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But that is a problem he doesn't like any muscle at all, he says that it is too hard and he doesn't like it and that's why i feel so bad sometimes because I feel like my body repulses him. And on other notes he does care, he says all the time that he hates making me feel bad and he hates what he is putting me through, but that this is such a major aspect of his life and he needs it. I might not have mentioned it before but I was his first. So there is some major connection there. I feel as if i want to stay who I am. But I also want to make him happy, and be everything that he is for me.

he says that he loves my personality and who I am and he doesn't want to let me go. I think that it was selfish of him to ask because i accept him for who he is, why cant he accept me for who I am?

I have been on the other side of this discussion. I was the girl that was told to get bigger. It was one of the worst days of my life. I am not trying to bring anyone down, I am just trying to tell you my experience. My boyfriend came out and told me that he liked bigger girls and their softness, and that he wanted me to gain weight because he thinks that I am too skinny. He told me this in March, and it is now September and we are still fighting over it. First, it makes a girl feel like she is not good enough, and that she doesn't please him as herself. This made me feel even more self conscious and unwilling. In my opinion, it is selfish to ask another person that you are in a relationship with to gain weight. You willingly entered into a relationship with that person and you should accept them for who they are, regardless of what turns you on the most. They should have thought about that when they accepted to be in the relationship.

I have always been an athletic, on the go girl! I played soccer and basketball and softball and track year round for the majority of my life. I have had an athletic body as a result of my activities. However, I am in a relationship with a man who is very interested in weight gain! He told me straight out that he wants my body to be softer and bigger and that he is not turned on as much as he could be if I gained weight. I do not know what to do because he cannot get the idea out of his head, and I feel extremely uncomfortable gaining weight. I feel as if people will look down on me and think that I am a gross person. Please do not take me the wrong way, I am not trying to insult anyone I am just posting my fears. I feel as if he is changing who I am. I love him a lot and I want to make him as happy as he makes me, but I know that i will not be happy if I gain weight, and i will not feel like myself. As a result of our constant arguing over the topic, we broke up for a short time before getting back together. He promised that he would want me for me and not demand that I change, but that did not last long, and now he is back to being down all of the time and requesting me to change again. He says that I cannot play sports or work out, which I love to do, because it disgusts him. And if I do go to work out (not to lose weight, but just to feel better, because I feel better after I work out) he gets down and angry and finds a way to start an argument. I am so lost and confused as to what I should do!!!! Please, any comments will be appreciated