When they get TOO big?

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My wife has never come close to blowing through any barriers I may have. BUT I was generally not prepared for how different of a lifestyle change it would be with her heavier; how much more work I would have to do around the house, how many more errands I would need to take off her plate. Anything that involves a lot of walking is simply off the table it seems (walking the dog, taking the kids to the park, etc). That took some time to get used to, especially since my wife used to be quite fit and active. 

I also am not a binge movie watcher. No matter how hard I try, there's no way I can plop on the couch and watch 7-9hrs straight of Netflix a night like her. So there's that unmutual pairing of hobbies/interests that take some time to work out. 

Lastly, $. Few people talk about the shear literal price of feeding someone to an obese size. I would do mental scratch math of how many vacations we could have taken or major home upgrades we could have made with the tens of thousands in food over the last few years. It's just a black hole of a money pit that gets larger and stronger as their waistline grows.

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She weighed 110 when we met. 225 last doctor appt; she had high cholesterol and was pre-diabetic. So her gain was tempered recently. But now that her bloods have come back normal due to the meds, she's been slipping back into her old ways and started gaining again. I don't know what she exactly weighs right now. She's not a massive 300lb girl, but the change from her petite ultra-skinny frame has been quite dramatic to me. More than doubling in size in just a few years.

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The only time I had negative thoughts in this vein was last summer when a group of my college buddies organized a hiking trip at this state park about 4hrs away. My wife was convinced she wanted to go. I tried talking her out of it, but she really wanted to see these old acquaintances and she used to love hiking.

Right off the bat, she had to continually stop at gas stations the entire way that made us late and was starting to irritate my friends in the car. Wanting to hit the trail, my friends then conceded to her to eat an early lunch before starting. She gorged on this ridiculous fried chicken meal w/multiple appetizers. Once we got to the gorge, the trail was quite challenging and my wife was struggling within 25min: sweating profusely, can't catch her breath, knees aching, needing to take stops that had us way behind my friends. After about an hour and half my friends noticed how bad she was struggling and called an end to what was supposed to be a nice communal day long hike. Once back at the car, she of course awkwardly brought up eating again.

Every time my wife brought up "are you guys hungry" they responded "not really".The whole day was quite a sh*t show. And two of my buddies hadn't seen her since she gained 100lbs. I think they were just stunned at what a completely different person she was. It left me questioning "gosh, how is she going to be if she gains another 100?"

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13 hours ago, NogutNoglory said:

Did you encourage her to gain weight?

Not initially. I honestly didn't discover I was an FA until after she had gained through a pregnancy. And then she kept on going, and I encouraged and fed her.

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3 hours ago, NogutNoglory said:

Do you really plan on her gaining another 100 lbs?

With her lifestyle and eating habits, she's continuing to gain. And with age now, I've noticed the lbs pile on much faster with far less calories compared to 10 years ago. So I really wouldn't be stunned if she puts on another 100 in due time. I've gotten used to her slothfulness now, so hitting 300 would be quite a welcome dream in my book.