So let me start by saying by no means do I object to the fact that models sell their photos and videos; obviously if they choose to then that's fine and no one is under any obligation to give any content for free.
And as a further clarification I think think the response to what I am saying would be some form of restriction on new models of stigma against models. I don't think this is a problem with a "solution" I just wanted to put my thoughts out there.
So when I first started lurking and getting into feederism many years ago (eight years perhaps?) there were plenty of new posters who were either partners of feeders or just interested in the lifestyle. Of course many of these amateur feedees would start selling content after a few years or so if they got enough of a following here which is understandable.
But I've started to notice that amateurs these days seem to be getting into modeling almost immediately as soon as they post and it seems like plenty of people who came here with the "my boyfriend got me into it/I always wanted to try it" did it with an interest in the money. Which is fine we all need money and jobs suck. I'm considering quitting mine because staring at a computer for 40 hours a week gives me migraines that prevent me from enjoying my life outside of my job. Of course what's more likely is that most of the people who post here who do that do have a geniune interest in feederism but why not get paid for what you are passionate about? Food does cost money and there are healthcare costs associated with feederism that need to be paid so I understand it. And the woman here are changing their bodies for the sexual gratification of people here and often these changes are permanent. We pretend that people can lose weight any time but realistically anyone who used to be a rail won't go back to being a rail after they've crossed a threshold of 50 pounds so it is a serious decision not to be made lightly
And I don't even really mind that part so much. I'm more noting that as a part of a broader phenomena that's leading into my point. It seems that more and more this community has become a way for people to start a side hustle and that "the community" has become more about an orbit of people who revolve around an economy of online feedees and the people willing to pay remotely for them than a dating scene.
And this is really most heavily felt on **. Of course curvage (at least this site I know there are a couple dating spin offs of curvage) was never a viable way to find a romantic partner. We all know that the dating'/personal section is dead. That's fine of course, some websites simply don't have the culture and infrastructure to fulfill that role
But it seems that almost everyone who is interested in being a feedee on ** has a cashapp or a paypal. If not in their bio then ready at hand if you message them. And there's nothing wrong with that in an indivdual level. People can try to make money the way they want to but with the shear amount of them I doubt anyone is making real money off of it. My issue with it is the fact that it really seems to be killing ** as a dating website. Almost everywhere on it it's hard to distinguish people genuinely looking for a date from people who just want to make money off of a side hustle.
Most recently I had been coresponding with someone who agreed to meet up on a date. We had to reschedule a few times as is inevitable with online dating but we finally agreed on a Saturday. She wanted to go clubbing into the night and that's not really my thing since I work 40 hours and go to grad school so I don't really want to be out of the house after 10 unless I really know you well but I was willing to compromise since that's what dating is all about. But the day of there was really bad rain and the governor declared a state of emergency so I texted her that I didnt feel safe driving and that we should reschedule. She seemed like she was a bit offended at it and I kinda understand that; but honestly I just chalk that up to the fact that I was supposed to be her ride since she didnt have a car and since she doesn't own a car and has a work schedule far different than mine (she's a service industry worker) I just don't think she understood how difficult it would have been to make the commute at night in the pouring rain, go clubing, and then presumably drive back home at 1 or 2 in the morning at the earliest (probably later since she wanted to start the date at 10) while I would have felt dead from both staying up way past my usual bed time and from clubbing.
So I tell her I can't come and I text her that we could video chat the next day to make up for the lost date and she says fine. I thought that was the best I could do since in my experience of online dating I've used video chatting in lieu of a cancelled first date since its a nice way to say hi before you meet someone for you next date and its establishing that you havent blown someone off. The next day when I text her about what time would be best for a video chat she simply texts me her cashapp account. When I clarify that I just want to have a conversation in lieu of the date that was pushed off and that I'm not asking for anything lude nor am I setting up the expectations for anything other than just a conversation she doesn't respond.
and to clarify before I make my final point I dont think this makes her a bad person. I just think it makes her someone whose life priorities are vastly different than mine. It's just the issue seems to be that feedee/feeder dating scene seems to be attracting more and more people with these sorts of priorities and less and less people who are actually into you know, dating someone. Paying for food is fine. I'll even accept that in a feederist relationship the feeder should pay for the lion's share if not all the food involved in the relationship. But there's a difference between that very reasonable expectation and making some one pay you as a condition to inquire about a "date" (which to clarify she didn't do but plenty of people do). The people on ** are looking to make a career modeling, caming and maybe findoming or at the very least are looking for a sugar daddy.
Which of course there's nothing wrong with but honestly, until the culture changes or until there's a new dating site exclusively for dating which moderates itself so that its not just aspiring models (nothing wrong with those folks, I just want to you know, go on a date, is all) I think i've given up on trying to find a feedee through the scene for good.