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I had admitted to my wife years ago that I preferred bigger women. I told her that I was into women who gained weight just a few months ago and she was very hesitant at first about it. She has since put on alot of weight but not on purpose. I was wondering if anyone had a situation like that and then told their significant other they were part of this site and that maybe it would help them be more comfortable with gaining?

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31 minutes ago, gohawks13 said:

How’d that go? My wife’s belly has gotten pretty huge along with her butt and hips, she loves when I grab those during our bedroom life but hates if I tell her I love them lol. Weird dynamic 

She didn't believe me. She thinks that her belly is too chubby and flabby to be likeable. She doesn't really enjoy when I look at ir or grab it, but she tolerates when I squeeze her belly during sex.

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3 hours ago, gohawks13 said:

How’d that go? My wife’s belly has gotten pretty huge along with her butt and hips, she loves when I grab those during our bedroom life but hates if I tell her I love them lol. Weird dynamic 

Even with my girlfriend there is the same dynamic. She hates being chubby but she's happy to see how that turns me on. But I must say that she is not overweight, she continues to gain and decrease weight without ever being really fat. But she is flabby and that's enough for me

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My friend with benefits is pretty chubby and has recently put on a good amount of weight in the past year or so. She's got a decent belly on her now and it drives me crazy. She picked up on my preferences pretty fast - first time we hooked up I was playing with her belly and she was like "what are you doing that for?" and I said I liked it, and she was like "hmmm okay". Her boobs are the only part of her body that she likes and seems to think that guys only like that about her, but I like all of it.

She's not happy about having gained weight and will sometimes say "oh you're just a chubby chaser" when I tell her how hot she is, which I never deny but tell her it doesn't mean I'm wrong. Recently I finally told her that I loved her belly, that I think it's the hottest thing and that I'd hold things out of reach or go for high fives (she's very short) so she would reach up and I could get a peak of it. She said that she didn't like it - that it was her least favorite part of her body and she was embarrassed of it. She did accept the compliment and say she was glad I liked it. Let me play with it a little bit.

I've never hidden this about myself, but I also never really know what to say when girls complain about their weight other than to reassure them that they're sexy and beautiful. It's a risky thing to do. It can trigger insecurities and it's hard not to come across as a freak or someone who sees them as a fetish object. She's not happy with her body and misses the way she looked before, but I think she's glad that I appreciate it.

It feels good to be open about it. The sex is better - just talking about it got me going. I won't tell her about the weight gain aspect of the fetish personally because I think that would be too much and it's not necessary to get off. But I'm glad that I was open about it because I can fully express just how hot she is. She'll always want to lose the weight, but I hope I can help her love her body more. Now she catches me checking out her belly and kinda teases me about it.

Anyway, I kinda rambled there but it still feels good to type. After years of being sheepish about it, I'm happy to be more open about this kind of stuff. Even though not everyone will take it the same way, I think it's worth it.

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oh well... i think i have been clear enough to my wife. because i think that anytime you plan to be in a serious relationship that is an important part so you must get the cat out of the bag and be clear that it would not be fun to be with a gym rat. in my case, from the date we were dating i was clear in an indirect way i think. mentioning that i did not like ladies that dieted and that life is to enjoy it and food is one delicious pleasure. telling explicitly that i prefer curvy over skinny ladies, avoiding the word -fat- and avoiding descriptive references to overweight and obese people. just curvy, a lady who cleans the plate being the sexiest thing ever. and that put her on the rigth path, i am more than happy, but she was a big eater before that, you do need somewhat of a foodie to increase your odds. so... yeah, and when she gained, i did mention that i find her sexier and i would rather her curvier ,not fatter, than losing the weight again. so far ,so good... you dont have to bring out boberry pics and saying you want her to be as fat as that model you are jerking off with, which i did with a previous girflriend, with bad results lol

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It is hit and miss but it’s kind of funny now. If I don’t play with her belly she calls me out on it haha. Last night she told me that her weight gain doesn’t bug her as much as it did in the past because she knows I prefer her bigger so that’s good. We’ll see where it goes. Still trying to see if she’d be down to go full feedee mode but we’ll see. As of now she’s gaining weight but it’s more like”I’ll eat what I want and I don’t want to tell you about it.” Lol

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Iv more recently been having luck with my lady, she’s been gaining a decent amount over the past year specifically(probably 30lbs+). As most women she hated and probably still hates her belly but recently during sex I started playing with her belly and she made a negative comment so I grabbed an even bigger chunk of her belly and assured her that I think it’s sexy as hell and I love the extra weight she’s put on and we continued! That must have flipped a switch in her head because now laying around if I feel like grabbing a big chunk of belly she doesn’t even flinch and just let’s it happen! But As far as knowing the extent of my love for fat bellies or this site she’s probably not prepared for that😅

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8 minutes ago, Ilikeemthicc said:

Iv more recently been having luck with my lady, she’s been gaining a decent amount over the past year specifically(probably 30lbs+). As most women she hated and probably still hates her belly but recently during sex I started playing with her belly and she made a negative comment so I grabbed an even bigger chunk of her belly and assured her that I think it’s sexy as hell and I love the extra weight she’s put on and we continued! That must have flipped a switch in her head because now laying around if I feel like grabbing a big chunk of belly she doesn’t even flinch and just let’s it happen! But As far as knowing the extent of my love for fat bellies or this site she’s probably not prepared for that😅

Yeah my girl is getting so huge. She knows I love it but damn I wish she’d go all in hahah oh well though she’s at least gaining and I want her to be comfortable. I’ve been kissing her belly a lot and that’s been turning her on quite a bit

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2 minutes ago, gohawks13 said:

Yeah my girl is getting so huge. She knows I love it but damn I wish she’d go all in hahah

Hell yea that’s awesome!! I think we all wish our girls would just go all in! Lol and if you don’t mind me asking, how big are we talking? My ol lady’s not huge by any means but is pushing 170 or so on a 5ft frame. I’d love to see her hit 200+. And There seems to be no sign of her stoping so far! 

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On 2/21/2022 at 4:17 AM, Tegass said:

She didn't believe me. She thinks that her belly is too chubby and flabby to be likeable. She doesn't really enjoy when I look at ir or grab it, but she tolerates when I squeeze her belly during sex.

Honestly in Western cultures women are told from a young age that having a belly is undesirable, so it may take some time to make her believe you. I would suggest being gentle and sweet about it. If she doesn't necessarily like you pointing out that she has a belly, maybe consider pointing out other things, like booty, thighs, titties etc. Alsooooooo maybe try and normalize you touching her belly instead of just doing it when you are having sex. Like when you are cuddlinggg, rest ur hand or your face on it and comment how its sooo sofft to touch - touch it gentlyyyyy. Women often dont think about what it feels like for men so tell her its soft and comforting etc XD Hope this helps!

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On 2/27/2022 at 12:08 AM, gohawks13 said:

Yeah my girl is getting so huge. She knows I love it but damn I wish she’d go all in hahah oh well though she’s at least gaining and I want her to be comfortable. I’ve been kissing her belly a lot and that’s been turning her on quite a bit

My advice is don’t push her! I feel like we all tend to do that whenever we first bring it up!

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I told my wife I like her belly and she is attractive since she gained weight. She isn't a huge fan of her 40 pound gain but doesn't seem to care that much

 

She lets me grab it during the day and really loves it during sex. She recent let me rub on it with and let one loose in her belly button. So sexy!

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I’ve been in a relationship for 4.5 years. My preferences were always kinda obvious since I liked to touch her belly. I eventually showed her some gainer content when she wanted to explore porn with me. She made a couple comments about those girls being bigger than her. I assured my partner that she’s enough as is. Which is true, even though I have fantasies. 
 

The thing is, she has gained since then. And she eats more desert, so much so that it’s surprising me. One night after going out she wanted take out, she ate a large grilled cheese, fries, then chowed down on ice cream. I was kinda stunned. She struggled with “being the fat kid” and lost a lot of weight in college. The weight has slowly crept back during our relationship. I think she’s gained 20-30 lbs. I have no inclination to pressure her. But if she wants snacks I offer them. She’s fine with me touching her belly and even plays a little herself. I’d like more of it which I’m open to talking more with her.

 

the only thing I think I’d avoid is bringing actual models into the picture. Let your partner feel like THEY are the model, the ideal. 

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On 3/17/2022 at 5:25 PM, scissorhands said:

I’ve been in a relationship for 4.5 years. My preferences were always kinda obvious since I liked to touch her belly. I eventually showed her some gainer content when she wanted to explore porn with me. She made a couple comments about those girls being bigger than her. I assured my partner that she’s enough as is. Which is true, even though I have fantasies. 
 

The thing is, she has gained since then. And she eats more desert, so much so that it’s surprising me. One night after going out she wanted take out, she ate a large grilled cheese, fries, then chowed down on ice cream. I was kinda stunned. She struggled with “being the fat kid” and lost a lot of weight in college. The weight has slowly crept back during our relationship. I think she’s gained 20-30 lbs. I have no inclination to pressure her. But if she wants snacks I offer them. She’s fine with me touching her belly and even plays a little herself. I’d like more of it which I’m open to talking more with her.

 

the only thing I think I’d avoid is bringing actual models into the picture. Let your partner feel like THEY are the model, the ideal. 

Facts! Never show her any model photos/videos.

If she is considering gaining and is curious only approprite time IF she asks.

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My gf doesn't know I'm here, but the whole weight thing has always been a part of our relation and it just comes naturally. Even before I was going out with her I called her skinny fat and she loved it. That's how I knew I had a keeper.

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I've told my wife a few times, or tried to over the years. She's never wanted to hear of it. Unrelated, she did get quite big after her first pregnancy and I made sure she knew I loved it. Although she never really experienced any issues, she didn't like the way she looked on photos and used them, as well as an awareness of potential future health problems to slim down somewhat after our second child. She's never truly been naturally slim though and over the years I've quietly enjoyed her 'regirth!' It's taken a while but I've finally got her comfortable with discussions about how much I enjoy her big soft belly, the sexiest part of her body, to the point where she's comfortable talking about how happy she is to wear her 'chub rub' underwear these days, which enables her to wear skirts without chaffing. I can now say things like , 'I wish I could be them!' without any negative reaction! I let it be known that I like to look at some adult material when we're apart, but not necessarily defining exactly what I like to interact with. Although she's since asked, I'm not sure she's ready to go through my preferences in detail. I did say that the ladies in question were considerably larger than she is, which I think has relaxed her relationship with food a little though. A cake with coffee this morning, and cheesecake dessert later that same day. She likes to exercise, which I don't mind, but it's comparatively light in comparison to the diet she enjoys, so I'm hoping the extra calories will start to stick! 🤞

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An update on my wife one day she was wearing a sweatshirt and took it off. Underneath was a really a shirt she had on from before she put on a lot of weight. Needless to say it turned me on quite a bit so I made a move. As we started kissing she goes where did this come from??!! And then she goes it because I took off my sweatshirt and I look fat in this shirt and giggled and I just said I just love your curves. You can guess what happens next but she didn’t shy away after saying that is a good thing. 

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