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There was a time when I just liked "BBWs", say, when I was 13ish and finally had the teen's porn trinity: privacy, computer, internet. It wasn't something I examined, and not something I pursued in "real life". My preferences froze there for about ten years.

Within the past year however I've seen my tastes take off with the discovery of sites like Curvage, FF, or tumblr. Women I used to think were near ideal aren't "big enough" now, or I find myself interested in aspects of feederism/fatfetishism that I wasn't before like feeder/feedee relationships etc

so my question: did your preferences plateau at some point after exposure to feederism (a blanket term in using to describe all fat-fetishism or fat admiration) or do you find your tastes and preferences continuing to, I dunno, get bigger?

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I think like most of us on here, I definately have my limits. Too much is just too much sometimes. But as I have always been in to chubby girls, I have definately developed a taste for larger and larger girls over the years. I also have developed a kink for women gaining weight. It doesn't have to be a crap load, but it has become exciting and erotic for me. It seems everyones sexual palette grows and/or changes over their lifetime.

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I still like smaller ladies with curves. I have a wide range, and you have to be pretty thin to be "not big enough."

Looking at women on the internet has taught me to like all sorts of women, including some SSBBWs. There is a plateau for me. With porn, some people need more and more stimulation... I don't.

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I guess what I'm getting at is, I'm kinda concerned about where my tastes will take me. Again what I'm asking is not about other peoples preferences but that regardless of what those preferences are, are they still within a "range" of near what you started with once being exposed to this community -or- do you find yourself getting deeper and deeper?

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For me, it is specific shapes and proportions that get me going rather than a given size, though I have found that over the years the maximum size I find attractive within that description has definitely increased from BBW to SSBBW. Though as my particular set of fetishes includes the weight gain aspect, even though I might find a smaller BBW definitely attractive, I would still fantasize about her getting bigger.

All that being said, as my wife hasn't agreed to intentionally gain and probably doesn't want to ever get into SSBBW territory (though she has come a long way in accepting the unintentional gain that has happened over the last few years and definitely hasn't slowed down on the leftover Halloween candy), the bigger end of what attracts me is still purely fantasy.

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I think my taste has shifted towards bigger, too. 

I've dated a few girls around 250, and I've dated one around 170, and another couple of flings around 300-350.

I think my ideal now is probably upper 200s to low 300s.

But I also dated a girl who was ~250 for several years, and maybe the familiarity with her size has made me realize that I want a little more on a person. Like, it wasn't so much dissatisfied with that, but the idea that like "okay, this is great...kinda wanna see what more is like" and maybe that push to see if I do have an upper limit. I guess it's kind of like calibrating, and I want to get like a ball park range of what I physically like to work with.

I think my original ideal was just "bigger than me" before I dated anyone who fit that description, but now that's kind of shifted since I have some idea of what works with me and a partner, and what I'm looking for.

As for just looking/admiring/fantasy, I know that a lot of 400-500+ models I'm absolutely gaga over. But, I've never had an opportunity to date someone that big, so I dunno if it would work...but I would be pretty excited to find out, at the same time. 

So, I guess right now, there's an upward trend from me, but I'm also pretty sure that it will plateau off somewhere when I decide what I am really looking for in a partner and getting into the real reality of it all, as opposed to just idly browsing and fantasizing, if that makes sense.

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My sweet spot has shifted from 250 lbs to 300  once my wife got almost up to 250 and I sort of got it confirmed that 50 pounds more would just make things even better. I don't think I'll ever cross 350 lbs as a realistic preference. Actually, at 250 (5'7") I'd say a woman in the shape I like has everything she needs, another 50 lbs is just a little "upgrade".

Unfortunately, from the recent developments it seems that my lady is going to get rather smaller than bigger. So I'm trying to focus more on appreciating the "chubby" sizes as well ;). Good thing is I can adapt within that scope to a certain extent...

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I guess what I'm getting at is, I'm kinda concerned about where my tastes will take me. Again what I'm asking is not about other peoples preferences but that regardless of what those preferences are, are they still within a "range" of near what you started with once being exposed to this community -or- do you find yourself getting deeper and deeper?

Sorry....thought this was needed for a reference point....

I Like short women 5' 1" - 5' 4" typically.... curvy hourglass & pear shape when they get heavier!

I use to think 150 Lbs. was fairly Fat for me when I was younger.  Most girls this height looked pretty chunky around 130 Lbs. to most people.

then

let's say 5' 3"  180 Lbs. was Fat enough for me.

then

200 Lbs.

It has a lot to do with there figure, how much Fat they have and bone structure....  but also about how sexy they are.

Nowadays I can still appreciate 150-180 Lbs. at that height but I try to envision those women and my wife with an extra 50-100 Lbs. and where it would all go to their figures.

Looking at site like this one, FF and others I find myself these days craving for  women 300+ Lbs. although I have never been with a women that heavy but I certainly .....in a slight fantasy world.... dream of my wife being that big or close.

I do think there is a ceiling with me but I will have to wait and see......with that said if you asked me 15 years ago if I would desire or crave a women 300+ Lbs. I would have never believed it.

So.... I use to think 150 Lbs. was Fat now I crave 300+ Lbs........and even kind of dream of my 5' 3" wife tipping the scales at 300 Lbs.  I guess I have had a pretty big swing!  I guess you could say I have gone DEEP....who know's if it will get deeper and deeper.

Still with all that said I can appreciate modest gains and women who are just slightly overweight but definitely would always love to see more weight on them. 

I think seeing these beautiful women 300+ Lbs. and higher on line kind of skews our vision for wanting more Lbs..  Also there are certain times where I look at my wife who has been gaining weight over the last several months and is probably 170+ Lbs. currently and see her next to a few thinner friends and look at her as being really big and Fat.....and then other times she look's totally skinny to me and I dream of her fattening up 50-100 Lbs. as quick as she can.  It is all perspective and weight gain kink times I guess.

Also,  on a slightly different note.....as time has gone on this fetish has developed more into weight gain on myself....mostly because of a lack of weight gain on my wife at the time and fulfilling this fetish somehow.....and also Mutual gaining is a huge desire I have these days.

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Hm. Yes, to some extent my preferences shot through the roof for a while, starting at around 130- barely chubby, (I like short ladies.) and is now around 260.

Random semi off-topic story about preferences follows:

I went out with someone at around 150lbs for several years. She put weight on over that period (and was only 5'2) so got prety curvy. I enjoyed it, but I always felt like I needed more- more power in a woman, more solidly built but still feminine.

Then I met the woman who was to be my future wife. When we met, she was around 220lbs. At her heaviest she was 276lbs. She has a rack that you'd fall into and may never escape from, a tummy that I just can't let go of 6 years later, and an arse that makes jeans scream.

Now the interesting part.

When we met, she weighed 220lbs.  She was classically curvy. There's sexual desire, and she looks tasty, but still feels a tad under what I liked.

The christmas before we wed, she weighed 276lbs. At this weight she drove me insane. I could not look at her without losing my words. Sounds great right? but then I realised something. At this weight, I was addicted to her being bigger, and I had begun to fetishise her. I actually didn't make this connection until just a few nights ago.

When we got married, she weighed 260, down from her heaviest. Her figure at this point was absolutely perfect. I know "perfect" doesn't exist but I truly feel I am the luckiest man alive and have got my perfect woman. Her hips are wide and powerful, thick milky thighs, and a tummy that pokes out far enough for her breasts to rest on. It's just large and full enough to get me looking in awe. Her bottom was, still, making jeans scream, only it was a little bigger than when we met and was well within my preferred range. I'd discovered just how much I loved plump arms at this point as hers were large and very very tasty.

She then lost weight, down to around 240 I guess. I'm absolutely happy for her to do what she needs to to be happy. At 240 her tummy, thighs and arms were all smaller with a slightly deflated look. They still look incredibly yummy, but inside I yearned for the full look that she had on our wedding day. This is greedy of me but there's no point in hiding what I like.

I was lucky enough that just 5 weeks ago we decided to take a three week "No diet, lets see what happens" break. It lasted 2 weeks. I've never known anybody put on 14lbs in 2 weeks, but you could see her old figure returning day by day and it was fun.

To this day, I prefer her at 260 with her full tummy, plump arms and general killer figure. If she were to go up, I'd have a bloody great time with it, but it might get a little too sexualised and I'd be happy with her staying at 260.

Of course, she wants to go down, which is fine too. It cannot be said that I will not miss that "perfect" figure, but it's not a problem either- If something meant that her chubby bits were removed I'd still love that fecker to bits.

Another thing: I wasn't looking for her, she just turned up. On youtube. Living 5 minutes from my house.

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Hm. Yes, to some extent my preferences shot through the roof for a while, starting at around 130- barely chubby, (I like short ladies.) and is now around 260.

Random semi off-topic story about preferences follows:

I went out with someone at around 150lbs for several years. She put weight on over that period (and was only 5'2) so got prety curvy. I enjoyed it, but I always felt like I needed more- more power in a woman, more solidly built but still feminine.

Then I met the woman who was to be my future wife. When we met, she was around 220lbs. At her heaviest she was 276lbs. She has a rack that you'd fall into and may never escape from, a tummy that I just can't let go of 6 years later, and an arse that makes jeans scream.

Now the interesting part.

When we met, she weighed 220lbs.  She was classically curvy. There's sexual desire, and she looks tasty, but still feels a tad under what I liked.

The christmas before we wed, she weighed 276lbs. At this weight she drove me insane. I could not look at her without losing my words. Sounds great right? but then I realised something. At this weight, I was addicted to her being bigger, and I had begun to fetishise her. I actually didn't make this connection until just a few nights ago.

When we got married, she weighed 260, down from her heaviest. Her figure at this point was absolutely perfect. I know "perfect" doesn't exist but I truly feel I am the luckiest man alive and have got my perfect woman. Her hips are wide and powerful, thick milky thighs, and a tummy that pokes out far enough for her breasts to rest on. It's just large and full enough to get me looking in awe. Her bottom was, still, making jeans scream, only it was a little bigger than when we met and was well within my preferred range. I'd discovered just how much I loved plump arms at this point as hers were large and very very tasty.

She then lost weight, down to around 240 I guess. I'm absolutely happy for her to do what she needs to to be happy. At 240 her tummy, thighs and arms were all smaller with a slightly deflated look. They still look incredibly yummy, but inside I yearned for the full look that she had on our wedding day. This is greedy of me but there's no point in hiding what I like.

I was lucky enough that just 5 weeks ago we decided to take a three week "No diet, lets see what happens" break. It lasted 2 weeks. I've never known anybody put on 14lbs in 2 weeks, but you could see her old figure returning day by day and it was fun.

To this day, I prefer her at 260 with her full tummy, plump arms and general killer figure. If she were to go up, I'd have a bloody great time with it, but it might get a little too sexualised and I'd be happy with her staying at 260.

Of course, she wants to go down, which is fine too. It cannot be said that I will not miss that "perfect" figure, but it's not a problem either- If something meant that her chubby bits were removed I'd still love that fecker to bits.

Another thing: I wasn't looking for her, she just turned up. On youtube. Living 5 minutes from my house.

Great story!  How tall is your wife?  Also,  I feel the same as you.... and you described it perfectly......with her loss of weight all her body parts that you love looked slightly deflated.  I have experienced this several times with my wife and that is the best description for the look.  When my wife is gaining weight its almost like I can't take my eyes of of her.....but on the flip side when she is losing weight I almost don't want to look because it gets kind of sad and then turns to depressing when you remember all the fullness and Fat they used to have.  Along the same lines while my wife is gaining I love watching her eat and snack and dream of where all those extra calories will be showing up on her figure......and then when losing I cant bear to watch her smaller portions and not snack as much.

That's why in some weird way I can almost dream as if it is real and know that I will love every square inch of my wife if she fattened to 300 Lbs.  Even though that is still so far away.  Some people might think wow over 100 extra Lbs. but in my eyes I know how her figure grows and I have seen before and afters of other women that have gained that much or close and to me it doesn't look that extreme most of the time. 

I would love to hear more about your wife and her gaining!

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Lost, if you ask most people as they age with any preference or fetish, you'll find that tastes become more specific or extreme over time.  It's a bedrock principle, in fact, for serial killers and such--so much that it's pretty much standard fare now on certain TV shows.  People in general do not make the jump to more normal sexuality, I think simply because of poor reasoning and a lack of courage.  But I think your observation is quite common and that your concern is merited.  You might choose to modify your internet activities accordingly.

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There was a similar thread a while back and I posted this:

http://www.highexistence.com/supernatural-stimuli-comic/

After I stumbled across that comic and the scientific observations contained within, I can't help but think it somehow applies to my preferences.

I still think it's true. As humans, we are always drawn towards bigger and better things from where we currently are. It's ingrained in many cultures (e.g. the american dream of bigger house, nicer car, etc), and I see it as a flat out behavior in people I know (they also tend to have addictive personalities). So, maybe our interest in heaviness grows more and more once we exhaust our current comfort level?

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My tastes have definitely changed. When I was a teen, I told myself I didn't like fat girls, just "normal" girls with a little extra in the hips and thighs. That preference, er, expanded over time, and I now am attracted to much larger ladies. But my changing tastes didn't have much to do with sites like Curvage -- it was more due to women I knew in real life. I do have my limits, but they vary depending on the woman. I've known some girls who look best at 180 and others who are great at 350 and beyond. Lastly, my fantasies are exactly that: fantasies. I can be happy with my woman if she chooses to stop gaining or even lose some weight, though I admit that losing can be a major buzzkill.

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My tastes in women over the years has broadened (pun intended) to say the least. I have always had a thing for a girl that was thick and had a big butt and thighs (ass man for life lol), but my definition of what a big butt is has shifted dramatically as time has gone on. Sometime in high school, I stumbled upon the WG fetish site dimensions.com, and I became enthralled in the detail-enriched stories about girls gaining weight. It became a guilty pleasure to think about the prospect of girls who were already nice and curvy gaining weight and becoming plus sized.

I fell in love with the pear shaped body types most because I love thick thighs, hips and asses. I started to really become attracted to girls that fit that description, and I would admire them from afar (mostly because the ones I found attractive usually already had boyfriends and at the time I was involved in a relationship) My girlfriend at the time was not exactly a size 2 by any means, but she was also not what one would consider a BBW. She had a nice butt and thighs, but she was always so obsessed with losing weight and maintaining her figure. My attempts to get her to gain weight were not really successful.

Since we have broken up, I have only dated girls that are on the plus side, particularly in the upper 200s to low 300s level. The biggest issue I have had is in women that have self-confidence in themselves and accept their size. An even bigger issue is finding women that are okay with the whole feedee/feeder concept. Most i have told are grossed out and just overall against it and find it to be the weirdest thing they have heard.

My ideal situation would be to find a girl with a pretty face, slim with a slight pear shape or hourglass figure that loves to eat and doesn't mind gaining weight, but that seems to be asking for too much. So for now, I just try to find girls that already have the body type I want and hope that they share some of my likes and can hold a conversation.

As far as the question, I am not sure if my sexual preferences will ever plateau, but I do know that since I have gotten into the Feederism/FA community, my tastes have definitely changed.

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