InflationFanatic

I essentially told her as much. I said that I would support her choice to lose weight and I'll try to be open to it. Thanks for the reply!

About 6 months ago I [M27] meet this amazing girl [F28] and we hit it off and we really well. Since then we've both fallen in love, we discussed getting married, moving in together, even having kids. In many ways, she is the girl of my dreams, both looks and personality. She's a larger girl (upper bbw range), and I should specify that I'm pretty much exclusively attracted to women in the upper bbw-ssbbw range, its been this way ever since I hit puberty. I tell her everyday how beautiful she is and how much her curves turn me on. I try to shower her with compliments and make her feel confident and beautiful. Unfortunately she has very low self esteem from her previous partner (its a long story but her old partner wanted to transition into a woman and I came in the picture right after they broke up) so I tried to be as supportive, patient, and encouraging as possible. She hates her body and hates being fat, and I told her that I loved her body and personally I didn't want her to loose weight. But I understand that its her body, her choice and I have absolutely no right to force her to be fat. And I have no desire to force it on her because I want a girlfriend who is happy being a bbw/ssbbw. I was also clear telling her that I respect her wish to be healthy but that I don't think she's unhealthy at all. She's very active and we go on walks often. But knowing she's miserable in her body is devastating to me because I adore how she looks now. She flat out asked me if I'd still be attracted to her if she lost weight and I tried to be honest and said that I wouldn't be AS attracted to her physically but would still be attracted to her emotionally. She basically shut down and said she doesnt see how this is going to work, because she wants to loose weight and be skinny and I want her to be fat. I feel horrible because I truly love her and care about her so much. But I feel like she wants to fundamentally change how she looks and I don't want to date a skinny or "normal" sized girl, I want a bbw/ssbbw who is proud and happy being big. At the same time I realize how self-centered I'm being, and I wish I could re-program my brain to find skinny girls attractive. My girlfriend is the best thing that's ever happened to me. She's my best friend and I really do love her. I don't want to lose her because she wants to change her body but I'm afraid the attraction I feel for her now will go away once she loses weight. Has anyone else here struggled with this issue? Can you offer any advice on how we can work this out? TL;DR I'm exclusively attracted to bigger women (its just my preference) but my gf hates being fat and wants to lose weight. I'm afraid if she does I'll no longer be attracted to her.