Do you guys ever feel worried for model’s health?

[Guest Brad1431010]

I’m sure this question has been asked before but I think it’s always interesting to hear new voices. 
 

I don’t want this post to sound condescending so I should preface it by saying; I don’t judge anyone’s decisions and I don’t want to demean anyone’s judgment. If someone wants to do something with their own body, I trust their judgement and I think it’s their right. 
 

I guess sometimes I just feel kind of disturbed by how fast some models gain—and don’t get me wrong, I think my own sexual guilt/shame plays into this disturbed feeling as well, so it’s more a ME thing than a YOU thing.. I guess I’m just curious if anyone else relates to this? And if any models would feel comfortable saying what it’s like to gain so much weight so fast, I’d be really curious about that too. How does sexual guilt relate to gaining? Does body dysmorphia ever affect how you see your changing body? Do you ever feel like you wish you could go back to before you gained the weight? Especially for models/gainers who have gained immense amounts of weight, I really wonder what it’s like when your fiends and family see you, and how you grapple with that. And I know people talk about this on this site sometimes, but I feel like it’s almost always in a sexual context I.e. “my family saw me today, they must think I’m SUCH a greedy piggy” lol I guess I’m asking about the non-sexual related answer, if that’s possible. Just curious.

[extra_m13]

i'll try to give a complete view of my thinking on that matter... first of all, one thing is to gain 10 pounds in a year, being in a range of bmi 20-22 so that is just fine and fun and sexy. ok, i should probably use a more specific case to put things in perspective. two cases better... a lady i know and care for stands at 5'1 and 5 years ago she was 120 pounds,  5 years after she weighs at 200 pounds and has indeed some health issues but i think it is not due to weight but to different reasons and personally i would like to see her gain at least another 50 pounds even do i do not think it would be reasonable to expect her to be fine above 300 pounds for example. another case... our dear luna love... probably hovering around 550, not very mobile, super obese, if she wants to i would help her get to 600 and beyond but i would not be something i demand from her. in any case and in all cases, it is their decision of course and we must support or at least accept that, as with our disappearing boberry

[Guest Mr Froggy]

I do actually. 

More so for the more 'broken' body positivity tumblr crowd than anything.   Girls who down cake batter every night and do no exercise etc.   The ones who only intended to gain 20-30lbs but became hooked on the dopamine and feelings of self actualisation that gaining gives them so go all the way up and over 400 in a very short space of time. 

Many most at risk often seem to live in their own little online echo chamber too;  they reframe the legitimate concerns and criticisms of others as "fat shaming oppression" and deflect the less supportive comments of their (male) fans as "problematic/sexist male gaze". 

Many come across as throughly deluded and obnoxious... so I soon find I lose what empathy I had for them and just unfollow.  They wanna have a heart attack at 36, that's their business.. 

[Guest Brad1431010]

1 hour ago, Mr Froggy said:

I do actually. 

More so for the more 'broken' body positivity tumblr crowd than anything.   Girls who down cake batter every night and do no exercise etc.   The ones who only intended to gain 20-30lbs but became hooked on the dopamine and feelings of self actualisation that gaining gives them so go all the way up and over 400 in a very short space of time. 

Many most at risk often seem to live in their own little online echo chamber too;  they reframe the legitimate concerns and criticisms of others as "fat shaming oppression" and deflect the less supportive comments of their (male) fans as "problematic/sexist male gaze". 

Many come across as throughly deluded and obnoxious... so I soon find I lose what empathy I had for them and just unfollow.  They wanna have a heart attack at 36, that's their business.. 

gaining in quarantine is especially an echo chamber. Limited exposure to the ppl in ur life and all that 

[Guest high]

Nope. 

[chubbybutt22]

They’re adults making a choice and you aren’t their doctor or partner. I get the concern. But feel free to enjoy in peace. 

[Guest gorJESS]

Yup.

[Guest MacreonOverlord]

I'm a little worried sometimes but its their decision and I'm not going to convince them not to

[Guest high]

Now I've got to explain myself, since I sound like an a-hole when re-reading this.

Women who are here should be gaining because they like and enjoy it.  If you don't enjoy it, don't do it. Need money? Get a job at Target. 

Additionally, it's up to every person to police themself. If you think that you're getting way too fat, then it's time to stop. If not, continue on this wonderful journey.  Look at Fat Miss T, Tara. She was small, gained to like 600 or 700 lbs, and she loves it.

Furthermore, not everyone has to eat crap food to gain. Yes, it's easier, but you can still get big with healthier food. 

People who skydive or base jump know the risks and the rewards. They're just making a conscious trade with their adult mind. We're all adults, right?

So we're all good.

[torukazu]

when you watch people cut their life expectancy in half in less than a year, you can't not have concerns. whether or not those concerns belong here is another question

[PreyToGod]

Yeah because after being around the community for about 10 years I dont believe that it’s a supportive place overall and I estimate that maybe 50% of feedees are here for the wrong reasons.

Those being; overcompensating for past anorexia nervosa, self hatred (such as eating because they want to make themselves fat and ugly or punish themselves), trying to seek validation and acceptance, other mental illness... basically not actually having a fetish for weight gain. In those cases this place is basically encouraging self destructive behaviour. The scars on the wrists and legs of so many feedees should be a sign of that. 
 

Also I don’t completely detach my morals from my sexuality (see: pedophiles, rapists, death feedism) and so I do consider the ramifications of it. 

I also got banned on ** for making a comment about how death feedism is bad so that says a lot about that environment... it’s fucked  

[JesusofSuburbia]

Every now and then, but it's usually a fleeting concern. They know what they're doing. Like people that do extreme sports.

 

What really fucks me up is the promotion of grotesque consumerism. Sexy? Hell yeah. Sustainable? Hell no. 

 

I can feel very conflicted about that aspect. 

[Guest Brad1431010]

19 hours ago, JesusofSuburbia said:

Every now and then, but it's usually a fleeting concern. They know what they're doing. Like people that do extreme sports.

 

What really fucks me up is the promotion of grotesque consumerism. Sexy? Hell yeah. Sustainable? Hell no. 

 

I can feel very conflicted about that aspect. 

I relate to this. There is something sexy about some of the models who just go absolutely off the rails with their eating, with absolutely extreme results. But after awhile I do start to worry, because for a lot of them, it does not slow down. And then it starts to become kind of morbid. I know there must be a lot of fulfillment out of finally achieving your dream of being bigger, but when people make videos like “unable to work-out and do yoga anymore” I feel a little depressed/worried. I think a balance is always the best thing to have, and sometimes sexuality/eating can become addictive, and we don’t really talk about that so much. Which I understand, who wants to get all depressing on a site like this? But it’s been in the back of my mind for awhile. 

Basically what I want to say is this; I wish everyone healthy self reflection and balance. If that means achieving your wildest feedee goals, then good for you. 
 

Please no one come after me for this.. I’m not trying to make any one feel bad and I gave this post a title that should be enough to let anyone know what the thread will contain. I’m just sharing some thoughts ive had.

[Guest Brad1431010]

22 hours ago, PreyToGod said:

Yeah because after being around the community for about 10 years I dont believe that it’s a supportive place overall and I estimate that maybe 50% of feedees are here for the wrong reasons.

Those being; overcompensating for past anorexia nervosa, self hatred (such as eating because they want to make themselves fat and ugly or punish themselves), trying to seek validation and acceptance, other mental illness... basically not actually having a fetish for weight gain. In those cases this place is basically encouraging self destructive behaviour. The scars on the wrists and legs of so many feedees should be a sign of that. 
 

Also I don’t completely detach my morals from my sexuality (see: pedophiles, rapists, death feedism) and so I do consider the ramifications of it. 

I also got banned on ** for making a comment about how death feedism is bad so that says a lot about that environment... it’s fucked  

I remember reading this story about this guys wife who had become morbidly obese. I had found it thinking it was a fetish story, but it was FAR from that. As I read more and more of the story, it just became extremely disturbing and sad (this guys wife gained to be way way way past 500 pounds.) And ppl in the comments were loving it. Death feedism is creepy as hell.

[PreyToGod]

Yeah there’s an underlying level of sadness and regret among 300lb + feedees 

Posts about how they haven’t gotten out of bed all day and how they’re going to stay home and eat cake whilst their friends go out or can’t work anymore ... I sit back and think are we really going to fucking support this as some sort of sexual expression? 

And I’ve had like 500lb + women message me and literally call themselves a hupig or hucow (human cow) and say oink and it almost made me freak out and delete my account... they need to see a psych ASAP because that fetish isn’t just part of their life it is their entire life 

And yeah like I said we should never divorce our morals from our sexuality so the profligacy inherent in this fetish is also something that makes me feel conflicted.

Lets be real this is an inherently unhealthy fetish, but I do think it can be approached in a way thats relatively sustainable where the Health issues are justified by the benefit of actually being able to indulge in your sexuality - but that can easily go too far if you don’t keep it in check 

[Guest Brad1431010]

2 hours ago, PreyToGod said:

Yeah there’s an underlying level of sadness and regret among 300lb + feedees 

Posts about how they haven’t gotten out of bed all day and how they’re going to stay home and eat cake whilst their friends go out or can’t work anymore ... I sit back and think are we really going to fucking support this as some sort of sexual expression? 

And I’ve had like 500lb + women message me and literally call themselves a hupig or hucow (human cow) and say oink and it almost made me freak out and delete my account... they need to see a psych ASAP because that fetish isn’t just part of their life it is their entire life 

And yeah like I said we should never divorce our morals from our sexuality so the profligacy inherent in this fetish is also something that makes me feel conflicted.

Lets be real this is an inherently unhealthy fetish, but I do think it can be approached in a way thats relatively sustainable where the Health issues are justified by the benefit of actually being able to indulge in your sexuality - but that can easily go too far if you don’t keep it in check 

Couldn’t have said it better myself. “That fetish isn’t just part of their life it is their entire life” is so disturbingly accurate. 
 

I know people will say “they’re adults, it’s their bodies, they can do what they want” and yes, I agree of course. But we have to remember; this is a massive echo chamber. And while I’m sure it can be a supportive environment, it’s still easy to confuse “support” with “yes keep going because it’s turning me on and I want to nut.”

I just hope that every model on here has a balanced group of ppl to talk to and bounce feelings off of. Because of the fact that this can be a kind of scary fetish to tell “normie” friends about, we can end up locking ourselves in an echo chamber that only contains the feeders, and of course the feeders are support the model going further down the obesity road.

So I hope that everyone finds a way to not lock themselves in the echo chamber, because it can be dangerous, and gaining super fast can blow by you. 

[ChubbyCupcake CLIPS]

I am over 350lbs and this does limit the things I do each day. I very much don't want to be looked at and felt sorry for because of being the size that I am. Honestly I'm fairly health conscious (as much as I can be on this journey) I have slowed my gaining down and let it creep up little by little so my body can figure out what to do with the weight. I eat big portions of food but usually the good stuff. I hate the way eating junk makes me feel. I have suffered with migraines since a head injury 3 years ago and they are made worse by junk food. 

I think its hard reading the thoughts of an FA , it has been for me for some time. There are phases in which 'the common FA' goes through when admiring BBW's. They like to see a skinny girl let herself go and gain some comfort pounds but as soon as this goes over 250 they start to pull away. Then from 250 to 300 you start to attract more feeders than FA's but they get bored of you around 300 because they want you at 450 immediately. Then you have death feedists that then join you from 450. This is my experience of the community in over 8+ years. 

A few years ago I would enjoy changing my body to please my partner but it became unhealthy. I left a relationship wanting to rid myself of the weight I had gained for them and then started again after. That I know now wasn't or isn't healthy behaviour. So now I do what I want for me. I take my dog out for a walk twice a day. I eat what I want portion wise and ensure im not eating shed tonnes of sugar so my pancreas stays with me. 

 

I guess this fetish can come with layers of guilt for people but if you understand that this is just a choice for someone. Whether its sexually gratifying for them or you. It's their choice to be this way - but if tomorrow they decide that this isn't right anymore then that's ok too. I guess what im trying to get at is this fetish is like an onion with multiple layers. People can be into the stuff that's on the "surface layer" or super deep into the core. We all like different things and that's ok. You don't have to be ok with someones life choice and it also doesn't mean you have to engage in watching them on their journey or content. 

I have in the past gained a lot in a small amount of time but it does slow down - I have always been shocked at consistent huge growth and wondered how someones body can handle it. But. They most likely enjoy it so that's all that matters xx

 

Just thought I'd share my two cents. This is an interested read and topic so thanks for sharing xxx

[Guest grateful]

Always. And it is a major consideration even when I give tribute----but it is a two way street.

This is something we all do together for better or worse.

But we did cross a line a long time ago where we want real and physical weight gain.

Most of us are unwilling to compromise.

We are not just growing fat-----it is growing us! 

[Guest Brad1431010]

On 11/1/2020 at 12:48 PM, ChubbyCupcake said:

I am over 350lbs and this does limit the things I do each day. I very much don't want to be looked at and felt sorry for because of being the size that I am. Honestly I'm fairly health conscious (as much as I can be on this journey) I have slowed my gaining down and let it creep up little by little so my body can figure out what to do with the weight. I eat big portions of food but usually the good stuff. I hate the way eating junk makes me feel. I have suffered with migraines since a head injury 3 years ago and they are made worse by junk food. 

I think its hard reading the thoughts of an FA , it has been for me for some time. There are phases in which 'the common FA' goes through when admiring BBW's. They like to see a skinny girl let herself go and gain some comfort pounds but as soon as this goes over 250 they start to pull away. Then from 250 to 300 you start to attract more feeders than FA's but they get bored of you around 300 because they want you at 450 immediately. Then you have death feedists that then join you from 450. This is my experience of the community in over 8+ years. 

A few years ago I would enjoy changing my body to please my partner but it became unhealthy. I left a relationship wanting to rid myself of the weight I had gained for them and then started again after. That I know now wasn't or isn't healthy behaviour. So now I do what I want for me. I take my dog out for a walk twice a day. I eat what I want portion wise and ensure im not eating shed tonnes of sugar so my pancreas stays with me. 

 

I guess this fetish can come with layers of guilt for people but if you understand that this is just a choice for someone. Whether its sexually gratifying for them or you. It's their choice to be this way - but if tomorrow they decide that this isn't right anymore then that's ok too. I guess what im trying to get at is this fetish is like an onion with multiple layers. People can be into the stuff that's on the "surface layer" or super deep into the core. We all like different things and that's ok. You don't have to be ok with someones life choice and it also doesn't mean you have to engage in watching them on their journey or content. 

I have in the past gained a lot in a small amount of time but it does slow down - I have always been shocked at consistent huge growth and wondered how someones body can handle it. But. They most likely enjoy it so that's all that matters xx

 

Just thought I'd share my two cents. This is an interested read and topic so thanks for sharing xxx

This is really interesting!! Thank you for such an in depth response. I thought it was especially interesting how you talk about which audiences you’re attracting at each weight. I know this community in particular can be tricky because sometimes they want constant change/growth.. which is not always healthy or practical. 
 

Something that I think adds another layer to all of this is how porn addiction works. For some people, as their brains get more adjusted to the dopamine release of seeing one thing, they suddenly need more and more extreme things to be able to get them the same amount of dopamine.. I imagine this is how some people can end up falling down the “death feedism” rabbit hole. 
 

Do you have any fears or anxieties related to weight or health? I always wonder this with some models, like is there a fear of someday being immobile? (I know that turns some people on, but I imagine it must be intimidating sometimes, idk)

[CarlGnarl]

My answer is yes, all the time. My ex had gone from 180 to 314 in 6 years, and her father had died of a heart attack at age 44, so I was a little ambivalent and concerned when we were in bed and she talked about 400 pounds. I worry about them in their 40s and beyond because that's when everything starts falling to shit unless you've lived a particular lifestyle of regular exercise and moderation in your diet. So many of the young girls drink gallons of Pepsi and you can almost hear their pancreases screaming.  My next GF who is 5'3 and about 226 pounds has diabetes and cancer in her immediate family and moves her body only enough to work a joy stick, pet the cat and go upstairs and get more food out of the fridge. And to take another bong hit! 

That is the way of the world, though -when you're teens and 20s, a heart attack, high blood pressure, hip replacement and the rest are something that happens to someone else.

I can't help it, though - I had one girlfriend who said "I'm going to get fat for you!" and as she did, the sex was explosive, nothing like it before or since, we've been broken up six years and neither of us has found a partner with whom you can go all the way, to the end, you are fucking for like 4 hours, you can't get enough of each other. She's since lost weight but she's still flabby as fuck, and still loves food. 

But we still mutually agree - Best. Sex. Of. All. Time.

And here comes a photo of her belly folds two days ago. She knows what she's doing! Wish I could post some pics of her -she's really beautiful. But she would kill me.

[glebioperez]

01.11.2020 в 20: 48 Чаббикупкейк сказал::

Я больше 350 фунтов, и это действительно ограничивает то, что я делаю каждый день. Я очень не хочу, чтобы на меня смотрели и жалели из-за того, что я такой большой. Честно говоря, я довольно забочусь о своем здоровье (насколько это возможно в этом путешествии), я замедлил свой рост и позволил ему ползти вверх мало-помалу, чтобы мое тело могло понять, что делать с весом. Я ем большие порции еды, но обычно все хорошее. Я ненавижу то, что чувствую, когда ем всякую дрянь. Я страдаю мигренями с момента травмы головы 3 года назад, и они усугубляются нездоровой пищей.

Я думаю, что это трудно читать мысли ФА, это было для меня в течение некоторого времени. Есть фазы, в которых "общий ФА" проходит, когда восхищается толстушки В. Им нравится видеть, как тощая девушка позволила себе пойти и получить некоторые комфортные фунты, но как только это выходит за 250 они начинают отстраняться. Затем от 250 до 300 вы начинаете привлекать больше кормильцев, чем ФА, но они скучают от вас около 300, потому что они хотят, чтобы вы немедленно достигли 450. Тогда у вас есть кормильцы смерти, которые затем присоединяются к вам из 450. Это мой опыт общения с сообществом более чем за 8 лет.

Несколько лет назад я бы с удовольствием изменил свое тело, чтобы угодить своему партнеру, но это стало нездоровым. Я оставил отношения, желая избавиться от веса, который я набрал для них, а затем снова начал после этого. То, что я знаю сейчас, не было или не является здоровым поведением. Так что теперь я делаю то, что хочу для себя. Я беру свою собаку на прогулку два раза в день. Я ем то, что хочу, порционно и гарантирую, что не съем пролитых тонн сахара, чтобы моя поджелудочная железа оставалась со мной.

 

Я думаю, что этот фетиш может сопровождаться слоями вины для людей, но если вы понимаете, что это просто выбор для кого-то. Будь то сексуальное удовлетворение для них или для вас. Это их выбор-быть таким, но если завтра они решат, что это больше не правильно, тогда это тоже нормально. Я думаю, что я пытаюсь понять, что этот фетиш похож на луковицу с несколькими слоями. Люди могут быть в материале, который находится на "поверхностном слое" или очень глубоко в ядре. Мы все любим разные вещи, и это нормально. Вы не должны быть в порядке с чьим-то жизненным выбором, и это также не означает, что вы должны участвовать в наблюдении за ними в их путешествии или содержании.

В прошлом я много набирал за небольшое количество времени, но это действительно замедляется - я всегда был потрясен последовательным огромным ростом и задавался вопросом, как чье-то тело может справиться с этим. Но. Они скорее всего наслаждаются этим так что это все что имеет значение xx

 

Просто решил поделиться своими двумя центами. Это заинтересованное чтение и тема так что спасибо за обмен ХХХ

так ты сейчас худеешь?

[Beauregarde CLIPS]

I’ve been into feedism since, well, I can remember. I dabbled in it for years, but really decided to give in eventually and live for myself.

I’m one of the gainers that you all probably consider too fat but I’m really into it, and that’s what matters to me. I love the way my body is feeling and looking as I grow. So I’m going to keep doing it.

I definitely don’t feel like I’m missing out on life. I love my life and have a lot of fun in it. I feel super pumped that I found myself in a position to do what I do. I have hobbies, friends, pets, etc etc like everyone else. Typical stuff. 

Its surprising to me that my obesity and clips involving it, something that’s so sexy to me, bums others out. I mean, of course normies that aren’t about it might raise an eyebrow. Just was a bit shocked to see on here. 

I guess I just wanted to offer a scary super fat perspective.  

Edited November 6, 2020 by Beauregarde

[Eckers123]

Thank you for sharing this! I have wanted to give into my enormous feedism desires for so long and everything you describe is exactly why I love this So much!! I looked this sort of thing up and found Sinophilia which describes sexual arousal involving food. It is arguably the most socially acceptable type of paraphilia. So my dream goal RN is I want to be 450 lbs.  I have always had the urge to be 400 maybe even 500 lbs, I remember being secretly jealous of fat kids growing up. If a friend gained weight I could barely be around them it turned me on so much! Anyway I have been trying to dip my toe in and find somewhere to explore this and people who are welcoming encouraging and supportive of this whole thing ❤️ So I feel and love everything this you just wrote because it feels so unsafe to share and explore these desires! ❤️ Thank you so much!!!

[tw71]

This whole topic is probably one that makes a lot of people with the "fat fetish" really uncomfortable.... but I think it's absolutely worth discussing.

If I'm completely honest?  I find that for me, there are two different things at work here.  First is my honest preference of the body type I find most attractive in the opposite sex.  For me, that's always been a woman who is at least "thick and curvy".  I always found big "thunder thighs" a turn-on since I first started looking at girls, some time in grade-school, and I love big boobs (as long as they're all natural). At some point, I really found big butts a turn-on too (maybe the beginning of the "twerking" thing got my attention there?). So someone with the combination of all of these in essentially a "big hourglass figure" is the ultimate in "OMG -- you have my attention!"  And realistically? I guess I realized early on that if you have all of these large proportions and they're not surgically enhanced, you're going to have a belly with it.  And that's fine!

But, there's a secondary, more "fetishy" component too.  I find it a turn on to see just how heavy a woman can get, and how much she can eat or drink at a time. There's something I just love about women who weigh enough to test the limits of a bathroom scale, and 10x better if they enjoy seeing if they can break one, once in a while. (I once had an ex-g/f who really enjoyed being heavy and had a goal to gain enough to outweigh her even bigger older sister. She replaced her regular bed frame legs with a frame sitting on bricks so it wouldn't break, but enjoyed teasing from time to time, seeing what other things could or couldn't support her weight. Those hotel bathroom countertops that are only attached on each end were always fun. She could hop up on those and really make some of them sag.)  But -- she started out with a really athletic/muscular frame and was big-boned and broad shouldered her whole life.  So she was probably way above average at carrying all of her weight without issues.  She wasn't going to run any marathons or anything, but she was pretty active and could keep up with you, even doing activities like hiking outdoors or what-not.  Truth is? A lot of the really big/heavy ladies out there just aren't in that category.  I can find it sexy to watch some of them put away several large pizzas or chug down a 2 liter bottle of a drink .... but that, in itself, wouldn't make me want to date them, you know?  Someone largely immobile does nothing for me EXCEPT for being turned on by those fetishy aspects of it.

 

[Mizzle]

Love you !!!