Seeking an old article by a lesbian encourager

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More than a year ago I read an article by a lesbian about her feedism.  She likes to see women gain weight, though not more than they're comfortable with, and it's generally been accepted by her partners.  She likened the experience of admitting this aspect of her to the experience of "coming out", as if the lesbianism was normal compared to it.  Overall it was a lovely article, positive, personal, demystifying and the perfect antidote to all the scare pieces about tyrant feeders and fat dying women.  

And now I can't find the bloody thing.  Does anyone remember it or have a link to it?