The Difference between FAs and Feeders
I started this as a thread and it wound up being so long it was more like a blog post, I don't know, I've been thinking about this for a long time. I REALLY REALLY encourage comments!!!
I have been a FA for as long as I can remember. Weight gain is not anywhere near necessary and I actually really prefer "naturally fat" people who were chubby even as children, it's not a requirement but it is actually a turn off to me if they weren't chubby as children.
Once having a discussion about fetishes a friend said she believed that fetishes were about texture: leather, rubber, she actually wanted to bathe in different kinds of cooked pasta. I found this incredibly interesting! So I had assumed that fat was the texture that FAs fetishized.
I had read weight gain stories about a thin, modelesque girl getting fat and never liked or got turned on by them and considered them "fringe".
Welcome to quarantine boredom and the completion of my tattoos. I wanted to model but because of my drinking (which has been much more manageable since I decided let it become consistent, a whole different story, I don't want to talk about that, my point is I don't really care about food) I'm too fat to be a regular model. I really wanted to do some type of modeling because I really enjoy it. I started just casually posting on another site and my photos and videos were well received and I was guided here.
So finding out HOW MANY- it seems the overwhelming majority- of especially men are into weight GAIN was like being thrown into an ice cold swimming pool. I've been reading posts about it and I still don't understand why
***** especially the people who would never date a chubby person they only want to make a thin person fat****
the gaining thing is so important if not necessary to the point it is someone's whole fetish.
I don't get it -Like at all-
FAs and Feeders are so often lumped together and I think they are a completely different thing. One person can be both, but they are definitely 2 different things.
I pretty much ONLY am attracted to chubby/fat people, when I dated thinner men I would lose interest in sex almost immediately no matter how much I liked them. I consider it a sexuality, like being gay. I hate the idea of thin men gaining or intentional gaining at all.
***To me*** *Pure* Feederism is about power and control. The idea of "ruining" a woman's "perfect" figure. Which I guess is whatever - in the form of fantasy but so many of these guys want to secretly fatten their partners (sick, I'm sorry that is just sick and wrong) in real life. And demand their partners gain for them and it's revolting to me. Like if a thin girl gains weight and gets chubby, especially if you want fast weight gain she will be chubby in a couple months anyway. Meanwhile there are millions of already chubby girls feeling they won't be loved. Why not just date the already chubby girl? I've even seen people say they thought their partner was less attractive after they gained but they were still turned on by the gain. *WHAT?!*
You must understand how little sense this makes? Maybe it's doesn't even make sense to the people with this fetish, I don't know. I'm just very curious if someone can explain it in a way that it's not about control and ruining a woman, because I really think it's about that. And then I feel insensitive because I'm an FA, I should understand but I have a visceral hatred towards people, especially men trying to change or control my appearance.
That said- In my videos I do like to play a submissive part a do gain fantasies and all that. But it's A FANTASY, my husband is not an FA and I am about 15ish lbs heavier than when we met but he would never tell me he couldn't have sex with me because I'm too fat now. Yet feeders feel perfectly reasonable telling women to change their bodies for them. So they can be LESS attractive to other people.To me it's like "the balls on these guys". All this said the gain fantasies are a turn on for me because I still have control. I can choose to be in that mode or not. It's seems for many men on this site even that idea is like "how dare you suggest I not have my exact fantasy ALL the time" when the WOMAN is the one sacrificing everything for the guy to get off.
If I go on this will just devolve into me going on and on about all the sick things I've seen men write on sites like this. And I'm guessing they are writing about them because they are confused or know what they are thinking is messed up and want to find a like-minded person to tell them they are normal?
***Disclaimer*** I am speaking about people who believe it is their right to expect their partner to gain weight. If you are turned on by weight gain whatever. I don't give a shit. But there are enough guys who have asked about pushing it on their partner in threads and stuff. One of whom I wrote a whole essay to, stupidly without checking to see when they were last on and they haven't been on since April ugghhh! And enough people that have tried to push it on me that I'm curious how other people felt about it.
Thoughts?
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