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Like myself, you sound like more of a FA than a feeder. I think you're probably overthinking this and just sharing your physical preferences too early. I'm not a feeder, but can relate in that I am only attracted to plus-sized women. I've dated chubby/overweight/obese women exclusively for quite a while, settled down with one, and have made it known to all of them that I am more than a little bit into large bodies. I've never gotten a negative reaction, but it's not something I've ever shared until well after the relationship has become physical. Telling a woman you're a FA makes for a terrible pick up line. But in my experience it can be a very positive, comforting thing to a plus-sized girl that you've developed a strong emotional and physical connection with. Nobody wants to feel like like nothing more than a fetish object, but if you meet a nice looking big girl, treat her well, and take the time to lay the foundation for a good relationship....she is probably not going to react negatively if you tell her that you are super into people that look like her.

She wasn't blonde (or unintelligent), but one of my exes started college as a thin, conventionally-attractive brunette (5'5" and about 150 lbs) and gained 100 lbs by graduation, which was when I met her. She had a big, thick hourglass figure with enormous thighs, a personality just as beautiful as her looks, and happily embraced being the object of a FA's attraction. Had it not been for differing circumstances, I probably would have married her, but life still worked out nicely for both of us. We split up amicably but stayed in touch, and a few years later she married a skinny muscular guy, promptly gained another ~50 lbs, has taken on a pleasantly round shape with a large protruding belly and looks more feminine and beautiful than ever. Women like her are the reason I think some bodies were just meant to be obese.

Large breasts with big areolas, large round bellies, and big thighs. Jennica Lynn and Big Cutie Britt would be two good examples of the lower/upper limit of what I personally find attractive. I'm a FA because I like the look and feel of round, bulbous bodies. In real life I've found those kind of women exist at many different weights, thus weight itself is not something I fixate on.

I'm after specific features and a certain body shape more than a defined weight range. I've found exactly what I'm looking for (physically) at weights anywhere between 180-350 lbs, thus I definitely can't say I prefer a single weight category. That said, I've found that the women I tend to end up with are somewhere between 5'0"-5'3" tall and 200-300 lbs.

I work in healthcare, am a FA, and suspect that Ozempic, Wegovy, and similar weight loss drugs won't be much more than a short-lived trend. They're expensive, have unpleasant side effects that lead many to stop taking them, and are often misunderstood as appetite suppressants rather than the adjunct to lifestyle changes that they are truly intended to be. The majority of Americans are overweight or obese by age 30 (research indicates that we gain the largest amount of weight between age 20-30). Weight loss drugs and bariatric surgery are usually only offered to people who have progressed to morbid obesity, and both have poor long-term success rates. Regardless of any other factors, I think the USA will remain a nation of predominantly overweight people as long as the corresponding lifestyle remains ingrained in our culture. Given my line of work, I've had to learn how to compartmentalize, but all of the above said, I am an unapologetic FA. Anytime I go out in public, I'm reminded that I get to be alive during a time when the typical female form is more curvaceous, feminine, and beautiful than at any other point in history. I think it's great 😀

Mal Malloy has kept my consistent attention longer than anyone else, and I suspect she's inspired a lot of the other amateur BBW content out there.

There is little to no scientific/medical evidence that consumption of pornography (let alone the softer stuff that is on this site) causes erectile dysfunction. The so-called studies that have come to such a conclusion tend to be based on self-reported, subjective information and most are not peer-reviewed. Assuming that you are following a reasonably balanced diet, drinking enough water, engaging in some amount of physical activity, avoiding alcohol/drugs, and keeping any chronic medical conditions under control, if your ED persists you should consider seeing a doctor to rule out an organic cause.

Personally, I think there's nothing better than a big girl in a bodycon dress. Visible belly outline is icing on the cake. A tight shirt tucked into high-waisted jeans is a great look too.

Strict FA (non-feeder) here. I settled down with a woman who was already chubby (BMI >30) and has gained a modest amount very slowly. After trying out the alternative (i.e. skinny/average sized women), I decided that life was too short to do anything else.

While my attraction to large women comes from their visual and tactile appeal, yes, I can relate to this. I briefly dated a "fun sized" BBW who was 25 years old, stood about 4'10" and weighed somewhere in the low 200s. She had a pronounced hourglass shape, and carried a lot of extra fat in her legs in a not-disproportionate but very visible way. The first time I saw them (in a swimsuit) I remember thinking that they looked like the legs of someone twice her age....and for some reason I really liked them. Interestingly, my ordinary preference is large thighs and otherwise-toned legs, so I have to assume that perhaps the appeal was subconscious on some level.

Being strictly a FA (non-feeder) and working in healthcare, I remain aware of the potential health risks of obesity, but consider them relative to the ways that being a FA has made my life better. I encounter patients every day who are morbidly obese, in terrible health and who die at young ages as a result. I also encounter many who have BMIs well into the 30s, yet have completely normal lab values, few if any chronic health issues, live past normal life expectancy, and frankly are in better health than I am with a BMI in the low 20s. Embracing my preference for larger women has brought me better quality, more enjoyable relationships and a far more intense physical attraction to my partners than the average person. If the cost for that is a slightly shorter life with my partner (the likelihood of which is open to considerable debate), it's a trade-off that I'm willing to make. My current SO, and nearly all of my past partners (who included a couple of fat doctors) welcomed this mindset. I think most FAs probably consider the health risks of obesity just as much as feeders do, we just think about them differently.

Like a change from liking skinny/normal-sized girls to liking fat girls? I've been an FA since the onset of puberty (big boobie porn led me to BBW porn, and the rest is history) but kept it to myself throughout my teens due to fear of ridicule. I tried to make myself like average-sized girls, dated several throughout high school and college, but the sexual attraction just wasn't there and I spent most of that time not unhappy but alone. I came to terms with being a FA in my early 20s. Dating bigger girls, being physically intimate with them, and (as a result) simply noticing them in everyday life more often definitely made the attraction even more pronounced. Based on that, I could see how a "repressed" FA might come out of their shell with the right life experience. To answer your original question, no, my significant other (who is unmistakably chubby) would not be surprised that I am on here, and in fact is very well aware that I spend time on BBW sites.

I've been a FA since puberty, but spent my teen years in denial/in the closet and didn't date much until early adulthood. I lost my virginity to a conventionally-attractive but skinny chick, and it was so bad that I had trouble keeping it up. A bit later I met a wonderful BBW on dating site who was about 5'5" and (by my guess) somewhere between 250-280 lbs. She had a beautiful face, long hair, big teardrop-shaped boobs with big pink areolas, and a prominent round belly. She came back to my place after our second date, stripped naked and gave me the best blowjob of my life, then got on top of me and absolutely rocked my world. While we only ended up dating for about a year, after that relationship I committed fully and totally to fat girls and never looked back. I've "come out" as an FA to many friends/acquaintances and most have been surprisingly accepting. While I have no interest in being a feeder and don't get off to the idea of gain itself, I adore big women and round, bulbous features - embracing that preference has made my life profoundly better.