Meeting With Webmodel Who Has Lied About Weight

[WatermelonMan]

Just curious what your take is.

Not angry, not blaming anyone, not wanting to "out" anyone.

But I made my first dinner date with a webodel (not anyone on this site!) whose profile claims 370 pounds. A lot of talk about "I'm getting soooo big!" "400, here I come!" I actually flew 800 miles specifically for this purpose. Car, hotel, all of it. Just for dinner! 

She is not even 250 pounds, she says, which was apparent when I first saw her. I didn't ask, but she told me at one point. "I'm a little under 250."

The dinner was fine, tasty, a pleasant experience, though the conversation was entirely about her, and so it wasn't a real "conversation." 

I just ordered and she ate, and it was expensive, as you might imagine. There was the whole "I had fun!" "So did I!" type thing. But that was my first and last meeting with this person, I decided. 

As time goes on, I'm a little irritated about the lying about the weight. Not lying by a couple of pounds, but over 100 pounds.

You wanted a date with a woman who is HUGE, and you're paying for it. 

Would you be angry? I mean the weight had nothing to do with whether or not the meal was pleasant - it was. So that's ok. 

I had also planned to fly to certain cities to have dinner with two others. Not any more. I'm just not excited about it after this experience.

But I am thinking it's a good thing - save your money. Lesson learned, ya know?

Better to just buy clips here at $4.99, or go to OF and tip there. Forget paying for meeting anyone. I have dates in the real world, I'm an attractive person, that's not the problem. I just wanted the thrill of having dinner with someone who said they were 370 beautiful pounds. That's an ENORMOUS woman. 250 isn't.

Thoughts welcome. 

 

[vpprof]

Well, as for me that doesn't meet the criteria for a "date" but certainly you paid for some sort of a service and it turned out to be inconsistent with the contract. The question that one might ask is, what kind of a contract and how specific it was. Like, did you say "If you're not 350 lb, I'm not meeting you"? Not knowing that, one can't tell the kind of inconsistency (a lie?) and its magnitude.

What did you exactly plan to do with that person, what were your expectations? To see an obese woman eat? To fund her dinner? To become emotionally attached to her? What did she understand of your plans?

Did you communicate your distress / disappointment to her?

It sure is confusing, there's much to be read between the lines of your post and I don't want to do it.

[extra_m13]

i guess it depends, if it was a date, bad luck... that is how it goes sometimes. if it was a business meeting, very bad on her, poor lie ... i guess that would be the line for me

[CarlGnarl]

It sounds like you're not angry, just curious. So that's good.

If lying were a crime on websites, we'd all be in the can. 

My first dinner date with a feedee, she was kind and suggested Denny's, since it was just a "get to know you" thing. And, yeah, i flew to see her, too! But I also had business in that area as well, so i combined a bunch of things into the trip, and I didn't have to pay for flights or hotels or car. 

I always appreciated that she suggested Denny's, though. Some of us ain't millionaires! We became great friends afterward. 

Chalk it up to experience. 

 

[Lake Terror]

Disappointing to say. Though you now can always not support her anymore. There definitely is the whole "acting" angle from get get go of this community. Seems you ran into one. Sorry it wasn't great.

[Cookie_BBW 💜 CLIPS]

Wow.. im shocked people can lie like this, its one thing to lie on the Internet but when it comes to meeting in person and someone's going out of there way... 100lbs is a massive difference 😳 I'm sorry you had that kinda experience, we're not all like that 😊 

But to be Frank, I'd be annoyed if I was you, how can someone talk about 400lbs when they haven't even reached 300 yet ? 🤔🤔🤯

[WatermelonMan]

Thanks, Cookie. As time goes on and I think about it (but not too too much) I'm thinking it's kind of like a date where the person claims to be 25, you show up and it turns out she's really 27 or 30, or what-have-you, or a guy says he's 6'1 and he's really 5'11. Not a HUGE deal.

But this situation is like claiming 25, but you show up and she's 45. Or you meet and your 6'1 date is 5'8. 

That's a pretty big whopper, and one you might have a problem with.

What interests me is she told me the number - I didn't say anything like "Hey! You said you were 355, and you're barely 250!"

I mean, what are you going to do? Get up and leave?

We're still pals. 

I'm just not sending any more money.

 

 

[Velour]

Sorry if this comes off as crude or insulting, but why were you flying out and laying down all this money just to have a meal with a model?

I frequently see clip makers advertising themselves as escorts.  I get why people will fly out and spend gobs of money to do that.  Though I don't think it's something I'd ever do, actually getting to have sex with the woman who has been the object of your fantasies for years seems pretty nice to me.  But just to be in their presence while they eat a meal and talk to you.  Why?

[vpprof]

3 hours ago, Velour said:

Sorry if this comes off as crude or insulting, but why were you flying out and laying down all this money just to have a meal with a model?

+1 obviously there's things which aren't being acknowledged here

Edit: I keep being reminded of an old comedy sketch from the '70s, unfortunately inaccessible to most folks on here because of the language, but which became legendary in my country. One of the lines were: "And, may it please the court, in a fit of my betrothal, I found my blanket missing!" 😂

[PainalPeggy CLIPS]

Ah I think thats quite a shitty, misleading, disappointment.

[Ruby Addams BBW CLIPS]

Well, I know how you feel, because I don't like lies also, and lying about weight is easy relatively because we all not get fat and fluffy, but more than 100 lbs it's really a lot, sorry you didn't get what I waited for. Here is important the weight and I think is something to be proud of no matter the number is 

[cheddar]

300 pounds.... maybe more like 280

FWIW, 250 would be massive over here in not-america, especially depending on height. Biiiiiig difference between dub fiddy on five feet versus six.

I honestly see problems on both ends of the meeting, vpprof's takes here being pretty on point, even if they don't justify lying about something that's obviously central to your attraction. If pure numbers is what you look for in women, expect to be disappointed a lot, since you can't quantify people like that. Perhaps she wanted to play things up out of wanting to please people in the fetish. Perhaps by offering to pay you encouraged that deception? There's a lot of unknowns since obviously none of us were there but hopefully you can see how complex it can be.

I really feel like this is part of the commercialization of the fetish as it's grown in size alongside the general population, for better or worse.