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I definitely agree but a few things 1) Most shows I go to are 80% men, and most women there have boyfriends with them 2) I like a lot of metal and hardcore techno and these genres aren't really conducive to having a chat with people at least not unless you can get them somewhere private. Often people just sort of turn up then leave after without necessarily mingling with many people 3) These shows can be infrequent, and expensive and I'm already struggling to make ends meet I've been struggling to think of the best places to meet women offline. Meet none at work. Friends all have partners and don't go out much. Gym doesn't really seem appropriate plus I'm not really attracted to any women at mine. coed sport, dance classes, volunteering etc can be great because you learn new things whilst getting to know people organically, but in my experience the chances of meeting someone single who Im actually attracted to is pretty slim. Less chubby women there too. Nightclubs are obviously the most efficient, lot's of single women looking to mingle, but I honestly hate clubs and bars these days, so I probably come across as though I'm just there to try and get women, because frankly I am, which isn't very attractive (even though they must know deep down that's why 90% of men go out). I'm also trying not to drink and trying to get into a good sleep pattern which doesn't play to well with going out to these places. I have approached a few women at the shops, park etc and it's gone alright, women generally seemed flattered not freaked out even if they weren't interested, and I got one date this way, but it can be a bit uncomfortable and tough when we have nothing obvious in common. But if a really sexy lady walks by and she doesn't seem to be in a hurry and the setting isn't inappropriate, I feel like I'm dumb not to take the chance. Anything is better than dating apps, but you can see why I end up crawling back to them

Yeah it seems that way. A lot of people attempt to normalize ghosting even after a date and the whole radical shameless narcissism movement where you don't owe anyone anything doesn't help. I think especially if you've got a plan in place or you've had a date you do actually owe someone a message. Like how fucking self-absorbed have we become that we think we don't owe anyone decency. I know sometimes guys don't react well to rejection and get aggressive but if that's the case then they can block. Without sounding too arrogant I try to remind myself that some women don't really know what's good for them. Including educated seemingly intelligent ones. One girl ghosted me after a date then ended up dating a biker single dad wannabe tough guy who goes on unhinged rants on facebook. There I was thinking I must not have measured up somehow while she winds up with that sack of shit.

Another woe is me post. But imagine this, Meet someone on a dating app (maybe that's my first problem) She's very cute, almost 6 foot, slender but holds extra weight in her belly, well educated, interesting hobbies weird taste in music. So she's basically my ideal body type and personality. She's enthusiastic and carries her side of the conversation as we chat so I get her on social media and we chat for a couple of days including a video call (her idea, I usually hate them). At one point she even sent me a link to a new pastry place that's opened up nearby and said as much as she wants a flat stomach she likes food too much. I was thinking holy fucking shit I might have hit a jackpot here. (I wouldn't encourage someone to indulge in feedism, but if they have that sort of relationship with food it's a good thing) We made plans to meet at a local thai restaurant. On Thursday she randomly stopped responding as we're talking, I heard nothing from her the rest of the night. I send her a message Friday at lunch time to ask if she's still up for seeing each other that night but got no reply. Friday night comes and goes, I check Saturday morning and she's disappeared off Instagram - I check with another account and see she's still there so she's blocked me. This is maybe the fifth time in the last year or two this has happened where someone I've been really keen on has either ghosted or in one case stood me up on a date or after a date, despite me being patient, respectful, engaging etc and choosing women who seem interested in longterm relationships not just hit and quit casual sex. I'm more confused than mad. What is going on with these people? Did their ex come back into the picture? Did they just meet someone they prefer? Did they get cold feet and feel awkward communicating it? Did they misinterpret something I said? I can understand if they realized they weren't interested but to block someone seems or even ghost without messaging them seems a bit extreme. I would think that a 6 foot well educated woman would have a pretty narrowed dating pool, if they're looking for guys who are really tall + also educated, respectful, interested in a longterm relationship, and I can't imagine what would cause them to pull the pin on someone who seems to be what they're looking for. Meanwhile women I'm half hearted about seem eager to meet me. It's like a curse where if I'm really into them I know something will get in the way. I know I will never know the reason behind this sort of shit but I just want to vent, or with anyone who's ghosted people at the last minute, why did you do it? Anyway I'm just exhausted with it.

I'm sort of the same, and I prefer chubby/potbelly look to all out BBW (which I know is mostly determined by genetics) but it's also the reason why I remind myself that the whole gainer and feedee thing is unsustainable in a partner which makes me feel a bit less frustrated for never indulging it offline. I know at a certain point I'll stop finding them as attractive and that's not fair on them especially if I had been encouraging them to gain earlier Also I think encourage might even be a strong word, I'll let them know that I like ladies with extra pounds, I wouldn't mind if she gained a bit, but not going to try to persuade her to gain for my sake if she doesn't really want to

Yo mama so fat she left the house in high heels and came home in flip flops so fat when there's a fool moon she turns into a warehouse so fat I had to enter panorama mode to take a photo of her and then I ran out of storage so fat when she asked for a water bed they put a tarp over lake havasu so fat she only attracts men through gravitational pull

The plot thickens when I think back on how many feedees and gainers have (and gone) for what I would call the wrong reasons. I've talked to maybe a few hundred feedees over the years, and a non trivial portion of them fell in to that camp; women who wanted to destroy their bodies out of self-hatred, who were desperate to make money and didn't care about the risks, guys who wanted to fatten up their partner with an ulterior motive, people who were clearly mentally unwell - you certainly couldn't call this sort of thing empowering. I don't want to pathologize fetishes, but I'll never accept something like death feedism and immobility. I don't care if it's consensual, it's deranged and needs to be discussed with mental health professionals, not enthused by cumbrained crowds on the internet who don't give a shit about people's wellbeing as long as they're getting off. But on the flipside I think if someone is overeating/gaining to the extent that it's not seriously impacting their health and life or putting a burden on other people or the healthcare system, then it doesn't deserve to be demonized, and content that encourages women to be unhealthily skin and encourages undereating is comparatively much more dangerous, as well as several other fetishes that come to mind. Overall it would be a huge shame if most sites just uniformly purged all feedism content because I'd still say most of it isn't exactly harmful.

I never said they were ethical I just don't think they're particularly harmful, and I was comparing them to things I see as being more damaging but which people generally take less or no issue with. The murder analogy is just a strawman. If you're uncomfortable with the idea of someone taking some candid photos of you, what do you make of the people who eye fuck you as they walk past and add you to that evenings wank bank? Or having guys jack off over your social media photos? Is it the idea of existing in someone's camera roll that disturbs you? That's a valid view I'm just wondering where you draw the line.

Good lord you are one spicy senorita 😍 pretty well perfect as you are but I think a couple more pounds wouldn't hurt either

Specifically because of how sexy you find them and particularly in the context of these kinks - for the guys into SSBBW or those like myself who prefer disproportionately chubby bellies, to those of you who find huge asses and thighs to be irresistible. Have you ever walked past someone in public, or met a coworker, neighbor, classmate, teacher, or anyone who's body was so incredible that it left you almost hypnotized? I've seen a few people who fit the description, and they've become partly etched into my memories. The first one maybe even kickstarted this whole kink for me - my primary school teacher fell pregnant and gained weight, transforming from thin to a huge belly which somehow still looked soft since she had gained weight - I distinctly remember before she dropped she was helping me with something and lent over me, then reached up to stretch, as I got a glance of basically her entire belly...I was too young to really interpret it sexually, but something was stirring deep inside me. I still don't know why I found that so attractive though - that's another topic I guess. Another one that jumps out was at a house party in high school, a cute girl from another school was having a drinking contest and chugged her beer, then let out an earth shattering burp, plus was wearing a tight white dress that revealed a huge bloated belly almost like 6 months pregnant whilst the rest of her was stick thin, so noticeable that someone even asked her what she's going to call the baby. Again I was basically mesmerized by it and I had to use all my willpower not to show my excitement. I'm usually pretty good at talking to women but I could barely think straight around her. And another one that sticks out was a few years back at LAX as I was heading to the gate to board a plane I spied a latina or native lady who literally looked like she was 12 months pregnant, with thin arms and legs and a hot thin face, but she was drinking wine at one of the bars, and the softness around her back indicated that she just held all the weight in her belly. I didn't want to stare but I couldn't help it. I even thought about asking her number, but I didn't even live in the US, and I had a plane that I was late for at that point. I couldn't help but feel bad about the fact that she probably absolutely hates her body type and whatever guy she ends up with probably won't appreciate it either. Anyway has anyone else had encounters like this which really piqued your kink and just made your jaw hit the floor? And what was the context?

If you've never seen a guy ogling a woman in public you've obviously never been in public because I've seen it in every city of every country I've ever been to. In some places it's more 'acceptable' than others, and in some backwards places the women even have to wear garments to cover their bodies so that men aren't sexually tempted by them. I agree that's not the same as secretly taking photos of them, although I would argue that it can be if it makes the woman feel uncomfortable, relative to doing something that she will never even know about or be impacted by. For all you know people have done the same with you, but you don't dwell on the possibility. So I wouldn't try to argue that candids are moral since they're non consensual but it seems effectively harmless when you don't overstep the mark, stick to public spaces, don't dox, don't take upskirts, don't shoot around minors etc, and my main point is that many of the folks vilifying it here are being hypocrites when they enjoy content pulled from social media profiles and non-sexual contexts.

The law probably isn't the best polestar for morality, but it's interesting to think about at what stage ogling someone in public becomes a form of voyeurism or stalking. I see plenty of guys walk past women like rubber neck turkeys with their eyes fixed on the woman's boobs/booty, many guys wolf whistle or making a comment either to the woman or more often to their friend especially on a night out. Could approaching them to ask their number be considered a form of harassment if doing so makes her uncomfortable? Would taking a photo of them as you walk past be considered more reproachable than for instance making a sexual remark? Is sneaking a photo worse than obviously taking one? Does the intended use of the photo matter e.g. going home to jack off over it or using it as street photography in a still life photography album? Is posting a photo online worse than keeping it in your camera roll? And if someone's in public are they tacitly giving consent to have their photo taken in the same way that someone posting on social media is thereby accepting that their photos may appear in all corners of the internet?

I don't think this is the logical hammerblow you seem to think it is. Most women who post on social media absolutely do not expect their photos to be reposted on a fetish forum full of guys sexualizing something they're insecure about even if they're aware that it's a possibility. Not to mention all the celebrity paprazzi photo's here, politicians and public figures etc. I think so long as the candids are taken in public spaces and don't involve minors, anyone in vulnerable or compromising positions, nothing that can reveal their identity or taking place in inappropriate settings, they aren't morally worse than reposting social media photos. It's probably easier to dox someone based on their social media photos anyway or it used to be with reverse image searches. Whether posting social media photos and paparazzi candids and stuff is justifiable is a worthy discussion, but I don't like seeing the hypocrisy where people condemn candid photography but beat their meat over other media which doesn't involve knowledge or consent. But if you stripped all of that questionable content away, this site would basically just be onlyfans for fat fetishists.

Yeah that's the one I was thinking of. I don't know how he managed to get such clear shots, he was like a wizard. The last time I tried to take a few snaps of a lady I somehow got the wrong angle and ended up just getting photos of her husband lol He said he was thinking about moving to another forum but then he disappeared. I can understand the arguments against candids, but a lot of it seemed harmless and hypocritical

It should be but I never seem to find them on dating apps (because everyone hides what they look like) I never met any through friends, never had classes with any, never worked with any. Basically I never organically met any with a body type that I found sexy. I'll see them walking around the mall and stuff, but usually they're a middle aged woman / mother. I live in quite a fat phobic city in Australia though, there were more when I was in the US.

Man I miss a few particular candid threads. Chubby / bbw going about their day captured a sort of natural beauty that posed social media photos and fetish content doesn’t. And one of the few areas where you weren’t being treated like a piggy bank pressed to buy content

Yeah finding a woman who 1) Has a chubby belly 2) Isnt completely ashamed of it and trying to lose weight 3) is otherwise attractive and has compatible values and views and things is basically impossible. I had no idea it would be so difficult And that’s not even including feedism and weight gain. I don’t need that stuff to get off, but I’m really not very sexually aroused by women with flat stomachs unfortunately. I’ve tried to force myself and it just doesn’t work. My biggest turn on is their biggest insecurity, I guess it was always going to be difficult. I hate passing opportunities to meet or be with nice thinner women but I can’t fool myself into pretending I find them really sexy. And there’s this annoying thing where if I do meet a chubby girl she’s usually not into me or we never match on dating apps for some reason, maybe because I look too ‘fit’ The other annoying thing is that when I told a girl I was seeing that I found her curves sexy including her belly she accused me of fetishising her so it feels like you can’t win. I get pretty jealous of the guys here who seem to have partners who are into it or are supportive of it

sorry to hear you've had to put up with shit like that, likewise with every model in the community I presume .. maybe we need a harsher penalty for harassing / creepy messages? The same types of guys ruin dating apps by making women feel uncomfortable and eventually leaving, assuming the worst about every new guy they meet because it's safer that way, like assuming the snake you see on your hiking trail is venomous even if it's most likely not Some of them may be so socially retarded that they don't necessarily realize how uncomfortable they're making people, but a lot of them know damn well and just put their bit of immediate pleasure ahead of everything else. I read that one of the main motivations for sending dick pics is not to turn the woman on but to provoke a visceral reaction, even a negative one. It's as though people take a moral vacation when they log on here, forgetting that there are real people on the other end, and even if the backdrop is a sexual kink, they should continue to treat people with due respect. I guess besides permanently banning them, the best you can do is build a healthy mindset around it like you have

To be fair it's not really their job - many are just musicians who happened to amass a following then got followed around by paparazzi, they knew that was a consequence of their popularity but many of them still don't appreciate having their nip slip at the beach posted all over the internet. And what about all the social media finds and youtube videos and scenes from tv shows and shit where the women obviously don't know and probably wouldn't appreciate being fetishised for something they're insecure about? And then all the gainers and feedees who've left the scene but their content remains in circulation probably against their will. I just think it's a slippery slope argument because if you're morally against candids you have to take issue with a lot of other stuff and there goes like 80% of content. I've taken candids on rare occasion when I see a lady I find unbelievably sexy but she's with a husband or it's not appropriate to approach her for some reason, and as long as they're not a minor, or it's a highly inappropriate setting I don't feel bad about it. We're on camera when we're at the shops anyway. Would they appreciate knowing that a kink community is enjoying photos of them? Probably not. Some might be flattered that there are people who find them so sexy they felt the need to take a candid photo if they have really low self esteem, but it seems like a victimless crime to me as long as you're not obvious and awkward when you do it. And here's the weird part - for me it's not even a filthy fetish thing, I don't race home and jack off over it, it's more like just capturing the beauty of a woman I find extremely sexy in a natural setting in everyday life.

It's nice to see when on the outside so many of my female friends are battling anorexia and harsh body image standards more than ever before but I wish it was counterbalanced by an influx of women w the potbelly look that used to sort of dominate the feedism community which seems to be a dying breed these days, that's always been my favorite look.

Come on you don't believe in therapy but you believe in the lies and delusions of ignorant old men in bronze age Palestine? Refer to my username, I don't think very highly of religion, and if you read the bible I don't see how you could either. It's obviously manmade, it's contemptuous of women, homosexuals, and non believers, it warrants slavery and sadomasochism and child genital mutilation, scapegoating, and dispossession and worst of all it demands us to let go of our critical thinking and blindly trust. I didn't realize how bad it was until I read it for myself. Look anywhere around the world and you'll see that the more religious a country is the lower it's standard of living For the introspection part, that's useful for most things but I've spent a long time thinking hard about this fetish and it's never really helped with anything so that's why I was thinking about therapy

There will be guard rails around most of them with anything possibly resembling porn but I'm guessing within a year we will have something that can do it pretty accurately considering the rate of progress at the moment

Favourite is whichever one I’m currently looking at 😎 The softness genuinely suits you. What a world it would be if all women allowed themselves to gain a bit… they would be happier… we would be happier. Anyway looking 👌

That's uplifting to hear, I'm glad it worked out well Still it seems like something that happens to other guys but not to me. I mean if I'm with someone I really like even if they're very open minded toward these things, I worry that telling them could backfire so badly it does irreparable damage to the relationship, and could actually make them feel less comfortable about gaining weight, showing off their body etc. Body image seems to be so deeply engrained that I'm not sure it's possible to convince a lady that she's beautiful if she doesn't believe it, or even that you find her beautiful. Mentioning that you prefer curves or maybe even women with meat on their bones or whatever might go down ok but I think the belly stuff is hardcore. For many women it's drawing attention to their biggest insecurity, like a girl saying she loves balding guys or guys with small dicks or something. Do you remember how you brought it up with her?