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[Updated 10/27/20] About to come clean with my wife

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So I’ve been into bigger and gaining women as long as I can remember.

I love my wife but she has lost a lot of weight after having our second child as she suffered from some depression and anxiety. I’ve been working a lot and haven’t been around to support as much as I’d like.

Shed previously got as heavy as 150lbs and she was smoking hot (Latino with beautiful curves and plump ass). I think I have posted some older photos of here. I miss that body’s and it’s starting to impact my mental health and I’m struggling with that.

She knows about my preference for bigger girls but not the full extent of wanting her to be my feedee (I know this may be unrealistic). She loves food but holds back on what she eats and is not a fan of working out other than Pilates and walks.

Anyway, so I’ve finally made the decision that I’m going to come clean with her the extent of my attraction to bigger and gaining women and that I’d love for her to relax and enjoy her food more, let me pamper and spoil her and that I don’t mind if she gains weight (either fat or muscle).

We’ve been together 10 years now and I feel like have enough trust for her to have an honest and open conversation about it.

i have told her I want her to think of something that she wants to make our sex life better and we would write it down and exchange ideas. Her gaining weight is obviously my idea for improving our sex life as I’ll be much more into it.

Even the idea of her gaining weight makes me super horny and excited. However, there is a very real possibility it could go badly and damage our relationship.

Wish me luck!

H

 

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Best of luck and remember your "escape route"; it's just a preference, just something you like, the same way other men are into big boobs. Preference goes over better than fetish.

If she's hesitant to the idea, go for the minimal viable gain. "You're 147 lbs now -- how about we round it off to  at least 150?" or "I'm not talking about eating until you're belly hurts; just a sandwich in the evening"

That gliding scale will help her become used to the idea, and every step forward is one that's very hard for her to walk back.

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So the conversation was had and not in a way I expected it to go down which took me off guard at first but ended up being easily the most open and honest conversation we’ve had about sexuality in 10 years together.

So being a Latina my wife has tendency to overreact first then come back to a more rational viewpoint after considering for a while.

So we started talking about our preferences and she ate straight off the bat, you know you can’t ask me to gain weight. And of course I say I know I can’t and I respect that.

She then flips slightly and says I hope you’re not into something really weird like cross dressing, sniffing undies etc etc. luckily for me I’m not and she’s really relieved to hear this.

We then go on to my preferences for larger women and talk about it for a good 30 mins. Everything from my history and how it’s impacted me as early as I remember, how it’s impacted on almost every sexual relationship I’ve had, judgement from friends, that I generally find women hotter after they’ve gained, how it’s impacted me negatively trying to suppress and pretend it doesn’t exist, and search history and photos she’s seen I’ve looked at plus more.

So basically it ended up being the most liberating experience of my life and I’m so thankful that she was able to listen and understand without flipping out and thinking I’m just some weirdo, to the point where she agrees that it’s not that weird at all.

So although she’s not into it, she now 100% knows what I prefer sexually and that if she gains weight I will 100% find her more attractive. Given her eating habits and hate of strenuous physical activity I’m very confident now that nature will play its course much more easily and she may gain over time, albeit reluctantly.

But with my love and pampering I’m pretty sure the desired result may be a gaining and more beautiful wife over time.

the other aspect is that now that we’ve had this initial conversation I feel that it will be easier to have follow up conversations about who and why I find bigger women attractive and even her eating more, having seconds, treats and snacks etc.

sorry for the long post but there was a lot to cover.

H

 

 

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Sounds like your wife is a good sport and I am glad it didn't blow up.

My hat goes off to you for doing the brave thing, knowing that no one wants to hear that they aren't as attractive as they could be.

I have become involved in relationships where I eventually had to "confess"  (always) and I am aware of the difficulties.

My one relationship where I was up front from the beginning was by far the easiest and the most successful.

But the bottom line is:  in every serious relationship in my life, including marriage, my partners all gained significant weight on purpose.

That makes me a very lucky man.  But it really stands as a testimony to how magnificent the heartfelt generosity and giving nature of the love of these magnificent women can be.

Give credit where credit is due: it's all about the women.

So continue to care for your goddess and you will likely get what it is that you think you crave, and in the unlikely possibility that you don't, the dividend of her love and how it makes your life better in every way, will fulfill you way beyond the limits of your proclivities.

She knows, and probably always has.  Just care for her and give her quality attention, and the rest is automatic.

Thanks for the thread.

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41 minutes ago, grateful said:

Sounds like your wife is a good sport and I am glad it didn't blow up.

My hat goes off to you for doing the brave thing, knowing that no one wants to hear that they aren't as attractive as they could be.

I have become involved in relationships where I eventually had to "confess"  (always) and I am aware of the difficulties.

My one relationship where I was up front from the beginning was by far the easiest and the most successful.

But the bottom line is:  in every serious relationship in my life, including marriage, my partners all gained significant weight on purpose.

That makes me a very lucky man.  But it really stands as a testimony to how magnificent the heartfelt generosity and giving nature of the love of these magnificent women can be.

Give credit where credit is due: it's all about the women.

So continue to care for your goddess and you will likely get what it is that you think you crave, and in the unlikely possibility that you don't, the dividend of her love and how it makes your life better in every way, will fulfill you way beyond the limits of your proclivities.

She knows, and probably always has.  Just care for her and give her quality attention, and the rest is automatic.

Thanks for the thread.

Thanks for your thoughtful reply.

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So it’s been an interesting month since I first posted.

Pretty much instantly, basically as I expected and hoped her eating habits have changed for the better.

After 2-3 weeks she said to me that she has felt so bloated lately pointing to her belly. Not that I hadn’t already noticed! Of course it wasn’t bloat but her stomach starting to paunch out again filling the old fat cells that shrunk after she had our second child in June last year. 
At this point she says hey do you think my flab and stretch marks from 2 b**s are disappearing. Too which I reply yes they are and whatever your doing keep it up, you look great.

Over the next 2 weeks her snacking has intensified to the point where I’ve even counted some days where she eaten 5-6000 calories without batting an eyelid. She wouldn’t know that but I’ve got a keen eye for her snacking.

Pretty much without fail she’s been having a protein smoothie every morning and then she wants me to make her a ice cream shake every night. Between these two alone there’s well over 1000 Cals.

So as of now she is noticeably bigger to look at and touch. When she wears low rise pants her midsection is starting to look really plump and she has quite a large gut when she sits. She is noticeably heavier when she lays on me also.

Her belly, boobs curves and butt are all tending back to her former prekids glory. She got to about 155-160lbs at her heaviest I believe. When she worked a desk job and snacked with her colleagues instead of chasing kids around.

She told me she got down to 62kgs (136lbs) at her lightest and she’s now back to 67kgs (147lbs). It’s amazing how much difference 5kgs makes on someone who 5’3”.

One thing I have noticed is has added on element of pampering, intimacy and love back to our relationship now that I’m making her treats again and giving belly rubs.

What’s even more incredible in reality is the rate of gain. That’s like 5kg or 11lbs on just over a month. Obviously she won’t keep this rate up but here’s hoping for another month or two and then we’ll see where to from there.

So therefore, for those wondering honesty seems to be the best policy here. 

hope you enjoyed the update.

i plan to try update monthly with progress.

cheers

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This is a a great story to remind all of us what we know but don’t communicate to our wife’s being that it is a difficult topic or we do t want to repeat what we have said some 5 or more years ago and several times.  
 

it is actually tough that this loss of attraction because of weight merges itself into intimacy and closeness and overall healthy relationship altogether.  I have said it many times that all my wife has to do is gain a few lbs. or even talk about her gaining.....it perks up my interest in her so much.  Let alone in the perfect world she kept gaining and would talk and tease about it all the time.....I think my marriage would then feel ultimately perfect.  It feels like almost the only thing missing during the weight loss (or) no gaining times or talk about it.

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1 hour ago, Voluptuouslover said:

This is a a great story to remind all of us what we know but don’t communicate to our wife’s being that it is a difficult topic or we do t want to repeat what we have said some 5 or more years ago and several times.  
 

it is actually tough that this loss of attraction because of weight merges itself into intimacy and closeness and overall healthy relationship altogether.  I have said it many times that all my wife has to do is gain a few lbs. or even talk about her gaining.....it perks up my interest in her so much.  Let alone in the perfect world she kept gaining and would talk and tease about it all the time.....I think my marriage would then feel ultimately perfect.  It feels like almost the only thing missing during the weight loss (or) no gaining times or talk about it.

FA is a state of mind. The most powerful experience in my FA life were from my HS sweetheart who would tease me with micro gains.

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So interesting update last night.

My wife is getting ready for bed and walks into the bathroom and says “I’m either really bloated at the moment or I’ve gained a lot of weight really fast”. She says this as she lifts her shirt and gives her protruding belly a jiggle. I just respond by saying that I’m not sure which but she looks great!

Me knowing what she’s been eating and drinking knows that it’s definitely weight gain and not bloat as she’s expanded all over.

At this point she looks about 15-20 weeks pregnant in the evenings.

Yesterday I was squeezing her butt and belly and her skin on her belly was so tight like it was strained. Her tights were so tight that it was hard for my to even squeeze to fingers into her waistband. 
 

I think she’s easily gaining about 1-2 lbs a week which matches to her daily calorie consumption and complete lack of exercise. 

At this point I’m totally in love with her body. I’m guessing she’s back around 150lbs but seems bigger than ever as there’s more fat and less muscle. It’s incredible! At this rate we’ll be going clothes shopping for her next weekend.

 

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So tonight her pants and undies were so tight I just straight up said to her “hey babe, I better take you shopping for some bigger pants and undies this weekend”. 

She just straight up agrees and says “yeah I think so” while she continues to munch on Oreo chocolate block.

At this point her belly and butt are taking on a semi inflated balloon tautness!

its heaven!

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So she’s getting this layer of jiggly fat in her thighs, butt, belly, hips and back. It’s so cute.

we went shopping on the weekend and she bought a heap of size 16 AU (size 12/14 US) underwear. 

She tried a pair in this morning with no waistbands and it’s already digging in. So really she’s easily gone up 2 sizes in the last 6 weeks as the 14’s she bought are too tight and she’s outgrown all her VS size large bottoms!

Next size is considered plus size which will be the real test.

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Quick update: She admitted the Size 16 underwear with waistbands is starting to dig in and feel tight when she sits. So basically up a size in 3 weeks.

shes still really going for it with her eating so I’m not really surprised. Easily 6000 cals yesterday. But she’s oblivious to that.

Being only 5’3” and curvy Latino physique with most weight going to butt, belly, hips and thighs it’s really starting to show. Almost Katie Cummings tho gain through her midsection but skinny everywhere else. 
I’m guessing she back up to about 155-158 which would be close to equal highest non pregnancy weight, but much bigger this time due to body composition changes.
Anyway, time to go grab her some size 18 AU panties which are officially plus size here. Let’s hope she doesn’t freak out!

 

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Update time.

So my wife started back her old pre-pregnancy office job about a month ago. She works 3 days a week and I know she snacks a lot and obviously being office job doesn’t do much. Her and her work friends often grab lunch together at this cafe they love and I’ve noticed that they’ve all gained weight since they worked there.

Anyway, I thought my wife might have kind of platued in April but I got home from work late last night after putting kids to bed. She’s wearing tights which are now several sizes to small and a top she hasn’t worn for a while and her belly was visible and her boobs were swelling out of her bra.

it really caught me by surprise how much bigger she has gotten and these clothes were a dead giveaway.

When I took her to bed a asked about her bras and panties (see above) that we recently bought and she admired even the 16’s were too tight now and she needs to find a new brand as her brand here in Oz don’t do plus size. I said we could go an the weekend and I would help her find a new brand that makes size 18. What an incredible journey in just over 4 months!!!

Then to top it off this morning she is wearing new work clothes she bought 4 weeks ago before starting her job back. Unbelievably the high waisted workpants were digging right in forming a noticeable muffin top and because of this her little cardigan was too short to cover the full muffin top leaving the midriff exposed.

i thought when she looked in the mirror she’d freak and get changed. She didn’t even notice and proceeded out the door to work.

A sight to behold!!!

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We went to the store today and purchased 10 pairs of new size 18AU briefs for her underwear.

Waist - 88cm = 35”

Hips - 113cm = 45”

This is basically what we consider XL here in Australia, like a tweeter between large and official plus size, effectively a 14-16 US.

her gaining has definitely slowed but she’s now definitely the biggest she’s been when not pregnant. She’d have to be up to 75kg or 165lbs which at 5’3” is making her looking pretty damn thick and hot.

She seems pretty comfortable at her current weight and size and has not been complaining as we’ve bought plenty of bigger clothes for her.

Time to turn up the encouragement and love again and see if she can reach a soft goal of 180 lbs without any issues.

 

 

 

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Seems to be tracking along well with her nightly ice cream before bed.

I noticed she was feeling especially big last night in bed and she confirmed this morning that she’s outgrown another pair of work pants. She wasn’t overly upset which was a nice change. 

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No idea of her weight at this point but she definitely bigger and softer all over.

She said she needed new tights as all her pairs were getting too tight. We had to go to a few shops to find anything in her size. 

So she picks out her normal size 16 and she also grabbed some shorts to wear on vacation next week. However, when we got home I compared them to her current jeans and they were inches too small.

This means she graduated to a size 18 AU in pants as well as underwear. This equates to size 16 US. She is all but considered plus size now by standard definitions which is a sexy thought in itself.

I’m guessing she up another 10lbs around 175 or so. Can’t wait to see her in bathers next week for the first time in nearly 9 months!!!

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