Does WG cause character change?

[georgia]

Has anyone had a S.O gain a lot of weight like over 50 pounds and found that their mood, character, and attitude changed? For example I was in a relationship with someone who gained 50+ pounds and as they were heavier they were angrier and more easily put off. If you didn’t get her food she would get really mad. She also got really self-focused after gaining weight where she focused more on her appetites and less concerned with others. Anyone had a similar experience?

[extra_m13]

that can happen and it is not necessarily a good thing. the issue is what kind of gain it was... some people are just used to being big and see it as a normal and ok thing to gain some pounds. other are used to being thin or skinny or fit so getting out of breath easily can put you in a bad mood. medical and hormonal conditions for the ladies can be a bad news for the partner in turn as well

[John Smith]

9 hours ago, georgia said:

Has anyone had a S.O gain a lot of weight like over 50 pounds and found that their mood, character, and attitude changed? For example I was in a relationship with someone who gained 50+ pounds and as they were heavier they were angrier and more easily put off. If you didn’t get her food she would get really mad. She also got really self-focused after gaining weight where she focused more on her appetites and less concerned with others. Anyone had a similar experience?

Any physical change may or may not somehow affect somebody's strength of character, mind and personality traits.

 

Those of your girlfriend, I fear, would to be about struggling with some seemingly internal conflict of hers: conflict she try to hinder by consistently repressing her coleric tantrum and shifting moods through the ritualistic comfort of eating. Which may had partially exacerbated her desire for reclusiveness. 

 

I recommand you to pause with her for a while. Invite her to confess her issues with you, a member of her family or a medical specialist. There has perhaps some things you need to know.

[CarlGnarl]

 

No. 

My experience has been that aside from a few nasty remarks from family hurting her feelings and having to deal with the fact that most of society doesn't find fat women hot and just ignore you or treat you ilke your IQ has taken a dive, my honey loved the massive attention from me, and we both enjoyed the deep intimacy that comes when both partners decide to go forward with weight gain and the feeding and fun begins and the clothes are shredded and the belly bulges out and the ass gets big and jiggly and you have sex for hours but also you're completely in love with all that implies. It's almost like a pregnant glow. I know two other feedees who are fucking enormous, and married, and they are as pleasant as you please.

You were associating with someone who had problems to begin with, it sounds like.

I know one gainer like that, actually. She is really adorable and went from 120 pounds in 2011 to over 300 now, and she's pretty obnoxious, although she can also be sweet and funny. She's pretty much a self-centered jerk at times, just like guys can be jerks, or anyone, really. She is also very young, and being self-centered is part of the experience of being young. Not for everyone, of course, but some. When she gets bitchy I just disappear for awhile. But we've been pals for the last 5 years and 80 pounds.

[Voluptuouslover]

My wife became much more pleasant and relaxed after gaining 40+ lbs.  Her attitude toward food and everything was much more in abundance ....meaning she relaxed more, had more fun, laughed more, enjoyed more things....she becomes a much more relaxed less uptight version of herself.  A much better version of herself and the added lbs. make her so much sexier aesthetically as well.  Guys rubber neck and hit on her way more after she packs on a bunch of weight....and I think it not only has to do with her looks but her attitude and more welcoming behavior as opposed to a more stand off personality when she isn’t as heavy for some reason.

 

[allgrownup]

At any weight I've known my wife at she's been self deprecating towards her looks, her body. A woman's thing, I think.

At her lower weights she used to be more of a busy-body, doing this and that, asking when such or such would get done. Not the most relaxing weekends.

With her weight back on she's much more lethargic, much more relaxed. I would almost say more complacent. She has gotten used to not do anything (partly too because of a condition she suffers from, but mostly because of sheer weight lifestyle induced laziness), lays in bed for long hours, then maybe walks to a lazy chair to hang out there a long time.

Plus, almost any situation can be solved with food and treats.

[Dr. Feeder]

Some people are happier fat. Some hate it. For those two groups, getting fat  is bound to have an effect on their mood.

 

[gggg]

Luckily it's been a more positive change for my girl.  After being a fit track star for so long, her response to losing her "perfect" high school body was to simply ignore it and act and dress as if she were still thin. It's only recently that she's begun to finally let her inner slob out and do away with the thin veneer of ladylikeness she tried to hold onto for so long. Accepting her growing gut and giving herself the freedom of overeating and belching in front of her skinny friends has made her happier,  I think she's the happiest she's been in quite some time.

[PhatCat]

I found it can go either way. My current girlfriend has lost weight and become less happy as a result. She thinks she needs to lose more weight, but when she was heavier she didn't care about her weight and wasn't so concerned with how much she ate. Now she's always worried she's going to be too fat or that I'll think she's too fat. She was fat as a teenager and said she thought she looked hot in a string bikini. She worries much more now that she is slim (actually skinny-fat). She was more relaxed the more weight she carried. I'm trying to get her to stop worrying about her weight. I think that once she gets a little chubbier, she'll be happier with her body like she used to be.

I had a girlfriend who gained weight during our relationship. Not long before I met her she got chubby after being skinny her whole life. And during our relationship she got chubbier. She had confidence knowing she could have a fat gut and still have a boyfriend who thought she was hot, but she lost confidence every time she got dressed because she'd outgrow her clothes. She didn't want to think of herself as a fat person, but her clothes kept reminding her that she was no longer a size 4. And then no longer a size 6. And her size 8 clothes were getting tight. When she could no longer wear her favourite t-shirt out of the house because it couldn't cover her belly, it made her sad. She saw me as someone who gave her confidence in her body, but I think also as someone who helped her settle for being the chubby girl she didn't want to be.

Some fat people feel freed because they aren't worrying about being skinny. Others hate themselves for being fat.

[BindsThatTie]

My wife generally gets her way in picking dinner because she always has some "craving". And the kids get annoyed with always having to bend to her wishes.

But the character change I've noticed the most is her relaxing and having more humility at work. Once she became the fat girl, there wasn't as much "competition" in her mind with being the thin, go getter climbing the corporate ladder. She chilled out and seems to have healthier relationships at work after gaining.

[Guest grateful]

Beware of Hangry!  And stressful clothes shopping!  In that order.

My experience has been that once your girl is eating and enjoying it, be very very careful about getting into a situation where she is hungry and there isn't a plan in place or some food forthcoming and she might become monstrous-which may seem cute-but she is suffering and is starting to go crazy. Don't let it happen.

The second one is:   no matter how much women in my life might enjoy being big and eating whatever they want and being admired for it,  without exception, clothes shopping is always a big stress...things are getting better for the plus sized girl, but it is still difficult.

My 2 cents.  😁

[BindsThatTie]

Can 2nd that^. Clothes shopping is not a positive experience. I've touched on it many times here; it's where rubber meets the road in embracing and acknowledging how fat you've become. And the amount of $ spent on a whole new wardrobe typically doesn't come with many smiles - atleast that's been my experience.

It's pivotal to keep them growing, though. 🤨

[Dr. Feeder]

Another change I've heard of is that women often feel more feminine after gaining. 

[Guest grateful]

2 hours ago, Dr. Feeder said:

Another change I've heard of is that women often feel more feminine after gaining. 

I was just chatting recently to a girl who gained 30 pounds at college and felt she had "become a woman" and enjoyed her new figure.

She felt she had never had breasts before but now noticed them and enjoyed them being larger.

[Guest skinnygirlwantstogrow]

I have suppressed my desire to intentionally gain for many years and am both happier but also very fearful at the same time.