your for trying to look for help. It's a no win situation that turns something that was meant to be fun into work. Why go to such lengths to keep in touch with a community that put's you through this ringer? Why go through so much trouble You have to go to the police over being harassed and explain some crazy story and deal with the " Eh shoulda thought twice for posting online." Their advice and kfd's advice to girls equates to the same thing... Don't fucking post shit online. And of course the world is far better with the internet than without. But just as it has many great values in serving us, it also hands out plenty of hindrances for people to abuse such power. That is the number one way to make shit worse for yourself. That's just bloody antagonizing them and starting a war with an enemy you don't know, and telling them what defenses you may have if you're not bullshitting the phrase to begin with. Empty threats are a VERY bad idea...
  15. Except in your example it's on a much, much smaller scale and both parties have clear ownership of what they have to say. Trying to compare the real world isn't exactly an even scale. Most of these girls are putting themselves out there, giving out something nice, for a little praise and finding self confidence. A relatively fair an equal trade. But then you realize you've opened yourself up to a number of people who never had to input anything to begin with, the abusers set in. Fine some of them want money in return, proceed as you will respectfully and with caution. Personally I'm the sort that wouldn't hand out money unless I saw them as a trusted friend and just avoid them together or they really needed it. No insults, no arguments, I'm just not picking up what their putting down. Genuinely shitty, and terrible people who will harass you night and day to get more or just to be assholes because you're putting yourself in a position of vulnerability.. Dealing with one obsessive dickhead is bad enough, but imagine 50 of them getting all hoity toity. They have no face, they have no trace, and can get away with saying whatever the fuck they want behind closed doors, and they come in such droves you can't possibly deal with them all in any reasonable amount of time. Not to mention the assholes who will try slipping on some other side pretending to be you... Do you know how many times I've had to report a profile for impersonating someone I know on FF? Fucking too many man... =/ Most of these girls just want some genuine mutual respect. Sometimes they have things to do, and have friends and other relations to deal with. But some people refuse to respect that. Sometimes trying to guilt trip you, or stalking you, or just sharing things they have been asked not to share. And yet we see again and again that it's simply too much to ask. And dealing with it in large numbers can drive anyone to the point of being livid. Why are people treating you with such little respect when you're giving them content to "enjoy" usually asking for nothing in return, or simply asking to trade content for cash. It's not fun dealing with the onslaught of "Oh this is a morph, oh you haven't gained enough, oh you're not into this particular niche of the fetish so you're a fake." I mean hell this their body we are talking about. Weight gain ain't exactly 100% risk free... And it sure as hell doesn't come without harsh judgement from society, family, and friends. There's plenty of people who have left the community that I've manged to keep in contact with. Why? Because I respect them, I give them reasons to trust me, and maintain that trust. If someone wants to leave the community, do they really owe you an explanation when they hardly know you? If they feel like they aren't enjoy the experience, and aren't receiving any respect period,or mildly threatened..... Would you honestly stay/bother with a thoughtful goodbye to the masses?
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