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Hey everyone, long time lurker first time poster. I wanted to talk about a topic that’s been on my mind and was wondering if others felt similarly. I have a serious love hate relationship with this fetish. I feel as though it has ruined personal relationships of mine (through my own actions and expectations), however it’s the only thing that I get seriously aroused by. I want to so badly just be able to watch vanilla, mainstream porn like everyone else, to be able to see a girl and not think about how much she weighs or envision them as 100 pounds heavier. I also believe this contributes to my problem of “porn addiction” I use that term pretty loosely as I still live a normal life but when I’m bored i do it more than recommended. I know a kink is nothing to be ashamed of but I really do wish I was into something at least more conventional. Does anyone else feel like this?  I am not looking for sympathy of any kind, just people to talk about it with. Please share your thoughts and experiences thank you for reading

 

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Yes, I share your sentiments, although I have never pursued personal relationships. I don't like being potentially damaging others, and the fact that a lot of the gainers I like end up leaving, just reinforces it being unsustainable to me.  If I was a "normie" it would be a lot easier to just go with the flow so to speak.  Although, I think the strength of our attraction to this might be related to stressed or anxious mental states, but that's possibly a conversation for another thread.

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I have done a lot of therapy to get to the point where I don't give myself grief for being what I am. I was a feeder before I realized what one was, but I stopped trying to change the women I was with after it ruined my relationship with my first girlfriend.

I am content to enjoy the fantasy through stories and videos and have managed to find women further down the road to where I would take them if I could.

Just let your kink be your kink and your life be your life. Maybe one day they'll be one and the same.

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20 hours ago, CaptainFractal said:

I have done a lot of therapy to get to the point where I don't give myself grief for being what I am. I was a feeder before I realized what one was, but I stopped trying to change the women I was with after it ruined my relationship with my first girlfriend.

I am content to enjoy the fantasy through stories and videos and have managed to find women further down the road to where I would take them if I could.

Just let your kink be your kink and your life be your life. Maybe one day they'll be one and the same.

Very good advice, thank you!

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  • 1 month later...

we all have felt that way... loving our lady, wanting to see her fatter, way fatter, but ignoring the drawbacks that will inevitably happen to her and to us if we continue on to that path. to me.. the best way to enjoy the fetish is to have a balanced life, not pure feeder gainer... and to dedicate a some time here and there, vacations probably, to really gain and get into it. 

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OP, Please read this post of mine.

Simply put, this fetish will vanish when you've elevated your self esteem to a healthy level and when you've stopped feeling powerless. A fetish is a sexual symbol for a trauma that one endured in the past. In case of this one, it's the trauma of being subjugated, possibly by a parent, possibly of the opposite sex.

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