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Can you have a "normal" sex, if you have this fetish ?

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First of all, i've been into fat fetish since i was 15, in my puberty i always turn on by feederism, fat bellies, stuffing, etc. Even i masturbate with this kind of fetish

And now i'am around 18, and i wonder if i go into relationships with girl i like, can i "turn on" and having a normal sex with her? because i've been masturbate to those fat fetish porn category

of course i like this girl physically, she's beautiful, have a "normal" body. i'm worried that i can't have a normal sex with her

this is so depressing to me 

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lets see, so you are currently 18, around... that fetish probably way before the 15 you mention. i am around 34 and i can relate to your feeling in a very precise way. and i think you will be ok, you wil have regular sex and you will enjoy, of course you will also have some spats with ladies when you tell them you want them to gain weight, intentionally and to enjoy it, but you will learn to master the way of communicating that with time.

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I’ve had this issue. I’m 20. I was with an ex for two years and she wasn’t fat or chubby or anything, it was a struggle at first but I just learned to use my imagination and imagine she’s bigger than she actually is. But yeah I worry about the same thing if a girl isn’t chubby enough

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For me, whenever I masturbate I have to use this fetish. However, when I have sex it's either feedism is a little bit of foreplay or it's not involved at all. My wife isn't into this fetish because she doesn't want me to control what she eats. That's fine. She's a big and beautiful woman, and I just have to provide for her and make her feel as beautiful as she is. Remember when you have this fetish, you are fighting against a toxic, fat-phobic culture with your love and support. 

 

(she does, however, like more classic bdsm and being dominated by me, which I also love doing)

 

Sexuality is different for everybody, but there is one thing that's constant about us guys: if we are worried, full of doubt and anxiety, it's gonna be difficult to have sex.

 

High anxiety and worrying about something is the fastest way to kill your boner. Try to just focus on relaxing and enjoying the moment with her, don't worry about the outcome. You don't owe her good sex, you just hope to have some is all. 

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What fetish do you mean exactly? Being into big women? You will have trouble getting it up for a thin woman if you are able to at all. But other than that if you find a big woman or even a curvy one who you can picture being on the road to bigness it shouldn't be a problem. Too much focus on the internet probably isn't good. I'm lucky I had my puberty before the internet or at least before it was widespread. First when I was a young teen I noticed girls my age that were probably 120-130 pounds, but they had developed some thighs. I was very scrawny and I think I was both jealous of them and attracted to them at the same time. As I grew up I liked bigger and bigger women, but it didn't continue forever. I probably prefer around a 230 pound woman of average height and bone structure now, although amazingly I have seen several women online that were a good 100 pounds bigger than that that I still found very attractive, but I think they are unicorns to some extent- larger framed, a lot of muscle mass with the fat, very feminine fat distribution so while weighing 330 works for them it probably wouldn't for 90% if not more of women. I'm sure you'll settle into what you like. 

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On 11/8/2019 at 12:31 PM, asasasasasa said:

First of all, i've been into fat fetish since i was 15, in my puberty i always turn on by feederism, fat bellies, stuffing, etc. Even i masturbate with this kind of fetish

And now i'am around 18, and i wonder if i go into relationships with girl i like, can i "turn on" and having a normal sex with her? because i've been masturbate to those fat fetish porn category

of course i like this girl physically, she's beautiful, have a "normal" body. i'm worried that i can't have a normal sex with her

this is so depressing to me 

If you stopped looking at porn completely and only masturbated to touch, not having fantasies, you'd be fine, in all likelihood. 

In regards to normal sex, have you tried ? 

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1 hour ago, AcesDJD said:

What fetish do you mean exactly? Being into big women? You will have trouble getting it up for a thin woman if you are able to at all. But other than that if you find a big woman or even a curvy one who you can picture being on the road to bigness it shouldn't be a problem. Too much focus on the internet probably isn't good. I'm lucky I had my puberty before the internet or at least before it was widespread. First when I was a young teen I noticed girls my age that were probably 120-130 pounds, but they had developed some thighs. I was very scrawny and I think I was both jealous of them and attracted to them at the same time. As I grew up I liked bigger and bigger women, but it didn't continue forever. I probably prefer around a 230 pound woman of average height and bone structure now, although amazingly I have seen several women online that were a good 100 pounds bigger than that that I still found very attractive, but I think they are unicorns to some extent- larger framed, a lot of muscle mass with the fat, very feminine fat distribution so while weighing 330 works for them it probably wouldn't for 90% if not more of women. I'm sure you'll settle into what you like. 

My response to the OP: cut back on the internet porn. And do not position your GF to "compete" with online fantasy.

People have sex with partners who fall short of a fantasy ideal. It happens all the time. In fact it is probably the human default condition. So my answer is yes, you can have "normal sex" if you are FA, a feeder, or have a weight gain fetish. Just relax.

This is a bit of a digression, but it's weird that we now live in a world where the most outlandish sexual fantasies are now accessible with the click of a mouse. There seem to be good and bad consequences. Bad consequences include unrealistic expectations about sex and sexual partners in real life.

Good consequences include that fact that sexual self-discovery is much, much easier now than it used to be, if you have "unusual" preferences. Growing up, I had access to ZERO information about being FA. This led to a lot of confusion and repression once I realized that my preferences were different from those around me. If I'd been a brasher type, I'd have just declared that I dug fat girl X or Y when my friends were sizing up chicks they considered hot, and let them razz me for it. But instead I just kept it to myself - with all kinds of unhappy consequences. First, early on, I tended to develop a somewhat furtive approach to girls, admiring BBWs from afar rather than just asking them out. But even once I was over that, it took me years to fully realize that (a) I like women who are more than just "chubby" or "plump," (b) I profoundly love weight gain and (c) nothing but nothing is hotter to me than a BBW overeating or self-stuffing. 

Even after I got together with my wife - who was hefty and stuffed herself fairly regularly - the internet was still valuable in helping me to understand the parameters of this preference. Early on I'd feel a bit deviant, confused, or even in denial of how unbelievably turned on I was when she'd really overdo it. 

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What's normal? Why should you change for a gf? 

If you're stuck on it, then introduce her to the lifestyle and if she loves you she'll indulge you. Be prepared to go through a few girlfriends, tho.

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On a more simple thought .......I think you should look for a heavier girl that has a big appetite that you have some things in common with that your like.  The reason I say this is because this fetish has never turned off with me and over the years the desire for more weight on women or my wife has only increased.  So having my wife gaining weight (albeit not as Fat as I would like) but considered Fat by others I would say along with watching her eat and grow out of some of her clothes is definitely all I need.  Now it ism everything we don't have discussions about making her gain weight or feeding her etc. in fact we don't really discuss the fetish.......I can get enough of it with looking at her fatter and her once and a while tease herself and call herself a Fat pig.

 

70-80% isn't 100% but it is still pretty damn good.

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On 11/20/2019 at 7:25 PM, Voluptuouslover said:

I think you should look for a heavier girl that has a big appetite that you have some things in common with that your like.

It's quite normal too I've noticed, don't even have to closet desires if subtle enough and keep a few days to let that huge meal settle, or encourage exercise so it's not an obsession, let alone constant overeating can make her more depressed.

 

Heavy users of fast food, over 3 times a week prove this) and less likely for her to be in the mood. I'm glad there's apple slices or gogurt (no idea what burger king has as a healthy side).

https://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2019/09/12/link-between-fast-food-and-depression.aspx

Doing this stuffing bit weekly can feel normal honestly, especially when coupled with foot/belly rubs. Heck I've done it (no time, family wants food already prepared) and kept good habits, even losing weight on days I don't want to keep feeling bloated. An extra cheeseburger or fries isn't really a big deal, just the gorging/binge eating shown in those mukbangs. Surprised they have mobility and aren't drained.

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In my experience, for me, mental attitude trumps physical attributes-friendliness to fat and indulging in "micro gains" and little feedings works quite well.

It really hinges on an understanding partner and some degree of attraction.

 

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