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I say the best way to keep her gaining is to not discourage her if she's talking about a diet. Just be patient, and reinforce her self esteem with lots of compliments. Let her know she has great curves. She will relax as she begins to feel more comfortable.

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My gf constantly complains about her weight and has started to exercise. But she's very out of shape and can't handle a full workout. After each workout she complains in deails how hard it was, how she wasn't able to do most of the exercises. How her arms and abs, and legs gave up and she failed to keep up with others. How hard running is for her because her belly fat jiggles and so on. Until now she hasn't lost any weight or got any fitter, but her constan't and detailed complaining about her lack of fitness is very arousing. So I enjoy it and don't worry much.

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Well, while my successes in the matter are small, I will give a shot at answering these questions:

So, how to make your wife/girlfriend fat and/or have her stay that way and/or make her even fatter?

- Cook. When you cook, you're to a large extent in control of her calorie intake. Just remember, it has to be tasty first, fattening second. If it's not tasty, she will eat it only once. If it is, she'll ask you to make it again.

- Take her out for dining dates. It has been proven, IIRC, that people almost always eat more out than they would at home. Also, whenever she's on the fence whether to have something extra, like, dessert or a starter, take advantage of it. Pick only places where you know food is excellent or at least can reasonably expect so. Again, if she likes it, she will want to come back.

- Eat with her. Especially when you're encouraging her to eat more. That will be an excuse for her to eat as well. Also, it looks weird when you tell her to take something extra while you don't. If she does that herself, let her and you don' have to do the same, but do it at least once a while so as not to make her feel like the only glutton at the party. Also, you can always take less fattening treats for yourself, especially if your lady is not that nutrition-savvy.

- Stock up snacks. Just exercise reason. If you fill your whole storage room or cabinet with it, she might realise there's something odd going on. But a bag or two of crisps in store? A few bars of chocolate? A frozen pizza for a lazy evening? Sure! Also, snack with her for the same reasons as in two above points. 

- Lead the kind of life where both of you don't get enough sleep, at least once a while. Undersleeping usually means eating more during the day.

- Make sure she knows clothing stores where she can shop without worrying whether they have their size. If their size chart is a bit skewed in the direction of size L clothes fitting ladies who usually take XL - perfect!

- Make her feel that your relationship is secure and you're going to be together forever (and you better mean that, pal!) - if she is not certain of that, she will try to keep higher chances for herself in the dating pool, which usually means staying away of getting fat(ter). Things that usually help within that scope? Proposal -> marriage -> kids. Also, if you look at any other women in lustily fashion (porn included), stop it or at least keep her unaware of it. Also, make her the sole focus of your fantasies, even if you do the above. As in, don't wank to other women unless e.g. you wank to the image of your wife/gf being as fat as the lady who's vid/pic you are watching with your dick in hand. Even if the fantasies are bit darkish (fattening to immobility or, IDK, some humiliation stuff) still keep her the main object of it. Obviously, it won't magically turn her fatter, but it will help you be extra genuine in making her feel like the special snowflake she is, which will help make her feel secure.

- If she wants to diet, let her! Better, if she wants to crash diet, help her! You want the diet to be the bad guy, not you. So let her get sick of the diet and whenever she seeks some excuse to drop it, help her. She says "gosh, I'd so eat an X but I'm on diet"? Tell her that you'd love to have some too. Also, if she is not too nutrition savvy and you are cooking, you may try making the portions smaller while at the same time making them even less filling (more simple carbs, less protein and, to some extent, fat - once she goes back to her regular regimen you can put the fat back ;)).

- If she wants to exercise, don't discourage her but either suggest stuff that she will quickly get bored or tired of doing or - if she is more serious about exercising - try to steer her towards less taxing activities. Some moderate walking, smimming or cycling might actually boost her appetite and work miracles for her sense of well-being (and health too), while it is highly unlikely to cause her to burn too much fat. Plus, exercise is always a good excuse to let oneself eat more, so use that argument to you advantage ;).

- Don't talk too much about her weight, size, etc. Talk about her. How beautiful she is, how lovely her [insert body part] is, how good she looks in that body-hugging dress, how you love caressing her body, how pleasantly soft it feels... Well, you get the point, right? No "OMG, you look so hot at 200 lbs!" or "OMG, I love those fat ankles of yours". Well, ok, at some point (and with some women) this might be acceptable, but exercise MAJOR caution.

- Drop the whole FA terminology entirely unless she uses it herself and finds it something normal. Most women do not like feeling like fetish objects and a relationship based on fetish does not seem like something made of granite.

- Neutralize fat as a negative adjective. If necessary, name it differently. Language has power. "Soft" is a nice substitute.

- Don't play too much with her fat bits if she is not entirely comfortable with it. Once she is, play the heck out of them! Also, if she is uncomfortable with it, try doing it when she is too ecstatic to notice/remember (which basically means all those situations when she is gravitating towards the orgasm). She may not be there with you then, orbiting Jupiter or Pluto instead, but her brain and body are still there and they make associations. Sex + orgasm + his hand holding my belly roll = good. It will not change her mind overnight, heck, it actually takes some time, but it's definitely worth it. In some cases after a year or two you might actually notice she gets even more aroused once you squeeze that belly roll and then you will feel like a champ!

 

TBC, maybe I will recall some more tips ;). Also, take it with a grain of salt - people vary greatly and I based all of this above on one woman only. 

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Nice tips @scissortooth though damn the sleight of hand is surreal. Hopefully the lady is worth tolerating all this stuff. A bit advanced but holding out until she gets her fat ass in gear sometimes helps too. Worse comes to worse, someone better may notice you and you can jump or minimize that sinking ship.

 

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Hi there - I might have the unpopular opinion here but I have experience from the other side of this!

Be genuine - If you cant live without a partner that wants to be or at least doesn't mind being fat  then maybe you're not with the right person, change can't always be made if it isn't meant to happen. I'm not saying leave her btw, just to think of what is more important - fat or your marriage that to that person.

You could always sleight of hand it but its so much more satisfying when the feelings are mutual - After all, you don't want a wife that hates herself because of your forced preferences.

Other than that, just remind her that she's beautiful and maybe draw more positive attention to the bigger bits. "You look cute when you eat" etc etc

If it's meant to be, it'll be - Remember, I'm a fat girl, so I kinda know what real fat girls want lol

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there are some really good tips here and i agree with most of them. now of course i have to give my own version. first of all, know her, identify her personality and her attitude. i believe it is not for everyone to be overweight or obese and i say this for myself. it is not a matter of how i look i just feel horrible when i am overweight, so now, first get to know your partner, if she has been let's say, an example, all her life, a runner, trim runner, under 130 pounds, with no really big appetite and used to run miles a day, without a craving for fattening meals, you don't really have a chance that she will gain permanently or happily. so you either join that lifestyle or go away. 

 

but if you see hope... in the shape of a big appetite, a tendency to gain weight, a craving for sweets and fast food and not being particularly fond of exercising, looking for shortcuts to be slim because that is in and not because she is slim in her genes then my friend you are on to something. after that, yes, all of the above applies, do not ever talk about her weight, if she talks about dieting let her, encourage some exercise specially if you do exercise. have her favourite snacks available and invite her to some fancy dinners ever now and then. over 'soft' i prefer curves, but somehow let her know how sexy she is to you and yes, give her a sense of total stability in the relationship. 

 

lights on. cellulite on. grab everything you can and point out how hot she is. 

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