As a guy who loves curves. How to really enjoy sex.

[Guest mrfrench]

Heya. Long story short. I have quite bad E.D.

Currently dating a gorgeous curvy girl. And struggling to maintain erections. It sucks.

My question is what foreplay and sex / oral positions might work best for me to stay aroused?

E.g. — Slapping her big ass really turns me on. But missionary sex I struggle with.

I’d love someone to go into real detail. Like a full routine. That'd be amazing. 

As a guy who loves curves. How to really enjoy sex. I'm new to it.

PS – Posted this on Lifestyle chat. But no replies. So thought I'd try here. Thanks so much for any help.

P.P.S — Yes I've tried viagra. Yes it's also anxiety based. I'm working on that. Yes I always pleasure her.

[hiro]

Try having her on top.

Try morning wood.

Maybe do something different regarding masturbation.

[vpprof]

7 hours ago, mrfrench said:

My question is what foreplay and sex / oral positions might work best for me to stay aroused?

I’d love someone to go into real detail. Like a full routine. That'd be amazing. 

Oh, definitely do it lying on your left side, I know how you love it, right?

Umm, no, actually I don't. I don't even know you. Believe me or not, you know yourself better than I know you.

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P.P.S — Yes I've tried viagra. Yes it's also anxiety based. I'm working on that. Yes I always pleasure her.

If it's anxiety based, then you know the problem and you know the solution already. (Or at least the path to the solution.) BTW, you do know it's anxiety based and yet you think different positions will alleviate it. I don't get this train of thought

Obviously you need to identify the beliefs / feelings / anxieties that are holding you back first. Are you ashamed of underperformance? Do you have the upper hand in the relationship, are you the "conqueror", do you initiate sex? Is she your lover or your second mother? There's dozens of possible reasons.

[Guest mrfrench]

9 hours ago, vpprof said:

If it's anxiety based, then you know the problem and you know the solution already. (Or at least the path to the solution.) BTW, you do know it's anxiety based and yet you think different positions will alleviate it. I don't get this train of thought

You make a lot of good points. Cheers for the reply. Yes. It's anxiety based. But also very contextual. 

Oral is often a problem. That's where I lose my erection. So I suppose how tips to get it back was what I was after?

[vpprof]

Dude, you're replying the same thing again. You want us to give you tips on what will sexually gratify you? Is there anything more personal than this?

I have already given you "tips". Tip number one: solve your anxiety problem. There's various schools of psychotherapy for that, the psychodynamic being probably the hardest, yet most effective.

[e-man]

Personally I am a fan of cowgirl/reverse cowgirl

I love grabbing her belly fat and smacking her ass while I am pinned down by her. I love to feel how heavy she is. I am a bit long and she doesn't like it all in until she warms up so it's like a stamina/endurance challenge for her to not go full hilt on me, having to hold all of her weight up until she gets tired and slams down on my pelvis. It's a fun game. 

As far as the ED stuff is concerned, I had a pretty shit relationship that fucked my head up when it came to sex and it took a really loving woman who would comfort me to get over the psych aspect of it. If duration is a concern try taking some baby aspirin every day to help increase blood flow. If you need more help check out Tadalfil, I've used it in the past to have some extra endurance while on vacation with my lady. You can literally go all night, multiple rounds and not even get off yourself while on it though. Not something I would use all the time.

[extra_m13]

personally i love having the lady on top, so i can admire her torso and grab her lovehandles, belly and if i am lucky her ass as well. it is a wonderful sight with a chubby girl

[extra_m13]

squeeze her, grab her, make the cellulite more visible and feel it, that i like 

[LikesThemLarge]

On 12/30/2021 at 2:43 PM, mrfrench said:

You make a lot of good points. Cheers for the reply. Yes. It's anxiety based. But also very contextual. 

Oral is often a problem. That's where I lose my erection. So I suppose how tips to get it back was what I was after?

As in, when she's giving you oral, or vice versa?

[CarlGnarl]

Mr. French, may I ask--

Do you jerk off? Once a day, twice a day?

Stop that. I mean totally. Try NoFap if you need to.

You will be amazed at what happens when you give the banana a chance to recover for 30 days, 90 days, 6 months.