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Boyfriend prefers me chubby/fat. I'm okay with this?


chubbyandpregnant

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Not sure how to go about this, didn't know where else to share.

When I first met him I was 60kgs at 168cm height. I was slim, but felt like I was heavy due to covid weight (I tried to hover around 55kg). Every time he saw me he insisted that I eat, always brought food. I thought that was sweet, and still do. If I skip on eating he gently chastise me, but nothing serious. I yield so He often wins and I eat what he gives me.

I used to abuse amphetamines for weight loss, and I used to pride myself on being thin but since being with him I've relaxed. Every day he tells me I'm beautiful and we have a very active sex life (at least one a day). Since I've been with him I kicked the amphetamine habit. This combined with eating much more l have gaine considerable amount of weight.

 

I'm now 80kgs.

 

To be honest it's quite a shock, I was sort of in a happy dream being with him that I didn't really notice the steady weight gain over the months.

 

I asked him why he didn't say anything about this huge change and he said that he did, this whole time. I asked him when, he said "every time I called you beautiful"

 

This surprised me.

 

He then proceeded to admit that he was glad that I had gained weight, thought I looked much better "chubby". 

 

It was then I realised that no one really gets that fat behind their own back so I guess I allowed myself to expand to such a hefty extent.

He told me that since I'm 29, I'm not a teenager or early 20s, women are supposed to grow fatter as they age? I'm not sure if that's got any merit but sure, it's a trend. 

 

Why does knowing that he watched me gain weight and encouraged it arouses me?

 

If I wasn't pregnant (four months), he did say that he wouldn't want me going much higher than my current size. However, because I am he wants me to let my pregnancy naturally plump me up further.

 

Not sure what else to write, sorry, I'm still kind of blow away by the fact my partner prefers me chubby/fat, but that I enjoy it.

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You need to do you.  You need to do what makes you happy and feel good about yourself.  Live for you.  Not him.  Congrats!!  On getting off the diet pills.  Not healthy.   Think about what you want and what makes you happy and full filled.  

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On 1/14/2023 at 9:50 AM, chubbyandpregnant said:

Why does knowing that he watched me gain weight and encouraged it arouses me?

Ah, good question... You're touching a subject that many here think about. "Why?" It's pretty hard to say, maybe something in your young age, something you saw, experienced or heard gave you a more or less hidden fantasy of being taken care of, spoilt, or something like that. Of course it is just a hypothesis, almost a random thought, but you could start a poll asking "do you wonder why do you have this or that fantasy or why it arouses you" here and you would probably find a lot are wondering like you are.

I however read that you have "relaxed with him", that you guess you "allowed yourself to expand", and that the process aroused you. Rather than wondering "why?", a question to which you may never find the answer, I would think and maybe experiment/experience "how?" and "how much?". You seem to be in a happy place, take this chance to find out what you like, what you are into and the person you want to be. It's a great occasion!

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