The Barber Talk - Black Men, BBWs Of Color & Feedism

[John Smith]

Lately, I've just registered myself into a new forum and I feel an urge to share my experience evolving into this cyber-community as far.

 

Just a week ago, I discovered an African-American owned network of websites while randomly scrolling down my search engine page and just tell to myself: "Why not?"

Stumbling into this new sub-world seemed almost cathartic to me, especially given my growing anxieties about just how much Curvage and other prominent Fat Admiration centered cyberplatforms in the Anglophonia (F.F. , F***ie, the more geriartic Dimensions Magazine, ecetera) spoke more-and-more volumes about their downsides as somewhat of a conandrum of the same cross-generational average North American gated community and the further it goes, the greater these implicit as much as micro-agressive cues-- let alone outright toxic fits of exclusionism didn't seat right to me: especially under the light of the recent social climate and especially about how we miss such an opportunity to open more bridges with an now-international class subculture of various groups, social classes and ethnicities.

 

So, back to my point and a couple of clicks later, I was now a member of that popular platform. A section of the website is exclusively reserved to adult content. "Great" , I thought. I decided to probe my newfound social environment with what I do best in adult-reserved forums: dropping a content "dump" thread about gaining women (somebody did already posted a BBW-centered megathread and maintained it for years. Matter-of-factly... close from a three fifth of any thread content in that said section page was starring only but women evolving respectively from the rather planturous to full-figured to downright obese brackets of the size spectrum) . Followed by a whole introductory essay about the historicity of Fat Love, body fat cultivation and feedism within African and Diasporic cultures and how Pornhub was literally - and reportedly - making a insane lot of monetizing and assets over their BBW-savvy black male clientele. 

 

It caught the attention of a few lurkers. Gods have mercy: at last, I wasn't rubbing along with people rude enough to feel their inflated egoes (and c*cks) has been intimally bruised by my written speech cues/impediment and written Gallicisms like does a lot of Grammar Nazis, vexed forum gatekeepers - and borderline psychotic trolls - and other miserable vocal minorities lobbying for my expellation around here and over since... well, ever (and ultimately haven't helped those who long tried to persuade me the core factor of these repeated attacks aren't deep inside down but a "us-against-them" tier scenario rooted from a R-word/anti-non-native speaker thing) .

 

And yet, my curiosity wasn't sasiated yet: consequently, I launched a discussion-centric rip-off of that said thread into a section broaching about relationship issues... a little success!! 

 

In just a matter of days, a dozen of different male forum members and moderators - and even a female mod - shared their different experiences from either end of the s*ze spectrum with such an almost seamless lack of shyness about it.

 

For the first time in years, I had one of these girl-centered "room talks" with like-minded people and these people all happens to be black like me. No freakish schadenfreude fetish. No stalking "candids" taken stealtily. No young man frightened to let his relatives and social circles discovering he likes his women thickums or able to make a flight of stairs groan louder in agony than her. No celibate woman appalled to upsize a little too far from the norm just because this is the norm. No m******king mini-Klan of people offended because you barely compared male Spaniards's generic sexual preferabilities with those of black men. No one threatening to hack you and that you had to made understand you can give back Jesus style... just no people either when you are jokingly comparing yourself with the Christian God for the sake of bantering about it right into the Abyss when you got a recurrent forum member whose pseudonym is jesusofsurburbia. There, I could speak freely of my past dating experiences, trials and experiences without having anyone who derisively question it, implicits I've been lying or quell the higher-ups to trash them elsewhere and pull them out on the G-word checkmark like a cruxified martyr once you had the naiveté to come along with photographic evidence.

Additionally, the moderators out there just seems so civilized: none of them have delusions of grandeur, neither a God complex, nor a limited empathetic interpersonal range neither or antisocial, scornfully dismissive toxic behavior. Which, Internet-wise, just seemingly alleges these people are high on some Wakanda s**t compared to every, single, effing cybergroup. They laugh at people as much they scoff between each other and hold the same no-bulls**t principles I have when someone play too much. Because yes, we're freaking barbarians in comparison and I have no qualms saying it. People have a lot to learn about them and just not using electronic technology and the broadsides of safe distance as a deshinibiting excuse to let their primal, antagonistic, nigh-sociopathic broadsides of their psyche left unchecked. Of course, I'm not portraying them as an utopia neither: just like a decent human society.

 

Human. Is this the missing key behind every broadside of the contemporary online F.A. community in the Anglophonia? Its lack of open-mindedness, empathy and capability to showcase geniune humanity? Or is this just that either I - and most but likely a fair number of people who happens to be not white, English native-speaking and not fit to let the crowd let them break them down into the predominantly average North American mold - are just undergoing in this demimonde that constitutes the Internet (and therefore the online F.A. community) the less inhibited broadsides of a pitifully shared enmity culturally embedded within the collective mind of these hostile cells and single individuals? 

 

Just why does it feels so good and permeate to just going in there, like into a friendly barber shop, but not here?

[JOEjoeJ]

As a man of color myself, I love this post! We should be friends!

[John Smith]

1 hour ago, JOEjoeJ said:

As a man of color myself, I love this post! We should be friends!

"Be friends" is a twitch too fast, but I am eagerly rooting for anyone who holds some sense of forum-going comradeship. 😁

[Guest grateful]

I wish folks would take the time to try to understand your content John.  Please don't abandon us.

 

 

 

 

[John Smith]

48 minutes ago, grateful said:

I wish folks would take the time to try to understand your content John.  Please don't abandon us.

Patience is a virtue.

 

Speaking about virtues, which topics you guys might be inclined to tackle here? I'm listening.

[John Smith]

1 minute ago, John Smith said:

 

 

[John Smith]

 

[John Smith]

A major hallmark of the legacy of Chadwick Boseman that lasts a telltale evidence of his light, phenomenal range of acting and love for the black community.

In just one film installment, he perfectly encaptured the essence and nuances of the fictional African Avenger, his superior wits, sagesse and regal dilemnas, all entwined with dignified badassery and a quiet rage for fighting like a storm.

 

[John Smith]

 

[Tastic1]

I love sci fi, so the afro-futurism that was show cased in the Black Panther was just fantastic. It was so fresh and different compared to anything else that has graced our screens. So much futuristic sci fi is "what happens to the USA" forgetting that there is a whole other world of cultures that would react to the passage of time completely differently. The original Mad Max films were a excellent example of non-american futurism, watching my country devolve into the apocalyptic wasteland that is shown is incredible.

While I hope they continue the Black Panther series, I am not sure if it will be the same without Chadwick. The changing of actors can be sometimes quite jarring and is not always successful. Chadwick gave an air of effortless cool and genuinely seemed an awesome guy. It is such a shame that such a stellar actor died so young and at the beginning of his true rise into super stardom.

 

@John Smith I am glad that you have found a community that you feel a real connection with. As a white (sort of) Australian I have not felt the divide of not belonging because of colour, but I know we all crave that feeling of belonging somewhere. Whether that is with people who look like us, think like us or both is up to the individual. You sir are a unique individual, keep doing you.

[John Smith]

Chadwick Boseman truly was a very talentuous thespian and a honorable fighter on-set as well as behind the scenes. The way he'd simply pulled all on his own and keep starring from physically-requiring role ro role in so many major cultural hallmarks of our generation, truly speaks volumes abput the selfless gentleman he was. 

 

He freely provided us the kind of inspiration who transcends frontiers, seas, oceans, colors, beliefs and ideologies. I feel like I'd lost a relative again, but this is into these moments of mourning we measure some positive sense of belonging, whoever we are. Thanks you @Tastic1 for your comment: it is truly appreciated and I hope I may keep doing myself (giggles) as well as you may find yourself some sense of relief past the divides. 😊

[John Smith]

"Mad Max" films franchise truly has been a touchtone in the history of survivalist dramas and science fiction.

We owe a lot to the creative genius of Australian filmmaker George Miller. I am impatient to watch his eventual future fifth opus.