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Hi,

Well, faster than dieting to feel better,  would be to announce your wg to a ton of appreciators who will encourage you and tell you how beautiful you are.

A pic wouldn't hurt either. 😁

Although most here would be sad to hear you are dismayed, they would be quick to gather round and praise you until you feel better!

BTW, Women of Curvage, or your original thread will get more traffic for your "news".

The forum is a bit of an orphan.

Best wishes!

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this a good topic of conversation... in my case. i once got up about 20 pounds in a couple of months that mixed honeymoon and the time before and a voracious appetite because i was eating everything that was in sight and encouraging my lady to do it as well. if you ask me i didn't feel particularly happy, not with the belly but with the tight clothes and the differences in movement it was a bit weird and i never thought about keeping the weight to be honest. but i did enjoy gaining it, i will admit that, eating is one delicious pleasure

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Hm. I may not be the best person to ask... But I'll do my best.

I went through some difficulties while at university, both academically and socially. After A full year of driving myself to rack and ruin attempting to maintain high grades I lost about 25 pounds from extreme stress and not eating and had back gained 30 from sleeping 13 hours a day and never seeing the sun. Suffice to say my life was fuuuuuucccccckkkkkkkeeeeeeeddddddd. 

Following my resumption of 'functionality' I basically obsessed over my weight to an absurd degree, and while obsessing over it, did little to either improve my situation or even change it. I was so obsessed with the shame of it I vacillated between exercising whilst barely eating at all (boiled white rice and steamed vegetables once a day for a week) and eating normally but hiding my shame from the world by never interacting with anyone or anything.

When this finally bottomed out I became obsessed over calorie counting and then wound up losing 55 pounds through a rigid diet of 1700 calories a day, regardless of activity. I would plan out what I would eat days in advance, and always limit intake severely following 'cheat days'.  I maintained this for roughly 2 years. I've mostly moved on from this, but it still nags at my mind.

Suffice to say, this was the wrong response.

I think what you need to do is take stock of where you are in life. What good, whats great about your life. What brings you joy what makes you happy. And then ask yourself, does 12 pounds (or more) really fuck with that at all? And do the people around me really care less about me or think less of me for it? Have I really changed in their eyes? And, if you have, does it matter? If their opinion of you is that damaged by some pudge, how highly do they really think of you? Above all remain calm, you can't live your life if you start to freak out.

I didn't do that. and therefore made myself miserable and much worse off by freaking out. 

And people wonder why I'm such a lurker..... All I do is bum people out. Ah, well. 

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Of course there's going to be surprise at a 12lb gain. Dismay is learned from those who influence you. If you surround yourself in the BBW community, it may be delight in the realization you're getting curvier and subjectively more attractive.

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Ask yourself why you felt dismayed about it. If you got on and had unintentionally lost 12 lbs, would you have felt better? Why?

The things you want to write about gaining, about having more weight, when you take a moment to think about them, are they your ideas or someone else's? If someone else's, do you agree with those ideas?

Maybe you feel dismay because you've been taught women should be (very) thin. Look around you: who actually resembles the people in the media that represent that thin ideal? Then look around you; do men only date and marry these thin women you're taught to admire?

Around you women come in all kinds of sizes. These days the majority of adult women is between overweight and obese. And if you think they're not being desired you're wrong. Since 2013 the number of searchs for BBW pornography has increased 47% https://www.pornhub.com/insights/bbw-curvy-women-searches

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