Have you ever been scared off at any point by this fetish? FAs, feedees & feeders/resses welcome

[Guest FeederDave]

Yeah... fat dudes make me cringe.... I don’t wanna see that. 

[Guest FeederDave]

Im attracted to curvy chubby thicc girls, and I get sad when it goes beyond that. In truth, I just want women to look like they did in the 50’s. Not these skin n bones prepubescent boy lookin women. That look was invented by Pedos. 

[John Smith]

6 hours ago, mal57 said:

The former lol.

 

5 hours ago, You're getting fat said:

Well, that's not so bad. I bet many people have done it.

How did you even found their obituary, first?

[extra_m13]

the only fear... is that i was never going to find my happy fatty i think. the fear to always get that stunned reaction and rejection about saying openly that i preferer my lady gaining weight instead of losing it

[mal57]

On 4/1/2020 at 2:49 PM, John Smith said:

How did you even found their obituary, first?

I'm talking about SSBBW/USBBW webmodels who interact online. They'll suddenly stop modeling and then the news would appear on Dimensions or wherever.

[Guest skinnygirlwantstogrow]

As a totally intentional gainer working in the entertainment industry with a history of sex and drug addiction as well as an extremist "all in, all out" nature

 I am terrified of myself, rather than this fetish.

[chubbybutt22]

Yes. I’m into fat humiliation. And not gaining but some people are very pushy about the gaining and stuffing. It can get uncomfortable. 

[scissortooth]

Maybe not scared but the only thing that makes me uncomfortable about my FA-ism si the fact that I often want a scenario for my wife that might not be the best for her from the point of view of her long-term health. I mean, sure, I'm against junk food and all for her staying fit, but even if it's possibly for her to gain while remaining metabolically healthy, the weight itself has some impact on stuff like health of joints and spine. I'm not a feeder so obviously a lot of what happens to my wife's body is her choice, but a lot of her choices take me into consideration, as in, they make her less prone to try to lose weight and more prone to et and don't care - and she is a foodie with tendencies to gain (both genetic and medical) and her self-control is not the best.

[Guest skinnygirlwantstogrow]

I am too ashamed to post my new higher weight rn which is still very low here on curvage but high to me as someone with anorexia and bulimia.

People warned me that intentional gaining was addictive which I never believed until now.

I am very closeted about this irl so constantly feel scared of how big my own imagination wants me to get.

[bangs15]

if you google the username most of my friends know me by, there is a yahoo answers account tied to it with some hardcore cringy feederism posts from when i was 17. i have no way to access the account because answers accounts and email accounts got fucked up and decoupled over the past 10 years somewhere and it keeps me up at night that i can't delete that shit.

 

also an ex that went from 190-263... i always thought 240 was ideal but i still wanted more even at 263. i had to step back and realize this shit is more insatiable than we like to admit. 😕

[Guest You're getting fat]

11 hours ago, skinnygirlwantstogrow said:

I am too ashamed to post my new higher weight rn which is still very low here on curvage but high to me as someone with anorexia and bulimia.

People warned me that intentional gaining was addictive which I never believed until now.

I am very closeted about this irl so constantly feel scared of how big my own imagination wants me to get.

I think the mixed feelings are the most tantalizing thing of it all. Embrace your fear and your shame. Taste the adrenaline rush. Your being closeted is extremely exciting. Savour every comment you receive. Strategically dress to accentuate your slight changes even if it's only among strangers in the beginning, so at least you know they won't see you again. Wear a tight top that accentuates your belly, or a top a couple of sizes too small so it rides up and your little love handles are visible. Don¡t know how the confinement situetion is where you live, but go out and exercize in tight short shorts so your cellulite is visible. Just go for a walk so you don't get too much in shape. Once in a ble mooon actually jog so you can enjoy how pout of shape you've become and people see you panting covered in sweat. When we can finally go to the beach wear a thong so every bit of you is visible to the eyes of strangers. The fun possibilities are endless.

[Guest skinnygirlwantstogrow]

On ‎5‎/‎17‎/‎2020 at 6:47 PM, You're getting fat said:

I think the mixed feelings are the most tantalizing thing of it all. Embrace your fear and your shame. Taste the adrenaline rush. Your being closeted is extremely exciting. Savour every comment you receive. Strategically dress to accentuate your slight changes even if it's only among strangers in the beginning, so at least you know they won't see you again. Wear a tight top that accentuates your belly, or a top a couple of sizes too small so it rides up and your little love handles are visible. Don¡t know how the confinement situetion is where you live, but go out and exercize in tight short shorts so your cellulite is visible. Just go for a walk so you don't get too much in shape. Once in a ble mooon actually jog so you can enjoy how pout of shape you've become and people see you panting covered in sweat. When we can finally go to the beach wear a thong so every bit of you is visible to the eyes of strangers. The fun possibilities are endless.

I am still very skinny to people irl but am getting fat for me and my anorexic weight.

This is very hard to describe here bc I am not the stereotypical gainer girl who has a belly, cellulite, eats junk food and doesn't exercise.

I am actually the complete opposite of all of those things.

Thank-you for your support anyway even though you don't understand me or the type of body I have. 

 

 

 

[thefeedernextdoor]

On 3/17/2020 at 10:18 PM, bluetech said:

I certainly like SSBBWs, but when I come across the extreme immobility health porn, that's a line I can't cross. Seeing BC Echo on oxygen wheezing in a hospital bed is an instant turnoff. 

This. There's a woman who posts on some BBW/SSBBW subreddits who must be 400+lbs and told me she's 40 years old. She's really hot otherwise, but sometimes she will post nudes with her insulin pump connected to her, which I don't find a turn on at all. It makes me worry about her. It also made me realise that as much as I love jacking off to SSBBW's I probably wouldn't want to be with one quite that big and deal with all the health consequences that come with being that size later in life, I would want her to lose weight.

As a result I tend to stick to dating women in the 200lbs range. most of which have been 220 - 250. Chunky, thick, but are still mobile enough to do everything normal people can do.

[Guest jake69]

The comments on photos of the SSBBW women are always interesting. Lot of people getting off on telling them they can't wait until they have a heart attack or lose a limb to diabetes. The cannibals are an interesting group too.  

[thefeedernextdoor]

On 3/26/2020 at 8:19 PM, mal57 said:

Fast forward 10 years or so where I saw Fat Girls and Feeders and realized their whole thing was a horrorshow of manipulation, basically slow-motion murder, with a child involved and everything. Obviously what happened would have happened with or without me but it definitely put a different spin on it.

I always hated those sort of shows. They select creepy, abusive dudes who happen to be feeders and then try and smear every guy in the community as being like them. Newsflash: Those dudes would still be abusive pieces of shit even if they didn't have a feeder fetish.

Maybe I'm wrong, but that sort of thing seemed much more common in the 90s and 2000s than it does now. I think suspected abusive behaviour is way more likely to get called out now. I remember watching a HugeNHot video about 10 - 11 years ago where she's being forcefed by her boyfriend and all I'll say is... it did not look consensual at all. It didn't look like fun fetish play, it looked like abuse. And then I heard she died a few months later. Really sad. 

[John Smith]

Damn...

[John Smith]

46 minutes ago, jake69 said:

The comments on photos of the SSBBW women are always interesting. Lot of people getting off on telling them they can't wait until they have a heart attack or lose a limb to diabetes. The cannibals are an interesting group too.  

Somebody is familiar with F.F.'s weirdest threads... gosh, I never get that whole cannibal fetish thing. It's obscene!

[Guest Blonde Babe]

I was scared away before just from FAs myself when I got into the community at barely 18. I’ve had a lot of FAs send me pictures of other models (Curvage models too, certain ones in particular) and it made me feel so unattractive that it turned me off of gaining weight altogether for nearly a year. I had an eating disorder and it started to manifest itself in a new way. If I didn’t get fat and looked like these girls, would men find me attractive? Would I ever find love? I’m glad I pushed past it when I accidentally gained weight (partly due to depression) and I realized I was the same person and just as sexy as ever. So yeah, moral of the story, don’t try to make your feedee anything she’s not. She’s not going to be the girl in your videos because videos curate a fantasy that’s not real. And as a skinny, 115lb 18 year old, I was compared to that fantasy. Now I’m creating my own fantasy for men with girls who are just as special as I am. And I’m struggling with that. 

[John Smith]

4 minutes ago, Baby said:

I was scared away before just from FAs myself when I got into the community at barely 18. I’ve had a lot of FAs send me pictures of other models (Curvage models too, certain ones in particular) and it made me feel so unattractive that it turned me off of gaining weight altogether for nearly a year. I had an eating disorder and it started to manifest itself in a new way. If I didn’t get fat and looked like these girls, would men find me attractive? Would I ever find love? I’m glad I pushed past it when I accidentally gained weight (partly due to depression) and I realized I was the same person and just as sexy as ever. So yeah, moral of the story, don’t try to make your feedee anything she’s not. She’s not going to be the girl in your videos because videos curate a fantasy that’s not real. And as a skinny, 115lb 18 year old, I was compared to that fantasy. Now I’m creating my own fantasy for men with girls who are just as special as I am. And I’m struggling with that. 

I love how you keep perceiving your past dilemna as an obstacle you did succeed to overcome but as a content creator only. It let to suggest you have some penchant for the arts: you speak like a performing artist.

[Guest Blonde Babe]

Just now, John Smith said:

I love how you keep perceiving your past dilemna as an obstacle you did succeed to overcome but as a content creator only. 

What do you mean? As a content creator only? I have done a lot of therapy and worked on my self image and that has helped me overcome it. Creating content comes second. Ouch. 

[John Smith]

1 minute ago, Baby said:

What do you mean? As a content creator only? I have done a lot of therapy and worked on my self image and that has helped me overcome it. Creating content comes second. Ouch. 

I didn't meant it in a mean way. I meant I like how you did overcome this period of life and the way you are talking about this.

[Guest Blonde Babe]

8 minutes ago, John Smith said:

I didn't meant it in a mean way. I meant I like how you did overcome this period of life and the way you are talking about this.

Oh, sorry! Thank you! 

[thefeedernextdoor]

30 minutes ago, Baby said:

I was scared away before just from FAs myself when I got into the community at barely 18. I’ve had a lot of FAs send me pictures of other models (Curvage models too, certain ones in particular) and it made me feel so unattractive that it turned me off of gaining weight altogether for nearly a year. I had an eating disorder and it started to manifest itself in a new way. If I didn’t get fat and looked like these girls, would men find me attractive? Would I ever find love? I’m glad I pushed past it when I accidentally gained weight (partly due to depression) and I realized I was the same person and just as sexy as ever. So yeah, moral of the story, don’t try to make your feedee anything she’s not. She’s not going to be the girl in your videos because videos curate a fantasy that’s not real. And as a skinny, 115lb 18 year old, I was compared to that fantasy. Now I’m creating my own fantasy for men with girls who are just as special as I am. And I’m struggling with that. 

Really appreciate hearing your experience as someone who's now a model here. Sounds like you've been through a lot so I hope you're keeping well, and taking care of yourself ❤️

[Guest sweetzombiejesus]

21 minutes ago, Baby said:

 Now I’m creating my own fantasy for men with girls who are just as special as I am. And I’m struggling with that. 

Struggle with depression too; trauma related. It's hard. Glad you've made so much progress. I am proud of you ❤️ 

Try to not to struggle too hard with the guilt. Dispensing fantasy is beautiful; albeit dichotomously can be evil- I kinda think it's a necessary one. (In a general sense; not in regards to inspiring inner torture.) Fantasizing of dreams of idyllic stories or art through entertainment are inherent to human nature; and they can be there to inspire us (albeit often through suffering & self loathing); they can also soothe loneliness; & bring likeminded people together (like feedists); & distract us from pain.

I offer food for thought: What you're thinking of as guilt may just be actually be empathy, for all the girls who've suffered, like you? -if this resonates; lmk. If it does- I think as you venture down your path in psychology, with all you've learned; you'd be an excellent psychotherapist counselling young women going through this pain. That'd be best way to alleviate this guilt; to give back & give counselling to all the girls who are suffering. xx

Just my thoughts. 

[Guest sweetzombiejesus]

Post script, I love how ggg enveloped you & ilovebreadsticks the moment you two came. I think gg she gets it & might feel the same way; I love seeing support like that. Makes me happy