Models and jealousy...

[Guest Der Haifisch]

I need advice and help... A few years ago I was in a relationship with a Model on a different FA website... There was a lot of jealousy and bitterness over comments made by admirers...some were civil...many were not...many were disgusting...Naturally I reacted negatively which affected the friendship and led to its ending...

How do partners deal with these emotions of jealousy, anger, criticism while trying to support the Models love for what they do ??... I hope that you can help me see the light...thank you. 

[Guest high]

Either don't get into a relationship with a BBW/SSBBW model, or have a high-trust thing where you can withstand all the praise, compliments and thirst thrown her way. Only works if she's rock solid with you.

[Great Admirer]

probably not the best advice but in this situation i would try me best to reason and keep my cool. none of these negative feelings will ever help so i would either get over them or admit to myself i couldn’t be in such relationship, be it a love or just friendly relationship. and if i found it hard to reason, i probably would look for professional help.

[John Smith]

We, Fat Admirers and Feedees, are involving into a niche community. One crucial element that, I most unfortunately fear, prevails amid most niche communities related to sexuality and coupling lifestyle is that most of us aren’t necessarily the sexually/romantically successful lad within our own respective lives. Then because of it, bitterness, mob-mindedness and envy tend every once and a while to prosper in such shelved virtual environments.

Thereupon, some groups of men are tempted to show a lot of agressivity and sassiness when they encounter a fellow male Fat Admirer who either keep to chain from emotional affair/romantic conquest/partner to whatever or dated one of their favourite models because it would meant he’s different from the norm. People spite difference.

 

[rotwang]

Very sharp observation and informative analysis.   THANKS for sharing that.😃👍

[John Smith]

By the by, would it be conceivably unappropriate if you enable us to guess about your ex-girlfriend’s identity? Any cue...?  

[Guest Der Haifisch]

I would never do that to her... but nice try... I appreciate your advice though.. 

[John Smith]

1 minute ago, Jimmyirish said:

I would never do that to her... but nice try... I appreciate your advice though.. 

I somehow abovestand what you're living. That's not easy. I hope you are going well.

[Guest Der Haifisch]

22 hours ago, high said:

Either don't get into a relationship with a BBW/SSBBW model, or have a high-trust thing where you can withstand all the praise, compliments and thirst thrown her way. Only works if she's rock solid with you.

You make total sense...I didn't have the highest trust to handle the "competition"...she was rock solid with me and tried really hard to convince me that modeling is a job...my weakness was not being able to keep separate the job and the friendship...male pride got in the way...and it's not that I wanted to be with her because she's a model...it's because she's a good woman...thanks for listening...

[Guest Der Haifisch]

I truly appreciate the input so far...the advice given has been valuable...I guess that I need to hear from someone who is in a deeply committed relationship and/or marriage...and how they dealt with the emotions at the start of the relationship...whether she was a model, exotic dancer or pornstar...

This is foreign territory to me...I have no idea how to handle the situation...but I greatly appreciate the advice...thanks again. 

[CarlGnarl]

It is every man's dream to hook up in whatever way with a gorgeous partner.

You also have to be extremely grounded.

Men will approach her everywhere you go. You leave for 5 minutes to get drinks or use the bathroom, boom, someone next to her trying to get her number. when you return. The problem with my honey is that she is truly nice to everyone, doesn't make men feel like shit, no matter their age or looks. So she won't tell 'em to piss off, she'll chat with them, and most people who chat with her fall in love with her.

She wants to go out with her friends for drinks and dresses in shorts that show most of her thighs, and a top that shows half her boobs.You know she's at the club, being swarmed, and enjoying it, as she should, because one day she'll be 40 and 50 years old and invisible.

Her male friends will all try to be friends with you - anything to get closer to her, or to get some attention.

Gifts and bouquets of flowers will appear on her doorstep, some anonymously.

And if and when you break up, your next GF isn't going to be as beautiful, unless you're a movie star or something. You have to get used to that, too.  

Fortunately for me, I'm not the jealous type. You can't get CarlGnarl at K-Mart or Target! It was fine with me that everyone lusted after her. It just got a bit old, honestly. 

Sorry about your troubles. Relationships are a bitch sometimes!

 

 

[Guest Der Haifisch]

Thank you man...I appreciate your comments...extremely grounded is the key I guess...If I could have just ignored the comments from others maybe it would have been easier to handle...ignorance is bliss ??!!!...thanks again...👍

[extra_m13]

me dating a gainer model... sounds awesome but i am sure there are some drawbacks as the ones you mention. just focus on the long term and in the fact that it is a job after all, for her, an economic occupation

[Guest Guyoftheweek]

Two points.

1.  The internet doesn’t touch you.  It’s just online flirting, vulgar as some of it is. If the model arranges dates, that’s a different issue.

2. Those people are literally customers and I would expect in any fetish, they are rather crude.  
 

So you can’t take the reward without being nice to the people that make that possible.

[LisaLouSSBBW CLIPS]

I’ve always been picky of the men I date for this reason. I always look for a man that isn’t jealous and very secure in himself and our relationship. It helps that I’ve been doing this kind of thing for a while so it can be something brought up right in the beginning. I think in general communication is super important. 

[bigorange3]

On 5/3/2020 at 5:11 PM, Guest Guyoftheweek said:

Two points.

1.  The internet doesn’t touch you.  It’s just online flirting, vulgar as some of it is. If the model arranges dates, that’s a different issue.

2. Those people are literally customers and I would expect in any fetish, they are rather crude.  
 

So you can’t take the reward without being nice to the people that make that possible.

Personally disagree with both

1) I don't think touch is threshold for cheating. If my girl is developing a romantic, intimate emotional connection with another person, I don't care where they are. 

2) Creating content doesn't mean you consent to receiving lewd messages. Unfortunately you probably will, but that doesn't make it right, and I would expect someone to be upset by it.

The transaction that occurs is you pay, you receive content. Being nice or having to respond kindly to vulgar comments isn't part of the deal unless it explicitly is. 

[John Smith]

Not around to brag about myself but altough I've never dated BBW models, I've noticed a rather similar pattern during my past three or five years involving within these niche forums and how I'd noted that some men grow really much openly sassier and bitter when I'm narrating or sharing material about the girls that used to revolve directly or briefly into my life. I've also noted than some members in various forums seems to compete against each other for the sake of earning one popular model's attention: and the more one keep fetching more-or-less unenthusiasticly that said attention, the more you're gonna risking from being alienated, squirming or being reported by that latter group when they've opeming their own threads.

 

When you see someday the same single males, potential incels and greyhairs around who keep trying to either ruffle someone at the slightest post anywhere or to outright call him a very unattractive man for no reason and while having never seen their faces, you had to find those campus-minded sass comments pretty much suspiciously suggest they're likely to assume the contrary about that man.

It is a fact than some individuals are merely more skilled in communicating, filtring or being woo-ed by suitors/resses and how many they keep esthablushing connections depends about either those social skills, their charisma or physical attractiveness. We're talking a lot about how Fat Admiring forums seems sometimes like an arena for highly-competitive art creators and sex workers: but never we even tackled that the other side may experiences mating competition as well.