BindsThatTie Posted October 23, 2019 Share Posted October 23, 2019 My girl has been on quite the gain train since August. This week though every single night she's been couch bound and needing a back massage because of acute lower back pain – almost certainly tied to her gain in her breasts and gut. Will this subside as her core muscles adapt and strengthen with the weight? Or is this simply a chronic issue with being a big girl? Have any of you put the brakes on your gain/goal due to pains like this? John Smith 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allgrownup Posted October 23, 2019 Share Posted October 23, 2019 I don't remember if you shared her weight. If she is on the obese side and has a sitting job, her chair may need changing. You can ask her when the pain starts. If it is during the day, especially later morning/early afternoon, it's likely the chair itself. Even if the chair itself would have enough resistance still, feedee's tend to forget they've put on padding in their back as well, so the chair may just need adjustment. If it was her breasts it's more likely she would have upper back pain, not lower. In case of breast weight related pain the first step is to get good fitting bra's. Almost all larger women are wearing the wrong size (too small, too large) bra's which will give neck, shoulder, and upper back pain. Of course if she has a considerable belly that will put a strain on her lower back. But with a sitting job that shouldn't be much of a problem. I haven't seen you describe your wife otherwise than inactive so I can't think it is from standing or walking too much. Maybe ask if she lifted anything, moved anything, either at home or at work? Doesn't need to be heavy; she already is You could turn the back massage into a larger massage session. Have her lay on the bed, massage her back, then have her turn around and cream her body, including her belly. John Smith 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BindsThatTie Posted October 24, 2019 Author Share Posted October 24, 2019 She's 215'ish, but barely 5'3" and carries most of it in her gut. She has a desk job. Was hoping to get her around 250'ish before next summer. But I obviously don't want her in pain. John Smith 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allgrownup Posted October 24, 2019 Share Posted October 24, 2019 eeesh, yes, then she's in the middle of Class 2 obese. That's a heavy load. But with the sitting job she shouldn't have too much strain on her back too often. Try to find out when it comes up. Does she wake up with back pain? Does it happen at work, or does it happen when she comes home? How is she on her days off? Once we know those things it will become more clear if it's a posture or support thing, and if it is at home, work, or all the time. John Smith and CherryPi 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BindsThatTie Posted October 24, 2019 Author Share Posted October 24, 2019 It's almost always after a little cleaning after dinner (loading the dishwasher or sweeping). Never during sleep. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allgrownup Posted October 24, 2019 Share Posted October 24, 2019 Well yeah, that makes sense. The bending and the sweeping gives regular people discomfort already. If I were in your shoes I would take those tasks over. As her feeder/encourager you kind of owe it to her, but you also owe it to yourself in freeing up the way for her to go up in weight some more. "I'll take care of the dishes and the floor honey. Here, you relax with some ice cream and I'll be right back" John Smith 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BindsThatTie Posted October 28, 2019 Author Share Posted October 28, 2019 I've taken most of the chores from her. But she still insists on doing 1-2 things while I'm doing other tasks. I actually don't mind it because it gets her out of breath and straight to the couch with a reward mentality, ie. "I loaded the dishwasher so I deserve to lay around for the rest of the night and have some snacks for all my hard work." 🙄 allgrownup, ARM and John Smith 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dania201 Posted November 25, 2019 Share Posted November 25, 2019 Maybe sounds crazy to some folks here, but going for short walks around the block can be helpful in improving posture and building simple core muscles. I’m assuming you don’t want her in pain, especially at such an early/low weight. CherryPi and John Smith 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
extra_m13 Posted November 26, 2019 Share Posted November 26, 2019 there are some things that we do need to accept and that is the whole package of wanting our partner to get fatter and stay fat. in my case... my opinion is the following. most of the time we discard 'labels' but they are useful sometimes. human body is not really meant -in evolutionary terms- to weight out of certain range but of course our beautiful bbws happen and we love them but there are some drawbacks. just as we are not supposed to receive hits on our head all day as boxers and that takes a toll on them, a human body is not design to carry around 200kg on a normal basis and there is a toll in joints, backpain and so on. but oh boy, what a delicious thing would be to see my wife get that fat John Smith 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John Smith Posted December 9, 2019 Share Posted December 9, 2019 I've recently chatted with a businesswoman/Plus-Size social media model/"influencer" working on catering business, while a question poll launched by her. After having asked a few questions about her hobbies, business model and how to she handle her own physical appareance in everyday life-- because the said woman was, for your information, none only overall immensely obese but extremely stacked downhill the waist: her extremely stockt hips were about maybe 60s or 70s inches wide and her stocky deckhouse derriere, oozing out three or four inches backward, was huge enough to carry on a full-grown man; stated that she did really enjoy her body but than the older she gets, the more she's subconsequently experiencing backpain issues because of the massive heft of her lower body assets. Must certainly not being an easy thing to live. FortunateDan 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JackOfAll Posted December 23, 2019 Share Posted December 23, 2019 On 10/28/2019 at 4:22 PM, BindsThatTie said: I've taken most of the chores from her. But she still insists on doing 1-2 things while I'm doing other tasks. I actually don't mind it because it gets her out of breath and straight to the couch with a reward mentality, ie. "I loaded the dishwasher so I deserve to lay around for the rest of the night and have some snacks for all my hard work." 🙄 I recommend yoga, Tai chi, or something similar. It doesn't have to be intense, but focusing on working her core and other muscles to increase her activity will help her heft that gut. Plus, the side effects will be increased flexibility and endurance. Both beneficial in multiple applications. 15-30 minutes daily should help. And don't worry about burning calories...you'd be lucky to burn 50-100 calories in that time. Whatever you two decide to do, good luck, and hopefully the back pain will recede or disappear entirely. CherryPi and John Smith 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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