is it all about the belly???

[Guest tillymint]

On 12/5/2018 at 2:20 PM, BilledMeUp said:

Damn...you are gorgeous...like a plus-size model. 

I haven't read every comment in this thread, so this may have already been covered. I am really into the gaining process. There is something about losing control that is a turn on. I especially like a chubby woman whose clothes are too tight. To me that's a signal of a recent gain.

I am most attracted to women in the slightly chubby to about 200 pound range. The weight could be more as long as the shape is more hour glass than apple.  Muffin tops, a soft belly with the outline of the belly button through a stretchy tight dress, a nice roll over a bikini bottom with big boobs and a plump behind...all major turn ons. 

nooooo definitely not model standards 😂😂 my face is rather Asymetric im afraid...but thankyou! 

all of this tight clothing belly button thing is such a surprise to me!! I'm quite sure that other women would benefit from visiting this site and reading some of the comments. 

it's interesting to me though....you say you enjoy the gaining process and like a woman at around the 200lb mark. you answered my question perfectly but now I'd like to know what happens when the woman has gained enough? are you then satisfied or does the lack of gaining extinguish some of the passion for you? 

[Guest tillymint]

1 minute ago, grateful said:

Long ago I would fixate on whatever sizable part my GF had. Over time I grew to appreciate the person and attributes which were unique to them and became the characteristics I would grow fond of. (personality, looks. etc.)

Nowadays, it's all about the person first, but fat is always better and fatter is better still.

I'm not particular about weight in general, but if I grow fond of someone, then their fat becomes my "kryptonite" and that can be anywhere or all over.

 

this is a very interesting answer! 

I think for many of us it's all about looks when we are younger and as we mature we gain appreciation for the personality. 

so if i understand correctly you fall for the person first and then develop a deeper appreciation of their chubby fat bits regardless of where they might be on the body? 

 

[Guest tillymint]

On 12/5/2018 at 3:06 AM, >_< 0_0 said:

I'm about to speak heresy, but... muscle and fat fused together are a thing. I really like combining those two things together; the muscle gives some shape to the fat, and the whole body jiggles and flexes at the same time -- very fun! Very healthy!

this is an interesting concept do you have any examples of women with this fused muscle/fat combination? if you had to choose between  the two (muscle woman/fat woman) which would it be? and finally is health a defining factor for you? 

[Guest tillymint]

hi everybody! thankyou all for all of the lovely compliments and thoughtful responses. 

I have a a new questions regarding gaining, 

what happens when the gaining process is complete? 

does the passion dwindle? 

I realise this will be different for everybody and I appreciate deeply your honest opinions x

[>_< 0_0]

7 minutes ago, tillymint said:

this is an interesting concept do you have any examples of women with this fused muscle/fat combination? if you had to choose between  the two (muscle woman/fat woman) which would it be? and finally is health a defining factor for you? 

I guess Serena Williams is a good example. Hockey girls too. As for choosing between fat and muscle, that's so hard! No one is pure muscle or fat! If you start getting that specific, other things start coming up like if she's fun to be around, if she likes going on adventures, stuff like that. Such things matter more to me than what girls look like. I'm actually more attracted to the idea of gaining weight in general than any body shape or composition. It's tied somehow to my attraction towards people that improve themselves. All my favourite weight gain stories have characters that end up being pleased with being bigger and end up being better in some way. Some stories are about submission and disempowerment, but that's a turn-off for me. I guess I genuinely like people in general?

[Guest tillymint]

and another question!!

(I realise there may be existing threads on these subjects and I apologise if I'm repeating)

 

there is a social stigma attached to being fat and/or being attracted to fat.

what are your experiences of this? 

did any of you experience or still experience bullying or pressure to conform because of your preferences? 

did any if you go through a 'coming out' process with friends or family when you started to date? 

I'm thoroughly interested in everybodies experiences!! 

 

[>_< 0_0]

7 minutes ago, tillymint said:

hi everybody! thankyou all for all of the lovely compliments and thoughtful responses. 

I have a a new questions regarding gaining, 

what happens when the gaining process is complete? 

does the passion dwindle? 

I realise this will be different for everybody and I appreciate deeply your honest opinions x

Lose the weight and do it again! I'd personally love stuffing a girl for awhile, taking her to the gym, and then cycling through it all. Maybe there's an age where you slow down and just live together with an occasional dose of viagra, but who could say? I never asked my grandparents anything explicit growing up.

[Guest tillymint]

3 minutes ago, >_< 0_0 said:

I guess Serena Williams is a good example. Hockey girls too. As for choosing between fat and muscle, that's so hard! No one is pure muscle or fat! If you start getting that specific, other things start coming up like if she's fun to be around, if she likes going on adventures, stuff like that. Such things matter more to me than what girls look like. I'm actually more attracted to the idea of gaining weight in general than any body shape or composition. It's tied somehow to my attraction towards people that improve themselves. All my favourite weight gain stories have characters that end up being pleased with being bigger and end up being better in some way. Some stories are about submission and disempowerment, but that's a turn-off for me. I guess I genuinely like people in general?

oh yes Serena is amazing!! Amazonian infact! 

yes I agree perhaps it is too difficult to choose one or the other! both are essential parts of the human form! 

I genuinely like people as well - everybody has a story to tell and often we are on journeys of self improvement! 

do you think it's directly linked to happiness of the person? often we gain in weight and get bigger when we are at our happiest and that in turn impacts how we perceive ourselves. 

[>_< 0_0]

Just now, tillymint said:

oh yes Serena is amazing!! Amazonian infact! 

yes I agree perhaps it is too difficult to choose one or the other! both are essential parts of the human form! 

I genuinely like people as well - everybody has a story to tell and often we are on journeys of self improvement! 

do you think it's directly linked to happiness of the person? often we gain in weight and get bigger when we are at our happiest and that in turn impacts how we perceive ourselves. 

Some people gain weight when they're content, but it's hit or miss. Personally, I just get really energetic. Some people's happiness is directly connected to what they look like, so a girl obsessed with being thin might get depressed if she gains too much. But in any case, no matter what you think of your body, it seems like what other people think means much more, so if your lover likes your body, I doubt you'd keep caring what anyone else said. Maybe.

[Guest tillymint]

8 minutes ago, >_< 0_0 said:

Lose the weight and do it again! I'd personally love stuffing a girl for awhile, taking her to the gym, and then cycling through it all. Maybe there's an age where you slow down and just live together with an occasional dose of viagra, but who could say? I never asked my grandparents anything explicit growing up.

😂😂😂 my grandparents had seperate bedrooms so read into that what you will...

thankyou for your reply...now forgive me but in my experience when you yoyo diet fat gets harder to loose and easier to gain each time. do you not find theres an ever closing timeframe in which you can indulge in this activity? 

thanks again for taking the time to reply!! 

[Guest tillymint]

2 minutes ago, >_< 0_0 said:

Some people gain weight when they're content, but it's hit or miss. Personally, I just get really energetic. Some people's happiness is directly connected to what they look like, so a girl obsessed with being thin might get depressed if she gains too much. But in any case, no matter what you think of your body, it seems like what other people think means much more, so if your lover likes your body, I doubt you'd keep caring what anyone else said. Maybe.

no you're  100% correct. what my lover thinks of my body directly impacts how I feel about myself. it's taken me a long time to get to a point if self acceptance beyond my lovers expectations of me.

[>_< 0_0]

1 minute ago, tillymint said:

😂😂😂 my grandparents had seperate bedrooms so read into that what you will...

thankyou for your reply...now forgive me but in my experience when you yoyo diet fat gets harder to loose and easier to gain each time. do you not find theres an ever closing timeframe in which you can indulge in this activity? 

thanks again for taking the time to reply!! 

Psh. Over half of nutrition is fad diets and myths. Is milk good or bad? I rest my case. It's mostly willpower anyway.

[Guest tillymint]

1 minute ago, >_< 0_0 said:

Psh. Over half of nutrition is fad diets and myths. Is milk good or bad? I rest my case. It's mostly willpower anyway.

☺ fair enough! thankyou for answering so many questions for me. I'm made up reading all of the answers!

[Guest grateful]

31 minutes ago, tillymint said:

this is an interesting concept do you have any examples of women with this fused muscle/fat combination? if you had to choose between  the two (muscle woman/fat woman) which would it be? and finally is health a defining factor for you? 

I think it is a reality that fat is what makes women beautiful as all the female physical characteristics are amplified by soft skin and well placed subcutaneous fat whether it is face, breasts, bottom or thighs, etc.

Here is a link to a well known Russian body builder and competitive weight lifter, famous for her looks. I'm sure you can see the roll that even a small layer of subcutaneous fat under soft skin can play in undeniably feminizing what would be a "chiseled, hard body" look in a guy.

https://www.greatestphysiques.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/4-29.jpg 

[Guest tillymint]

5 minutes ago, grateful said:

I think it is a reality that fat is what makes women beautiful as all the female physical characteristics are amplified by soft skin and well placed subcutaneous fat whether it is face, breasts, bottom or thighs, etc.

Here is a link to a well known Russian body builder and competitive weight lifter, famous for her looks. I'm sure you can see the roll that even a small layer of subcutaneous fat under soft skin can play in undeniably feminizing what would be a "chiseled, hard body" look in a guy.

https://www.greatestphysiques.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/4-29.jpg 

oh wow she's gorgeous! she is doll pretty! and yes i can now see exactly what you mean. there is a defined soft femininity overlapping a stunning muscular frame 💕 beautiful

[Monkey]

As touched on before all this is secondary to a relationship but if it happens and you have it along with everything else then it just makes everything better, and would just be an extra turn on.

Going on the number not being that important to me I guess it adds to this as well, its the journey and experience more than anything. Ultimately a woman could not gain any weight but still be 'gaining' and still be interesting for me partly. Like every once in a while just indulging and let themselves be treated by not saying no to food all the time. Like buying sweets or chocolate for someone and they will never eat it as they are worried about their weight, when there is nothing to worry about to begin with.        

I just think women in general look better with more weight on them and they could and should spend a lot less time worrying mainly about a number that actually means nothing. People all weight different things as surprisingly we are all completely different. I think my preference of weight is probably lower than the average user on here so the gain would always stop early for me anyway. Also once it stops doesn't mean its over though there will still be the weight gained to enjoy. I think I explained what I meant in all that I'm not sure.

For the other point I guess I'm still 'in the closet' about it all. As in I've never overtly told anyone mainly because there's been no need to, however I've never hidden it I guess. Due to the social stigma of it all I haven't showed my full hand though, I've pursued all types of women though probably often ones wouldn't normally consider as they weighed more than a 'normal' girl but I dont understand how thats a thing. Its not easy thing to do when someone is worried about their weight (or at least says they do) and you say that you like it normally doesn't go down well. Plus I've been in relationships where weight and eating has been an issue (as in they don't), so pushing it is never good. I guess it sort of explains my preference a bit more as well and my thinking that I'd rather a person just be happy.   

[Guest grateful]

35 minutes ago, grateful said:

I think it is a reality that fat is what makes women beautiful as all the female physical characteristics are amplified by soft skin and well placed subcutaneous fat whether it is face, breasts, bottom or thighs, etc.

Here is a link to a well known Russian body builder and competitive weight lifter, famous for her looks. I'm sure you can see the roll that even a small layer of subcutaneous fat under soft skin can play in undeniably feminizing what would be a "chiseled, hard body" look in a guy.

https://www.greatestphysiques.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/4-29.jpg 

"I'm sure you can see the roll "

LOL pun not intended

[sicsac]

For me it's way more complicated than just the belly.
I love the size, shape, look, and feel of fat. I also love the increase in size, texture, weight, and presence that weight gain and stuffing brings. In addition, the pleasure and abandon that is exhibited when "pigging out" is very sexy.

Fat or an increase in fat on any part of a woman's body is a turn on. The belly is my favorite part because of the correlation to the stomach and its expansion as a result of eating. Where do people put their hand when they say that they are full? On th belly.

women are all different and where fat gets stored is rarely the same on two different people. Fat and/or increasing size of any part on a woman is hot whether it be face, arms, breasts, belly, hips, butt, thighs, or calves.

Everyone has their own personal preference for specific shapes and sizes, but I would venture that my general explanation here is true for most on Curvage.

Hope that helps and sorry if this has already been said. I didn't read the entire thread yet.

 

[Guest tillymint]

20 minutes ago, Monkey said:

As touched on before all this is secondary to a relationship but if it happens and you have it along with everything else then it just makes everything better, and would just be an extra turn on.

Going on the number not being that important to me I guess it adds to this as well, its the journey and experience more than anything. Ultimately a woman could not gain any weight but still be 'gaining' and still be interesting for me partly. Like every once in a while just indulging and let themselves be treated by not saying no to food all the time. Like buying sweets or chocolate for someone and they will never eat it as they are worried about their weight, when there is nothing to worry about to begin with.        

I just think women in general look better with more weight on them and they could and should spend a lot less time worrying mainly about a number that actually means nothing. People all weight different things as surprisingly we are all completely different. I think my preference of weight is probably lower than the average user on here so the gain would always stop early for me anyway. Also once it stops doesn't mean its over though there will still be the weight gained to enjoy. I think I explained what I meant in all that I'm not sure.

For the other point I guess I'm still 'in the closet' about it all. As in I've never overtly told anyone mainly because there's been no need to, however I've never hidden it I guess. Due to the social stigma of it all I haven't showed my full hand though, I've pursued all types of women though probably often ones wouldn't normally consider as they weighed more than a 'normal' girl but I dont understand how thats a thing. Its not easy thing to do when someone is worried about their weight (or at least says they do) and you say that you like it normally doesn't go down well. Plus I've been in relationships where weight and eating has been an issue (as in they don't), so pushing it is never good. I guess it sort of explains my preference a bit more as well and my thinking that I'd rather a person just be happy.   

I hate buying chocolate and sweets for somebody knowing that they won't eat them. if you give some of my girlfriend's a box of chocolates....you get them back as a gift several months later! and my friends are tiny slender things who could eat the chocolates and not worry about it. 

yes that was a good explanation with regards to the gaining thankyou x 

with regards to 'being in the weight closet' I completely understand that it's rather difficult to break convention and with regards to gaining it must be very difficult to broach the subject with your girlfriends. although if your preference for weight and gaining is lower than the average curvage user, perhaps in your case there is no need to rock the boat? 

you sound like a lovely person thank you for your thoughtful answer ☺

 

[Guest tillymint]

33 minutes ago, sicsac said:

For me it's way more complicated than just the belly.
I love the size, shape, look, and feel of fat. I also love the increase in size, texture, weight, and presence that weight gain and stuffing brings. In addition, the pleasure and abandon that is exhibited when "pigging out" is very sexy.

Fat or an increase in fat on any part of a woman's body is a turn on. The belly is my favorite part because of the correlation to the stomach and its expansion as a result of eating. Where do people put their hand when they say that they are full? On th belly.

women are all different and where fat gets stored is rarely the same on two different people. Fat and/or increasing size of any part on a woman is hot whether it be face, arms, breasts, belly, hips, butt, thighs, or calves.

Everyone has their own personal preference for specific shapes and sizes, but I would venture that my general explanation here is true for most on Curvage.

Hope that helps and sorry if this has already been said. I didn't read the entire thread yet.

 

it definitely helps! 

especially the comment about the pleasure and abandonment of 'pigging out

can I ask do you join in with the eating during this time? 

I personally love a little pot belly on a guy. for me it's a sign of contentment and yes it's lovely to pat and cuddle upto. 

please can I ask if you are open with your friends and family about your love of a fuller figure? 

 

[Guest GinBurg]

Has to be said you have a stunning body.. Has anybody said that you look like Christina Hendricks before?

[Guest tillymint]

1 minute ago, GinBurg said:

Has to be said you have a stunning body.. Has anybody said that you look like Christina Hendricks before?

you smoothy 😉 I absolutely love her! I don't think I look like her at all unfortunately but a girl can dream right? 

[Phrozen]

1 hour ago, tillymint said:

hi everybody! thankyou all for all of the lovely compliments and thoughtful responses. 

I have a a new questions regarding gaining, 

what happens when the gaining process is complete? 

does the passion dwindle? 

I realise this will be different for everybody and I appreciate deeply your honest opinions x

Regarding your later question re: stigma etc., I find nowadays it is becoming a lot more ok to openly talk about attraction to women of a thicker build (though usually this will denote hips/butt/bust, and imply a trimmer waist). But overall, I continue to live "in the closet" about my preferences for sure. It was extremely liberating when I first shared them with my ex-GF, as I feel letting it out added a ton of sparks and passion for our love life, particularly as she reciprocated, at least in part. Beyond some role play and teasing we never went full into gaining or anything, and we both wanted her to be healthy and happy first, so she was always active etc. BUT she wasnt rejecting of the other side and admitted the "freeing" sensation of feeling more "allowed" to have cheat days and eat what she wanted etc.

Since I havent personally had a partner who has gained (at least significantly), I can only speculate, but... I think the "fetish", like anything in life, is all about moderation--i.e., I feel that those who would lose passion quickly etc. were too focused/"addicted" to one element of the relationship, which is a general unhealthy thing. I would imagine that a balance of the real world with doses of the fetish side could sustain a very happy relationship, even at a maintained size/weight.

One last added thought from my last post as well: on a personal level, I think the enjoyment of a larger, indulging partner is partly due to my attraction to strong/powerful/self-empowered/driven females--as in there is like a visible link between physique and personality characteristics that triggers in my brain. Largely, I do prefer the "athletic thick/chubby" looks that are more hourglass-y. BUT.. I am weak for soft, rubbable middles, I think because of the opposite effect of the "powerful female" idea. In other words, a rounded, imperfect middle is a "weak" and "tender" spot to be loved and protected. So the whole physique together--thick and larger parts of arms, bust, thighs, etc representing "strength", plus a soft middle, creates a perfectly imperfect person. Immensely beautiful, that is.

[sicsac]

4 minutes ago, tillymint said:

it definitely helps! 

especially the comment about the pleasure and abandonment of 'pigging out

can I ask do you join in with the eating during this time? 

I personally love a little pot belly on a guy. for me it's a sign of contentment and yes it's lovely to pat and cuddle upto. 

please can I ask if you are open with your friends and family about your love of a fuller figure? 

 

I do partipate in the eating but to a much lesser extent. My focus is on the woman and her pleasure. However, I do love good food and I'm not going to deny myself.

I didn't used to be open about it and when I was young I was quite embarrassed about it. Now that I'm more mature, I do not hide it at all and share with those who ask or are interested.

 

[Monkey]

12 minutes ago, tillymint said:

I hate buying chocolate and sweets for somebody knowing that they won't eat them. if you give some of my girlfriend's a box of chocolates....you get them back as a gift several months later! and my friends are tiny slender things who could eat the chocolates and not worry about it. 

yes that was a good explanation with regards to the gaining thankyou x 

with regards to 'being in the weight closet' I completely understand that it's rather difficult to break convention and with regards to gaining it must be very difficult to broach the subject with your girlfriends. although if your preference for weight and gaining is lower than the average curvage user, perhaps in your case there is no need to rock the boat? 

you sound like a lovely person thank you for your thoughtful answer ☺

 

Exactly however the idea of its being a taboo things makes its better in some ways. Like the idea that its naughty and bad to let loss or pig out is part of the experience and makes it enjoyable on both sides.

I guess not rocking the boat is what I do as it doesn't come up really I just see it as I have a bigger opportunity to meet women as I'm not arbitrarily restricting my preference over something that I think is silly like weight. I just find it disheartening some times when women criticize and are harsh on themselves for no reason when really they are actually very attractive but they've put on weight or just are heavier than average. If like you said they could only find out that people either find it attractive or its actually really not that big of a problem at all.